Let’s be real — sex with your ex is rarely just about sex. If you’re wrestling with the urge to reconnect physically with your ex after a breakup, or stuck in a situationship with them that feels more painful than healing, this episode is for you.

Today on the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’m getting honest about what’s really going on when you feel the urge to have sex with ex partners. We’ll explore the deeper psychological and biological bonds that make letting go so difficult, and why continuing to have sex with your ex can quietly (but powerfully) sabotage your healing.

You’ll also hear from a listener who’s still living with his ex (and still in love), and we’ll walk through his story together to explore the emotional traps so many of us fall into after a breakup. No judgment here — just clarity, compassion, and a loving reality check.

Whether you're texting, cohabitating, or tangled up in late-night hookups, here’s the truth: the longer you stay in limbo, the more it costs you. You deserve peace, clarity, and a real path forward — and I’m here to help you find it.

Timestamps:

00:00 – The Hook: Why Sex With Your Ex Isn’t Harmless
03:04 – “We’re Broken Up… But Still Living Together”
09:58 – Attachment, Addiction, and Why You Can’t Let Go
12:46 – The Real Reason Ex Sex Keeps You Stuck
27:21 – Power Dynamics, False Hope, and Emotional Self-Betrayal
46:11 – The Way Out: Healing, Boundaries, and Next Steps
51:23 – How to Heal From Heartbreak and Move On

And if you’re feeling seen by this episode, I want you to pause and take a deep breath. You're not alone — and you're definitely not crazy. I’m here for you. I created my Heal From Heartbreak program after working with thousands of people just like you: people in pain, obsessing over their ex, stuck in these same cycles. 

What I saw was that traditional therapy wasn’t always enough to help with heartbreak. People needed a structure. A map. A method. A guided journey from heartbreak to clarity to emotional freedom.

The Heal From Heartbreak program walks you through the nine essential stages of healing, from the early withdrawal phase to rebuilding your identity and learning to love again — for real, this time.

You are worthy of so much more than emotional crumbs. Let’s help you let go — and find the love (and life) you truly deserve. And you can start right now.

Access the Heal From Heartbreak Program

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Want to know how far along you really are in your healing process? Take my free quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You? to get a personalized report on your next steps to healing. And hey — if someone you care about is stuck in this same cycle? Be a lifeline. Share this episode with them.

How do you know if you're with the right person? If your relationship is good but not perfect, is that okay? How do you know if you're settling? When do you invest in a relationship, and when should you bail?

So. Many. Questions.

This angst was captured perfectly by a recent question that someone asked on our Growing Self Facebook page:

"How do you know if you should marry the guy? I’m in my mid twenties and loads of my friends are facing this question, as am I. You’ve been with them a couple years, it’s good but not perfect ... Do you break up and look for more or is he the one?"

On this episode, we're discussing how to figure out if you're compatible, how good is good enough, what things in a relationship can change (and what can't) and the surprising shift in thinking that will help you see the potential of your relationship a different way — for better or for worse.

xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com