#253 - How to Love Yourself After a Breakup: Repair Your Self-Esteem

Ever feel like your breakup didn’t just end a relationship — it wrecked your self-worth too? If you've been left feeling like a shell of yourself after love falls apart, this episode is for you.

I’m Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, and today on the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’m diving deep into one of the most painful and overlooked parts of breakup recovery: low self esteem after a breakup. I’m sharing the real-deal truth about what happens to your brain, your emotions, and your sense of identity when someone you loved — and maybe bent over backwards for — couldn't (or wouldn’t) love you back.

Through stories, science, and a whole lot of heart, I’ll walk you through the five essential steps to take your power back, stop the self-betrayal spiral, and start rebuilding the self-respect you absolutely deserve. And yes, I answer a powerful listener question that might just be the one you’ve been too afraid to ask out loud.

Listen and learn how to stop tying your worth to someone who walked away — and start writing a better story for yourself.

Timestamps:
00:00 - The Real Reason You Feel So Broken After a Breakup
06:43 - How I became and Accidental Breakup Expert
10:20 - Why It Feels So Hard to Let Go
32:29 - 5 Steps to Rebuild Self-Esteem After a Breakup
52:10 - "I Can't Stop Checking My Ex's Instagram"
1:02:00 - The One Thing That Will Truly Heal You

Struggling with self-love and low self-esteem after a breakup is incredibly painful—but it’s not the end of your story. It’s actually just one piece of a much bigger healing journey.

If you’re wondering where to begin, or whether you’re truly making progress, I have a free resource that can help.

👉 Take the Breakup Quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You?
This quick, insightful quiz will show you what stage of healing you’re in right now—and, more importantly, what your next step needs to be. Whether you're still caught in the swirl of emotions or starting to feel ready for what’s next, this quiz offers compassionate clarity and personalized guidance to help you move forward. No judgment. Just support.

And if you’re ready to talk with someone who truly understands what you’re going through…

👉 Schedule a Free Consultation with a Growing Self Breakup Recovery Expert
Our team of warm, experienced therapists and coaches specialize in helping people navigate the aftermath of heartbreak and rediscover their sense of self.

In your free consultation, you can share what you’ve been going through, ask questions, and explore how we might support your healing process—whether you’re struggling with obsessive thoughts about your ex, self-doubt, guilt, or just want to stop feeling stuck. You're not alone in this, and you don’t have to figure it out all by yourself.

Because healing is possible. Confidence is reclaimable. And love—real, healthy love—including love for yourself—is absolutely within reach.

And you can start today.

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who’s struggling with low self-esteem after a breakup? Be a friend — share this episode with them. You never know how much they need to hear it.