Tue, 15 November 2016
How to Cope With Disappointment
Having your dream crushed can leave you sitting in emotional rubble, feeling disempowered and confused.
Our disappointments have many faces: Causes, or candidates, you believe in get creamed. The most interesting first date you've had in a long time ghosts out. You realize that your partner is never actually going to change. The pink lines of the pregnancy test fade away, and the bleeding begins. Bad things happen to good people. People fail you.
If you get in the ring of life, sooner or later, you're going to take a gut punch.
So how do you keep going? We know that grit — the ability to get back up and continue plodding forward despite adversity — is the ultimate key to success. But It’s hard to maintain your hope and motivation when reality slams the door in your face.
If you've suffered with disappointment lately, here are three ideas that can help, plus the one thing you should definitely avoid doing.
I hope it helps you find peace, strengthen your resolve, and turn your face towards future.
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Wed, 2 November 2016
Overthinking: The Curse of the Most Creative and Intelligent
Really smart, creative, and thoughtful people have many strengths. They can plan things in advance, avoid potential pitfalls, and envision their future reality. Vividly. However one thing I have learned from my years of experience as a therapist and life coach is that all these positive attributes, when left unsupervised, can also create boatloads of anxiety.
Overthinking and Indecision = Disempowerment
When you anticipate possible problems you feel constricted. When you plan every step you often encounter roadblocks. When you want to make the "right" decision before taking action, you invest more time and energy in to thinking than into doing. At these times it's easy to become riddled with uncertainty, and decide before you even try that things aren't even worth doing.
Slam! Analysis paralysis has clamped down on your life, and stopped you from living courageously.
The result? A safe life... But a smaller life.
Authentic Happiness Requires Risk
One of the core skills of authentically happy people that I discuss at length in my online Happiness Class is the ability to take measured risks. Why is the ability to try new things related to happiness? Because when you take action to bring your life into alignment with your core values, it gets better. Another component of fearless living is being able to handle uncertainty or adversity with confidence and competence. That means your happiness is still intact, even when things go differently than you'd hoped. That's true resilience.
Being resilient and trusting yourself means that it's safe to take chances. When you're able to fearlessly try new things, your world expands. When you give yourself permission to take action, you get to learn and grow no matter what. Not knowing exactly what is going to happen next adds sparkle and excitement to your life. When your life gets bigger and more interesting, so do you.
Fearless Living Nourishes Your Relationship
Furthermore, novelty and learning new things are core ingredients to having a fresh, fun long term relationship. When your life atrophies, so does your partnership. If you want to have an interesting relationship, you need to have an interesting life. Plus, there is nothing sexier than a passionate person who is enthusiastic and confident. When you set aside anxieties and allow yourself to live fearlessly, you nourish both yourself and your relationship.
5 Steps to Stop Worrying and Start Living Fearlessly
On today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I'm giving you the scoop on how to release worry from your life, feel more confident in your decisions, strengthen your sense of competence and resilience, and cultivate fearlessness in your own life. Listen now, and learn all about the care and feeding of your inner tiger.
xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Stop_Worrying_and_Start_Living_Fearlessly_-_11216_7.15_AM.mp3
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