Have you ever been in the middle of a therapy session and found yourself silently (or loudly 😂) begging for advice from your therapist? You lay it all out — the overthinking, the relationship questions, the confusion… and they smile gently and say, “Hmm... what do you think you should do?” 😵‍💫

This is an all too common occurrence that can result in confusing, frustrating, and disappointing experiences with therapy. So on this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, we’re going to talk about why your therapist won’t give you advice, what therapists can help you with, and what kind of support will give you the guidance you’re looking for.

Traditional therapy isn’t designed to tell you what to do or how to do it, and if you’re someone who wants clarity, structure, and movement forward… it might be time for a different kind of support. If you’re in therapy and wondering why you still feel stuck, this is an episode you won’t want to miss. 

Timestamps
00:00 – Why therapists don’t give advice (and why that’s intentional)
05:21 – Understanding different types of therapy
15:19 – What coaches do differently (and why it works)
21:52 – How to know what kind of support you need
24:05 – When therapy helps… and when it doesn’t
25:49 – Coaching vs. therapy: what’s right for your goals?
29:44 – Watch out: unqualified “coaches” are everywhere
33:34 – The honest truth about what will actually help you
34:21 – Finding clarity, confidence, and direction
36:38 – Questions to ask before hiring a therapist or coach
45:02 – Feeling stuck in therapy? Say this to your therapist
48:05 – It’s not you, you just need the right support

If you’ve been nodding along while listening to this and thinking, "YES. I need a plan. I need movement. I need someone who gets it", I created Clarity and Confidence Coaching just for you. To meet you where you are right now, help you find clarity for your path forward, and to guide you step-by-step through transformation. 

Right now, you can work with a brilliant therapist trained in coaching psychology for a fraction of what coaching usually costs. You’ll get expert support and a solid framework to actually create meaningful change in your life. And these spots go fast.

👉 Come visit growingself.com/clarity and snag your spot before the cohort fills up.

And hey, if this conversation resonated with you? Come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube. I share interviews with experts, evidence-based tools that actually work, and lots of free resources to help you create love, happiness and success in your life.

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

P.S. Know someone who’s been stuck in therapy wondering where the heck to go from here? Share this episode with them and support them on their journey.

You might look like you’ve got it all together. You show up. You work hard. You smile, you joke, you say you’re “fine.” But inside? You might be carrying more than anyone knows. 

This is especially true for men. You’d never guess it by looking at them, but so many—maybe even someone you love—are silently carrying a weight that feels too heavy to bear. They’re suffering in silence, quietly fighting battles they don’t feel safe talking about. Not because they’re weak—but because the world taught them that real strength means not showing emotion, not needing help, not breaking down. 

In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m joined by Steve Kramer—host of the Certified Mama’s Boy Podcast and the Kramer & Jess Morning Show—for a very important  conversation about the epidemic of men suffering in silence. Steve opens up about the private pain he hid behind a public smile, how disconnection and emotional isolation nearly overwhelmed him, and what helped him begin to heal.

We’re shedding light on the emotional experiences so many men keep hidden—because they’ve never been taught how to talk about them, or even how to recognize what they’re feeling. We’ll talk about the real risks of going it alone, the quiet ways people often show they’re not okay even when they say they are, and how men can get the support they need.

If you or someone you care about has ever felt overwhelmed, stuck, or like you’re barely holding it together behind the scenes, this conversation is for you.

Timestamps:
00:00 – When Life Feels Too Heavy: Steve’s Breaking Point
01:46 – Why Are So Many Men Suffering in Silence?
03:34 – Public Smiles, Private Struggles: The Pressure to Perform
04:21 – When It’s All Too Much
08:17 – The Call That Changed Everything
15:39 – Check On Your “Happy” Friends
23:35 – How to Tell When It’s More Serious Than They’re Saying
35:39 – Loneliness vs. Depression: Understanding the Difference
37:23 – Making Friends as an Adult Is Hard—But Necessary
38:53 – Why Men Struggle With Emotional Intimacy
48:06 – What Emotional Intelligence Really Means (and How to Build It)
55:58 – The Personal Work That Keeps Steve Grounded Today
01:00:35 – How to Support a Loved One Who’s Struggling
01:05:50 – Steve’s New Definition of Happiness

If this hit close to home, it’s time to take a breath and check in—with yourself, or maybe with a man you care about. Struggles that stay hidden don't just go away—they weigh you down over time, and it can start to take a toll on your health, your relationships, your life.

You don’t have to figure it out all on your own. There is space for you to be honest. To get support. To be human. There is help that meets you where you are.

If you’re ready to find your way again, come check out my Clarity and Confidence Coaching. You’ll learn how to reconnect with yourself, get unstuck, and create real momentum in your life. Plus, you’ll pay just a fraction of the cost of other coaches. It’s truly such an amazing value. 

👉 Get on the list to join. Together, we’ll help you build a life that feels more connected, meaningful, and joyful. I hope you check it out!

Also, I’d love to stay connected! Follow me on Instagram and YouTube for more insight, encouragement, and authentic conversations that support your growth. I’d love to connect with you there. 💛

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know a man in your life that could use some support, send this podcast over to them. It could be exactly what they need to take the first step to get support.

What if the “therapist” you’re pouring your heart out to… isn’t a therapist at all?

In this jaw-dropping episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I’m joined by investigative journalists Rebecca Ruiz and Lauren Krause to expose the shocking truth behind Seven Cups Therapy and the dark world of therapy fraud—including unlicensed “helpers,” fake reviews, and predatory chatrooms masquerading as support.

This isn’t just about bad advice or unqualified "virtual counselors." It’s about real people being misled, emotionally exploited, and sometimes even preyed upon while they’re at their most vulnerable. We dive into how this happens, how to protect yourself (or someone you care about), and how to tell the difference between a real therapist and a clever imposter.

If you've ever Googled "online therapy" late at night and clicked on what looked like a trustworthy, affordable platform, you NEED to hear this.

Timestamps:

01:43 - What’s Really Going On with Online Therapy Platforms
03:44 - Seven Cups Therapy: Behind the Curtain
05:21 - Why You Shouldn't Trust Those Awards and Reviews
07:52 - "Virtual Counselors" vs. Actual Therapists
10:45 - How to Spot Therapy Fraud in the Wild
12:50 - Ethical Gray Zones in the Coaching Industry
14:56 - Red Flags of Fake Support Services
18:48 - The Danger of Marketing Funnels Masquerading as Help
21:22 - How Fake Therapy Can Harm Real People
23:02 - The Truth About Licensing, Credentials & Oversight
25:48 - Behind the Scenes at Seven Cups: A Reporter’s Story
28:32 - Inappropriate Chatroom Behavior and No Accountability
37:16 - Free Resources to Help You Make Empowered Choices

If you're looking for actual therapy or coaching from trained, licensed professionals—not a chatbot or a mystery stranger in Timbuktu—you can always find help here at Growing Self. We offer real free consultations so you can find a great fit and know exactly what you're signing up for. No pressure, no weird bait-and-switch. Just ethical, expert support that actually works. 

👉 Click here to schedule! We’d love to hear from you!

And if this episode struck a nerve, or opened your eyes, or made you yell “WAIT, WHAT?!”—come join me on Instagram or YouTube. I break down big topics like this every week. You’ll get expert insights, practical tools, and compassionate advice to help you create love, happiness and success in your life. 

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who needs to hear this episode, share it with them today. Let’s look out for one another. 💛

Ever feel like no matter how hard you try, you’re still not good enough? Like you're outrunning a wolf that lives inside you, always whispering, “You’ve got more to prove”. But what if fear isn’t your enemy? What if it's actually pointing you toward your purpose?

In this deeply transformative conversation with bestselling author Mary Marantz, we explore how the experiences that once made us feel underestimated—and the relentless drive to overachieve—can keep us stuck in cycles of perfectionism, people-pleasing, and fear-fueled productivity. 

Mary and I unpack the myths of not-enoughness, talk about the parts of ourselves that try to protect us from failure, and offer a new path forward: one where your gifts and your story become your superpowers. Get ready to look at fear differently, reclaim your confidence, and learn to move forward—not from a place of proving, but from a place of purpose.

Timestamps:
00:00 – Why You're Still Not Enough (Even After All the Achievements)
02:01 – Mary’s Story: From Single-Wide Trailer to Yale Law
03:55 – Why Fear Isn’t the Villain You Think It Is
06:14 – The Power of Owning Your Hard Story
14:15 – When Fear Shows Up, You're Closer Than You Think
18:06 – Creativity, Fear, and the Impostor Trap
24:27 – What To Do With Fear When It Gets Loud
29:23 – Catching Fear in the Act
30:35 – A Totally Different Kind of Coaching
36:01 – Your Inner Critic Isn’t Evil—It's Trying to Protect You
39:24 – Procrastination, Perfectionism, and Productivity Traps
45:55 – Underestimated: When They Miss Your Magic (and You Do, Too)
55:58 – Make Art Anyway: Excellence Without Validation
57:02 – Finding Clarity and Confidence

If you feel like you’re hustling for your worth—trying to prove something to someone, maybe even to yourself—it might be time for a new approach. I created Clarity and Confidence Coaching for exactly this purpose—to support brilliant, driven people just like you in shedding their limiting beliefs, getting clear on their direction, and moving forward into their dream life with confidence. 

Clarity and Confidence Coaching is an incredible 8-week journey led by my team of trained therapist-coaches. It’s evidence-based, transformational, and wildly affordable — just $49/session right now as part of our practicum program.

You’ll be guided with depth and care and use life changing coaching strategies to rewrite your inner script and start taking action — from your strengths, not your fear.

👉 Book a free consultation to learn more and reserve your spot: Schedule Here

And hey — let’s stay connected. Follow me on Instagram or subscribe on YouTube for more empowering content to help you grow.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who feels like they’re not enough, even though they’re secretly incredible? Share this with them. You might be the reason they finally see what’s been true all along. 💛

What if the secret to living your best life... is remembering that it won’t last forever?

In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m joined by author and mindset coach Karen Salmansohn to explore how the ancient principle of memento mori—remembering that you will die—can radically transform the way you live right now. 

Together, we unpack how mortality awareness isn’t morbid at all—it’s deeply motivational. When you get clear on what truly matters, you can stop spinning your wheels and start living for meaning with clarity, courage, and joy.

We’ll explore identity-based habits, reverse-engineering your values, and how writing your own eulogy (yep, really!) can actually help you build a life you’re proud to live. This isn’t about bucket lists or productivity hacks—it’s about being intentional and making sure your time, energy, and love are going exactly where you want them to.

Timestamps:
0:00 – The Problem With To-Do Lists
3:12 – Facing the Funeral Test: What Will They Say About You?
6:38 – Memento Mori: Mortality as a Motivator
15:05 – Identity-Based Habits and Core Values
20:44 – Who Do You Need to Become?
24:18 – A Ripple Effect That Lasts Generations
27:35 – Aristotle’s Happiness Formula
32:10 – The Near-Life Experience We Must Escape
36:42 – Your “To-Die” List vs Your To-Do List
40:55 – Creating Daily Habits That Reflect Who You Want to Be
44:00 – What Happens When You Align With Your Core Values
47:26 – The Marble Ritual: Measuring Time With Intention
53:18 – Monthly Reflections and Making This Summer Count
58:01 – Why Fun and Gratitude Are Core Values Too
1:02:20 – It’s Not About Death—It’s About Life
1:07:08 – How to Start Living for Meaning Now

Don’t wait for a crisis to wake you up. Choose to wake up now. Live for meaning. Be intentional. Remember that life is short, and that’s what makes it beautiful.

And if you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed by where to begin, I’d love to help. My Clarity and Confidence Coaching was made for moments just like this one. In this powerful work, you’ll reconnect with your deepest values, rediscover your purpose, and learn how to make intentional choices that move you toward the life you truly want.

Whether you’re navigating a big life transition or simply ready to stop running on autopilot, coaching gives you tools, insight, and support to create lasting, meaningful change.

Curious if it’s right for you? You can schedule a free consultation with our team. We’ll talk about where you are, where you want to go, and how clarity and confidence coaching can help you bridge the gap.

Also, come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube — I’m always sharing tips, inspiration, and behind-the-scenes real talk to help you stay connected to what really matters.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If this message resonated with you, think of someone in your life who might need to hear it too. Forward this article to them. Let’s keep the ripple going. That’s living for meaning, too.

Ever looked around and thought, “I hate my life… I don’t want to do this anymore”?

If that’s where you are right now—first of all, I’m giving you a big virtual hug.

Second of all, you’re not broken, you’re not failing, and you’re on the right track. This moment could be the best thing that’s happened to you in a long time. Why? Because that awful, burn-it-all-down energy can also be your launchpad to something way, way better.

In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I’ll walk you through my step-by-step process to help you stop spiraling, get clear, and create a life you’re genuinely excited to wake up to.

It’s time to harness the power of that personal meltdown and turn it into the catalyst for a total life upgrade.

Timestamps:
0:00 – The “I Hate My Life” Moment: Why It’s Actually a Gift
2:36 – Your Inner Flare Gun: Pain as Your Wake-Up Call
5:20 – Step 1: Get Honest About What’s Not Working
8:12 – Step 2: Define What You Do Want (With Real Specifics)
12:47 – Step 3: The Real Reason You’re Stuck—Obstacles and Skills Gaps
17:09 – Step 4: Ask the Power Question That Changes Everything
21:42 – Step 5: Build Your Action Plan (One Small Step at a Time)
25:33 – When It’s More Than Frustration: Signs of Depression & What To Do
30:55 – What Comes Next: From Stuck to Strategy

If you’re sitting there thinking, "Yes. This is exactly where I am and I’m ready to change," I want you to know: you don’t have to figure this out alone.

My Clarity and Confidence Coaching is designed for moments just like this. We’ll help you get unstuck, gain clarity on what you really want, identify obstacles (including sneaky internal ones), and create a plan that actually works.

The best part? You can book a free consultation call right now to save your seat in the next coaching cohort and see if this program is a good fit for your hopes and goals. You’ll get to work with one of our expert therapists trained in coaching psychology at a fraction of the normal cost. Because money should never be the thing that keeps you stuck.

Oh! And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram or subscribe on YouTube. I share interviews with experts, motivational tips, and evidence-based strategies to create love, happiness, and success in your life. I’d love to see you there.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone else who's silently thinking “I hate my life”? Be their light today. Share this video with them. You might just change everything. 💫

Let’s be honest: if overthinking were an Olympic sport, I would’ve medaled by age ten. And attempts to stop overthinking often never work or they unintentionally make it worse. You too? Then friend, you’re in the right place.

As a therapist and coach, I’ve worked with thousands of thoughtful, high-achieving, big-hearted humans who are amazing at thinking things through—but sometimes that superpower turns into a mental trap. The good news? You can absolutely re-train your brain to work for you instead of against you. 

In this episode, we’ll talk about what overthinking really is, how it’s different from anxiety, and the science-backed skills you can start using today to stop overthinking so you can finally find peace, trust yourself, and move forward with clarity and confidence.

Timestamps:
00:00 – Understanding Overthinking: The Basics
01:23 – When Caring Becomes Overthinking: Personality Traits That Fuel It
03:06 – Is It Anxiety or Just Overthinking? Here’s How to Tell
06:11 – 3 Steps to Stop Overthinking and Rewire Your Brain
09:52 – Overthinking in Relationships: How to Stop the Spiral
14:53 – Mastering Emotional Intelligence to Calm Your Mind
16:43 – When to Get Help: Coaching, Therapy, and Real Solution

If you're not totally sure why you're stuck in your head all the time, my free quiz What’s Holding You Back? is the perfect next step. It’ll help you uncover the mental and emotional patterns that might be fueling your overthinking—and give you personalized insight to start shifting out of it. Think of it like a flashlight for your inner world.

And if you’re ready for real change, you don’t have to figure this out alone. At Growing Self, our team of expert therapists and coaches offers support that’s actually effective. Whether you need therapy to tackle deeper anxiety or evidence-based coaching to build confidence and emotional intelligence, schedule a free consultation with us to get matched with someone who’s a great fit for you. No pressure. Just help.

Lastly, let’s stay connected! I’m always sharing new tools, insights, and behind-the-scenes goodies on Instagram and YouTube. Follow me there for weekly insights and support on your growth journey.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone whose brain just won’t shhh lately? Be a good friend and share this episode with them. It might be exactly what they need today. 💛

There are few questions more terrifying, more soul-shaking, or more likely to keep you awake at 3 a.m. than this one: How to know when your marriage is over? I mean… whew. Just saying that out loud makes my stomach flip.

As a licensed marriage and family therapist, I’ve walked this path with many people, and in this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’ll help you walk through it too—with clarity, compassion, and courage.

Today we’re unpacking the hidden signs, hard truths, and hopeful possibilities around one of life’s biggest crossroads. We’ll talk about the difference between a rough patch and a dead end, what to do if your partner won’t engage, and how to get the real support you need to move forward confidently—whether that means healing your relationship or letting it go.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Is It Over? The Emotional Toll of Not Knowing
02:47 – When Your Relationship Lives in the Gray Zone
10:40 – Why "Couples Counseling" Often Doesn’t Work—and What Does
31:02 – What Is Discernment Coaching, and How Can It Help?
49:41 – Free Resources + Your Next Right Step

I’ve put together a free resource that might help you take the next step: my How Healthy Is Your Relationship? Quiz. It’s a quick and insightful tool that can help you see where things are strong, where they’re struggling, and what might be possible. You’ll also get a custom report with suggestions you can actually use. You can find the quiz right here on my website.

If you're ready to talk to someone about your relationship — whether you're hoping to repair it or just looking for clarity — my team and I are here. You can book a free consultation call and we’ll help you find the right next step, whether that’s discernment coaching, relationship therapy, or support just for you.

And hey — I’d love to stay connected. You can find me on Instagram and YouTube where I’m always sharing tips, tools, and a little bit of love to help you create the life and relationships you deserve.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who’s going through this exact same thing? Maybe they’re stuck in the gray zone too, or quietly suffering through something they haven’t told anyone about. Please send this their way. You never know — sharing this episode might be the first step toward their healing.

Ever feel like your ex is living rent-free in your head, even though the relationship is so over? Whether it’s been weeks, months, or (gulp) years since your breakup, if you’re wondering “Why do I keep thinking about my ex?” and you’re still caught in a loop of thoughts, memories, or even fantasies about them, I made this episode just for you.

I know firsthand — both as a therapist and from my own experience — that getting stuck on an ex is exhausting. But there is a path forward. In this episode of Love, Happiness and Success, I’m walking you through exactly why this happens (spoiler alert: it’s not your fault — it’s biology), and more importantly, how to finally break free so you can move forward into peace, clarity, and emotional freedom.

Timestamps:
00:00 – Why Do I Keep Thinking About My Ex?
06:30 – Love and Addiction: Your Brain on Heartbreak
14:58 – The Truth About Breakup Recovery
28:17 – Emotional Loose Ends: The Silent Saboteur
38:05 – Rebuilding Your Self & Reclaiming Your Future
48:14 – You’re Not Doomed to Keep Thinking About Your Ex

If your ex is still living rent-free in your mind, please know you don’t have to stay stuck here.

The first step to getting your power back is understanding exactly where you are in your healing process. That’s why I created a free tool just for you.

👉 Take the Breakup Quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You? In just a few minutes, this quiz will show you which stage of healing you’re in — and what specific steps will help you move forward. Whether you're still in emotional withdrawal or starting to let go, you'll get personalized insight and a roadmap for what to do next.

And, if you're tired of spinning in circles, overthinking every memory, every mistake, every what-if — you don’t have to navigate this alone. Sometimes, the fastest way to start feeling better is simply talking to someone who truly gets it. Our team at Growing Self includes licensed therapists and breakup recovery coaches who specialize in this kind of healing work.

👉 Schedule a Free Consultation — to talk to one of the experts on our team and take the next brave step toward peace, healing, and freedom.

You deserve to feel like yourself again. And yes, it’s absolutely possible to stop thinking about your ex — not because you forced yourself to forget, but because you’ve grown into someone who no longer needs to hold on.

And you can start your healing today.

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who keeps spiraling over their ex, share this with them. Forward the link, post it on your story, or send them a little nudge. Be the friend who helps them start healing.

Ever wake up at 3am thinking, “What am I doing with my life?” If so, you are not alone—and you are definitely not lost. In this inspiring episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m joined by bestselling author, NYU professor, and former editor-in-chief of the Harvard Business Review, Suzy Welch, to help you get the career clarity and alignment that you deserve.

Suzy shares her personal journey of reinvention and introduces her life-changing methodology from her new book, Becoming You. This isn’t just motivational fluff. We’re talking concrete tools and research-backed frameworks to help you get clarity around your path, stop second-guessing yourself, and make empowered choices about your life and career—without burning it all down.

Timestamps:
00:00 – “What Am I Doing With My Life?"
02:20 – Suzy Welch’s Story
05:55 – Discovering Your Real Values
14:57 – What to Do When the Lighthouse Goes Dark
29:35 – The 3-Part Framework That Changes Lives
35:23 – The Value of “Scope”: Big Life vs. Little Life
40:13 – Eudemonia and Generational Differences
43:35 – Aptitudes, Personality, and the Enneagram
47:23 – Don’t Quit the Job Yet: Is It the Role or the Culture?
52:45 – Conclusion and Final Thoughts

I hope this episode inspired you as much as it did me. And I want you to know you don’t have to figure this out on your own. Our Clarity and Confidence Coaching pairs you with an expert therapist trained in coaching psychology to help you uncover your purpose, break through fear and confusion, and take decisive steps toward a fulfilling career. 

You can schedule a free consultation to talk to an expert on our team. No pressure, just a warm, judgment-free conversation with someone who truly understands. This is your moment to stop second-guessing and start moving forward — with clarity, courage, and real support.

And hey — if you’re not already following me on Instagram or YouTube, come say hi! I’m always sharing bite-sized wisdom, clips from interviews with experts, and free resources to support you on your journey to love, happiness, and success.

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. If you thought of someone while listening to this—someone who’s been feeling lost or unclear about their career path—share this episode with them. It might be exactly the breakthrough they need.

Have you ever caught yourself reaching for a glass of wine, scrolling endlessly, or obsessively organizing your to-do list… and thought, Wait, why am I doing this again?! You might not think of yourself as "addicted" — but what if you’re using these “fixes” to soothe something deeper?

In today’s episode, I’m sitting down with the incredible Ian Morgan Cron — bestselling author, psychotherapist, and spiritual teacher — to unpack a radical idea: We’re all a little bit addicted. 

Whether it’s people-pleasing, overworking, or that toxic relationship you just can't quit, we’re diving deep into why we get stuck, how the 12-step process can change your life (even if you don’t have a “capital A” addiction), and how to truly heal from the inside out.

You’ll walk away with a totally new roadmap for transformation — and trust me, by the end of this episode, you’re going to feel empowered, enlightened, and ready to love yourself and your life in a whole new way. Let’s do this!

Timestamps:
00:00 – Why You Keep Going Back to Your "Fix"
01:21 – Meet Ian Morgan Cron: Author, Therapist, Spiritual Teacher
01:45 – The 12 Steps: Not Just for “Addicts” Anymore
07:55 – What the Enneagram Reveals About You
11:46 – Applying the 12 Steps to Everyday Life
24:57 – The Freedom in Admitting You're Powerless
40:40 – Feeling “Not at Home” in Yourself?
41:36 – The Dangerous Myth of the "Quick Fix"
44:37 – The Paradox of Letting Go and Taking Responsibility
53:13 – Addictions, Trauma, and the Road to Compassion
56:51 – Real Stories of Radical Transformation
59:50 – You Are Not Alone: Why Community Heals
1:11:19 – Next Steps for Your Healing Journey

If you found yourself nodding along today — realizing that maybe, just maybe, there’s a “fix” that’s been holding you back — I've got the perfect next step for you. Take my free What's Holding You Back? Quiz! It’s designed to help you get crystal clear on the hidden patterns, habits, or beliefs that might be quietly running the show in your life. Once you see what’s really going on beneath the surface, it becomes so much easier to break free and move forward with confidence, clarity, and strength.

And if you're ready for even deeper growth, let’s talk! Schedule a free consultation with one of the talented coaches or therapists at Growing Self. We'll help you put everything you’re learning into action — so you can finally create the joyful, thriving life you deserve.

Oh, and don’t forget — let's stay connected! Come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube for more real talk, fresh inspiration, and plenty of support. We're in this together.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. If you thought of someone while listening to this episode — maybe a friend who’s been struggling or could just use a little love and insight — Please share this episode with them. A little encouragement can change everything.

What if your anxiety, brain fog, or mood swings aren’t in your mind... but in your mitochondria?

I know—that sounds wild. But in this jaw-dropping episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I’m talking with Dr. Bret Scher about something that completely changed the way I think about mental health: Metabolic Psychiatry.

We dive into the cutting-edge (but surprisingly old!) science behind mind and energy psychiatry  that connects mental health challenges like depression, anxiety, ADHD, and even serious psychiatric conditions with how your body uses energy. Spoiler alert: your brain runs on fuel, and what you eat matters a lot more than we were taught in grad school.

Together, Dr. Scher and I unpack how ketogenic therapy is helping people reclaim their mental clarity, lift mood disorders, and, in some cases, experience complete transformation. If you’ve been “doing the work” and still not feeling like yourself, this conversation might be the missing piece you’ve been searching for.

Timestamps:
00:00 The Link Between Metabolism and Mental Health
01:17 Dr. Brett Scher and Metabolic Psychiatry
02:39 The History and Science Behind Ketogenic Therapy
10:36 Exploring the Ketogenic Diet and Its Benefits
17:59 Implementing a Ketogenic Diet
30:32 Patient Transformations and Success Stories
32:23 Impact of Ketogenic Diet on Mental Health
33:35 Inflammation and Brain Function
34:46 Ketogenic Therapy vs. Traditional Approaches
39:11 GLP-1 Drugs and Metabolic Health
42:42 Implementing Dietary Changes in Families
46:01 Ketogenic Diet for Autism Spectrum Disorders
49:27 Comparing Ketogenic and Plant-Based Diets
52:23 Resources and Final Thoughts

I learned SO much from chatting with Dr. Scher. I hope you did too. If you're ready for a more personalized approach to start feeling like yourself again—clear, focused, calm, and energized—I’d love for you to check out my Clarity & Confidence Coaching. It’s a powerful way to build self-awareness and make meaningful changes in your life while getting expert support and structure from a licensed therapist trained in coaching psychology. You can book a free consultation call to take the next step. We’ll answer all of your questions and help you get started. 

And hey, let’s stay connected! You can find me sharing more science-meets-heart insights over on Instagram and YouTube—where I drop fresh content every week to help you grow, thrive, and live your best life.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you thought of someone while listening to this—someone who’s been struggling, or who’s always trying to "fix their mindset" but nothing’s working—share this episode with them. It might be exactly the breakthrough they need.

Ever feel like you’ve been in therapy forever and nothing’s actually changing? Or maybe you have a life coach that loves to just hang out and vibe instead of actually helping you reach your goals? 

In this eye-opening episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on something that has been driving me absolutely bonkers for years—and might be costing you time, money, and progress. If you’ve ever felt stuck in therapy, underwhelmed by coaching, or just totally confused about which path is right for your growth, this one’s for you.

I’m talking about the real difference between coaching versus counseling, why one might be the wrong fit for what you actually need, and how to finally choose the right support system that gets results (without wasting another minute or dollar).

Whether you're working on your relationship, your career, or your confidence, this episode will help you get clarity around your path forward.

Timestamps:
00:00 Unveiling a Hidden Industry Secret
01:35 The Therapy Gap: Why Traditional Methods Fall Short
06:18 Understanding the Different Types of Therapy
23:34 The Rise of Coaching: A New Solution?
24:26 The Wild West of Coaching: Risks and Realities
34:31 Finding the Right Help: Therapy vs. Coaching
38:29 Evidence-Based Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program
45:54 Conclusion and Next Steps

If you’re nodding along and thinking, “Yes, this is what I’ve been missing,” I’d love to invite you into our Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program. This is a results-driven, action-oriented coaching experience designed for people who are ready to make real changes—not just talk about them.

What makes it different? It’s led by licensed therapists who are trained in evidence-based coaching psychology—so you get both the depth and the direction. No fluff. No therapy traps. Just growth that actually sticks.

Schedule a free consultation call to see if it’s a good fit. We’ll talk about what you’re working on, where you feel stuck, and how we can help you move forward with clarity and confidence.

If you want to keep learning and growing, I’d love to connect with you on Instagram and  YouTube! Come hang out with me and get tons of free insights and encouragement every week.

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who’s stuck in therapy, overwhelmed by coaching options, or just craving something real? Share this video with them. You might just be the reason they finally find what works.

Ever feel like you're stuck in molasses with zero motivation, energy, or sparkle? Me too, friend. Let’s talk about how to get out of a slump. 

In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, we’re diving deep into that “meh” space we all land in from time to time. Maybe your house is a mess, your energy is flatlined, and your dinner for the third night in a row is fried takeout. Here’s the thing, slumps happen. And they are 100% resolvable.

I’ll be unpacking why these slumps sneak in, what they really mean, and most importantly—how to actually get out of them. I’m sharing science-backed strategies, personal stories, and the little mindset and habit shifts that truly move the needle.

By the end of this episode, you’ll have your very own slump-busting plan—and you’ll know exactly where to start, whether you need a mindset shift, a behavior reboot, or both. 

Timestamps:
00:00 — Slumps are normal (but let’s not stay there)
06:18 — How to spot your personal “uh-oh” signs
10:32 — Slump vs. Depression: What you really need to know
24:44 — Why slumps happen: burnout, transitions, and mystery fogs
31:55 — Lifestyle habits that quietly wreck your vibe
33:17 — Why trying to “feel better” first doesn’t work
34:24 — What to do instead (this changes everything)
42:51 — Create your personalized slump-busting strategy
52:28 — Quick wins: tiny shifts that make a big impact
57:54 — Your next steps to get back to YOU

If you’re ready for a real, lasting reset—come join me and my amazing team in the Clarity & Confidence Coaching Program. This is where the magic happens. Together, we’ll help you reconnect with your sense of purpose, build habits that actually support the life you want, and shift the unhelpful thoughts that have been keeping you stuck. It’s not about a temporary mood boost—it’s about creating true, sustainable transformation from the inside out.

Schedule your free consultation now and let’s start building your breakthrough together.

And, I’d love for us to stay connected! Each week, I drop a new podcast episode and share resources to help you create love, happiness, and success in your life. I also go live every Thursday on Instagram and Youtube to talk about the topic of the week and answer all of your questions. So check out the full podcast episode and join me on Thursday at 12pm MT / 2pm EST. I’d be so glad to see you!

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

Ever leave a conversation feeling like your brain’s been scrambled and you’re not sure why? Maybe you’re suddenly questioning your own reality, feeling guilty, or bending over backwards for someone who... let’s be real, might not deserve it? If that sounds familiar, pull up a chair, my friend.

Today, we’re pulling back the curtain on manipulation—not to teach you these tactics (please don’t use them!), but so you can spot them, disarm them, and never get played again.

In this episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, I’m breaking down the five most common manipulative tactics, why they work so well, and how to protect yourself—with confidence, clarity, and maybe even a little compassion.

TIMESTAMPS
00:00 – Welcome to the dark side (just kidding... kind of)
01:28 – Why manipulation works on good people
04:51 – Awareness is your superpower
06:01 – Guilt-tripping 101: How they hook you
09:07 – How to disarm a guilt trip like a boss
18:03 – Playing the victim: When empathy is used against you
31:36 – Love bombing: It’s not just for dating apps
33:01 – Healthy relationships take time (and boundaries)
36:55 – Narcissists, splitting, and people who come on way too strong
43:22 – Withdrawal + passive aggression = manipulation in disguise
54:11 – Let’s talk about gaslighting (finally!)
01:01:18 – What to do if you have vulnerabilities that get you caught in this stuff

If you’re realizing that certain relationships in your life are way more complicated than they should be—or if you’ve been stuck in a cycle of guilt, confusion, or second-guessing yourself—you don’t have to stay there. You deserve support. You deserve clarity. You deserve healthy connections.

Come connect with me and my amazing team at Growing Self and schedule your free consultation. Whether you’re looking for therapy or coaching, we’re here to help you break free from toxic patterns and build the life and relationships you actually want.

And hey—don’t be a stranger! You can find me on Instagram and YouTube for even more real-talk, tools, and live Q&A sessions. Let’s grow together.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who’s been struggling with manipulation in their relationships? Be a good friend—share this with them. It might be the lightbulb moment they’ve been waiting for. 💡❤️

Tired of being your own worst critic? What if I told you that positivity isn’t something you’re born with—it’s a skill you can learn? ✨

In this powerful episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I sit down with Dr. Nick Holton of the Anti-Fragile Academy to explore how to be a more positive person—without ignoring your difficult emotions or pretending everything is fine when it’s not. Because here’s the truth: toxic positivity isn’t helpful, and sometimes the most powerful thing you can do is feel your feelings and grow from them.

We’re diving deep into the science of positive psychology, how to stop gaslighting yourself with "just think positive" advice, and practical mindset-shifting tools that can help you feel stronger, more resilient, and yes—more joyful, too.

Timestamps:
00:00 – Why ‘just be positive’ backfires
01:12 – Meet Dr. Nick Holton
03:18 – What positive psychology actually is
04:38 – The real role of emotions in your wellbeing
06:33 – How to start changing your mindset
08:09 – Growth vs. Fixed Mindsets
10:32 – Why acceptance is the missing piece in positivity
21:25 – The power of gratitude
31:24 – You don’t control performance (and why that’s great news)
33:10 – Visualizing failure? Yep—it’s a secret to resilience
34:41 – What elite athletes know about mindset that you should too
40:16 – Turning trauma into growth: How to bounce forward
42:51 – Want to feel better? Expand your emotional vocabulary
48:32 – What passion + perseverance have to do with great relationships
54:20 – Access real growth tools

If you're craving more clarity, joy, and empowerment in your life—or if you’re just feeling a little stuck and unsure how to shift your mindset—this episode is filled with practical wisdom that can help. 

And if you’re ready to take the next step, we’re here for you. Book a free consultation at Growing Self, and we’ll help you get matched with the right therapist or coach for you. Whether you want to work on your mindset, your relationships, your career, or all of the above, our team of warm, experienced experts can help you start moving forward with confidence and clarity.

I’d also love to connect with you beyond the podcast! Subscribe to my channel on YouTube for weekly videos packed with insights on love, happiness, and success—and follow me on Instagram for expert advice, bite-size interviews, and daily encouragement. We’re building a community of growth-minded, big-hearted humans, and you belong with us.

Thanks for being here with me today. Sending you so much love—and I’ll see you in the next one!

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who could use a positivity boost today, send this episode over to them. Let’s help each other grow. 🌱

Ever wonder why your relationship with money feels so complicated? It’s more than just dollars and cents—it’s emotional, it’s psychological, and it deeply affects your life and relationships. Today, I'm talking with a marriage and family therapist who specializes in financial therapy, Jillian Knight. We're diving into why understanding your relationship with money can be a total game-changer for your finances, career, and relationships.

From unconscious money beliefs to how your upbringing shapes your financial habits, we cover it all. Whether you're struggling with debt, feeling anxious about spending, or having money-related conflicts with your partner, this conversation is for YOU.

In this episode, we’ll discuss:

• What happens when we’re not self-aware about our relationship with money

• How money scripts influence our behaviors and decisions

• Why it’s crucial to approach money with empathy—not shame

• And most importantly, how to shift your money mindset to build a healthier, more balanced financial life

Timestamps:
00:00 – Exploring Your Relationship with Money
00:49 – Introducing Jillian Knight: Financial Therapy Expert
01:21 – Understanding the Impact of Money Beliefs
04:49 – The Cultural Ideals of Financial Management
06:39 – Challenging Authoritarian Financial Advice
08:07 – Personal Stories and Financial Therapy Insights
10:53 – The Importance of Compassion in Financial Health
19:31 – Identifying Your Money Scripts
23:13 – Exploring the Enneagram and Money
24:46 – Couples and Money Dynamics
28:39 – Understanding Money Stories
33:30 – Identifying Core Needs and Triggers
36:55 – Building Bridges and Shared Goals
42:12 – Conclusion and Resources

I know talking about money can feel uncomfortable. That’s why conversations like this one are so important! I also created something to help you navigate those tough financial conversations with love, empathy, and understanding—without the stress or conflict.. Check out my Communication That Connects 2-part training. You’ll learn how to approach money talks in a way that strengthens your relationships, rather than creating distance. I hope you check it out!

Also, let’s connect on Instagram and Youtube! I drop a new podcast every week with interviews just like this one so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I also go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms. I chat about the topic of the week and answer any questions you might have live. This week, I’ll be digging into your relationship to money! 

Let’s break free from old financial patterns together and build a future where money feels like a source of freedom, not stress. See you there!

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. If this episode was helpful for you, share it with a friend or family member who could use the info too!

Ever wonder why your child melts down over the tiniest thing—or how to actually help them navigate big emotions? Today, we’re diving into the world of Child-Centered Play Therapy, an evidence-based approach that helps kids build confidence, self-regulation, and emotional resilience… all through PLAY.

I’m joined by the amazing Dr. Brenna Hicks, a specialist in helping parents use these techniques at home to create a happier, calmer family environment. Whether you have a preschooler, a strong-willed school-age kid, or a moody teen, this conversation will give you powerful tools to understand your child’s emotional world—and strengthen your bond in the process.

We’re covering:

• What makes Child-Centered Play Therapy different from other approaches

• How play can help kids process emotions (even when words fail!)

• What really causes tantrums and dysregulation

• Simple therapist-approved parenting strategies you can start using today

• How to know if your child might need therapy—and how to find the right therapist

Timestamps:
03:29 - What is Child-Centered Play Therapy (and why does it work?)
09:27 - The parent’s role in play therapy (and why it’s a game-changer!)
16:03 - Why kids “act out” and what’s really going on
23:09 - The surprising science behind play as therapy
34:41 - How therapy transforms kids from anxious to confident
36:27 - What to do if your child is struggling emotionally
43:20 - How to tell if a therapist is actually qualified to help your child
47:58 - Parenting tips: What to say (and what not to say) to your kid
53:11 - When to seek professional help & what to look for in a therapist
01:02:49 - Resources, next steps & final thoughts

I know how much you love your child and want the absolute best for them. Parenting is one of the most rewarding—and challenging—jobs in the world, and sometimes, we all need a little extra guidance and encouragement. That’s why I created the Happy Families Collection—a curated set of expert tips, strategies, and insights designed to help you build a stronger, more connected, and emotionally healthy family. ✨

👉 Access the Happy Families Collection here!

And if you loved this episode, let’s stay connected! Find me on Instagram for daily inspiration and expert-backed advice, and don’t forget to subscribe on YouTube for even more deep-dive conversations so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life.

You’re doing an amazing job, and I’m so honored to be on this journey with you!

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know a parent who could benefit from this episode, share it with them! I know personally that us parents really appreciate the love and support.

Ever felt like you completely lost yourself in a relationship?

Like one day you woke up and thought, Wait… who even am I anymore? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone—and, spoiler alert, it’s not just in your head. There’s real science behind why we fuse our identities with our partners and why breakups can feel like more than just heartbreak—they can feel like an identity crisis.

In this eye-opening conversation, I sit down with relationship scientist Dr. Morgan Cope to break down the psychology behind losing yourself in a relationship, why it happens, and most importantly—how to rebuild your identity after love. Whether you're freshly single, in a relationship that feels too enmeshed, or just curious about how relationships shape our sense of self, this episode is packed with insights, humor, and practical strategies to help you come back to YOU.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Is Losing Yourself in a Relationship a Real Thing?

00:35 - Meet Dr. Morgan Cope & Her Research on Relationships & Identity

01:00 Understanding Identity in Relationships

03:07 - Attachment Styles and Identity

07:30 - Impact of Breakups on Identity

24:42 - Mental and Physical Effects of Breakups

30:27 - Fear of Being Single

32:02 - Changing the Environment vs Changing Yourself

36:56 - Rebounding and Self-Expansion

39:14 - Identity and Values Assessment

44:11 - Cult Psychology and Group Identity

51:21 - Personal Growth Through Relationship Challenges

Feeling lost after a breakup? I know how hard it can be to find yourself again, so I created something to help you out on your healing journey. Check out my FREE  Breakup Recovery Quiz to get personalized insights on where you are in your healing journey & how to move forward so you can begin to feel like yourself again.

And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! You can find me on YouTube or Instagram. Every week, I drop a new podcast episode dedicated to your personal growth and healing so you can create love, happiness, and success in your life. I hope to see you there! 

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who might need to hear this? Share this video with a friend who’s struggling in their relationship or going through a tough breakup. 💕

Ever feel like therapy is supposed to help you move on after a breakup… but instead, you’re just rehashing your pain over and over again? The truth is that most therapists are not actually trained in breakup recovery—which means traditional therapy for breakups might be keeping you stuck instead of helping you move forward.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why therapy for breakups doesn’t always work, and what actually does. If you’re tired of feeling like you’re trapped in an endless loop of overthinking, heartbreak, and emotional pain—definitely give this a listen. I break down:

• The missing pieces in traditional therapy for breakups

• The 8 essential stages of breakup recovery (skip one and you stay stuck!)

• Why your brain reacts to breakups like a drug withdrawal (and how to cut the cords)

• The biggest myths about healing after a breakup that keep you spinning in circles

Timestamps:

00:00 - The Problem With Therapy For Breakups (Nobody Talks About This!)

00:51 - Why Therapists Aren’t Trained in Heartbreak Recovery

02:47 - My Journey: From Therapist to Breakup Specialist

15:49 - How Your Biological Attachment System Keeps You Stuck

24:10 - The Real Path to Moving On (hint: it’s NOT what you think!)

26:25 - The Eight Stages of Heartbreak Recovery (Which one are you stuck in?)

34:23 - For You: Heartbreak Recovery Resources

I know how hard this is. If you’ve been feeling stuck, like no matter what you do, you just can’t seem to move on—please know that it’s not your fault. Healing from heartbreak is a process, and if you don’t have the right map, it’s so easy to stay lost in the pain. 

That’s exactly why I created the Breakup Recovery Quiz—to help you get clarity on where you are in your healing journey and what might be holding you back from truly letting go. It’s completely free, and I made it just for you, so you can finally start moving forward. 

And if today’s conversation resonated with you, I really encourage you to check out my other podcast episodes and follow me on Instagram and Youtube. Every week, I share my years of expertise and interviews with experts so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success you deserve! 

Here’s to your healing and growth. 🌱 

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who could use a little bit of support today as they navigate their breakup, share this episode with them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear today. ❤️

That moment when you see your ex looking happier than ever with someone new—while you're still crying in the bathroom at work? Yeah… it’s brutal. You might be wondering to yourself, “Why did my ex move on so fast? Did they care about me AT ALL?” But before you spiral, let's talk about what’s really happening here and dig into how you can finally move on too.

In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I'm breaking down the psychology behind why some people seem to bounce back instantly (spoiler: it’s not always what it seems). You’ll also learn why your path—however slow and painful it may feel—is actually the healthiest, strongest, and most transformational.

By the end of this podcast, you’ll understand:

• Why your ex seems to be over it (and why that may not be the whole story)

• The biggest mistake people make when they rush into something new

• What avoidant attachment has to do with it (and why it’s not about you)

• How to turn your pain into fuel for real growth and healing

Grab a cup of tea and get cozy. This one is for YOU.  

Timestamps:
00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?!
01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind
02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go
06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In?
16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!)
21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure
29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD
34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You

I know how hard this is. Going through the breakup recovery process can be long and grueling, but you don’t have to figure this all out on your own. As a licensed therapist and psychologist specializing in relationships and heartbreak, I’ve seen people grow and thrive after a breakup time and time again. And you can do it too. 

I took all of the information I’ve learned over the years and created a free Heartbreak Recovery Quiz to help you on your journey to reclaim your heart and your life. By taking this quiz, you’ll be able to figure out exactly where you are in your healing journey—and what steps to take next. You’ll get a personalized roadmap to moving forward with clarity and confidence. I hope this helps. ❤️

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com 

P.S. If you know someone who needs a little extra support today, send this podcast episode over to them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear.

Ever feel like your ex is still haunting you? You’re living your best life, maybe even in a happy, healthy relationship—so WHY do they keep popping up in your head, completely uninvited? If you've ever caught yourself late-night stalking their Instagram (oops), wondering what if?, or feeling like you just can’t shake the past, don’t worry. There are steps you can take to move forward.

In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I dive deep into why you still think about your ex—even when you don’t want to. We’ll talk about the science of attachment, why your brain keeps looping back, and—most importantly—how to finally break free.

Timestamps:
00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?!
01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind
02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go
06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In?
16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!)
21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure
29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD
34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You

I know how hard it can be to feel stuck in the past when all you really want is to move forward and feel at peace. If today’s conversation resonated with you, I have some resources that can help.

First, if you’re wondering why this is happening to you and what you can do about it, I invite you to take my Heartbreak Recovery Quiz. It’s a free tool designed to help you understand where you are in the healing process and what specific steps you can take next to finally be free of the past. Healing is possible, and you will get through it. 

And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! Come join my live stream this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube or Instagram. We’ll be talking more about why you still think about your ex—and I’ll be answering your questions live. Whether you need advice, reassurance, or just a supportive space, come chat with me.

Sending you warmth and support, always.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who could use this advice? Share this video with them—it might be exactly what they need to hear today. ❤️

What if the secret to transforming your relationships wasn’t about saying more, but saying it better? 

I know how hard it can be when communication in your relationship just isn’t working. Those moments when you’re trying so hard to connect, but it feels like you’re speaking two different languages—they’re exhausting and heartbreaking. I’ve seen so many people struggling with this, and I want you to know it doesn’t have to be this way!

This week on the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sat down with Charles Duhigg, New York Times bestselling author of Supercommunicators, to dive into how to be a better communicator. We talk about the importance of knowing what kind of conversations you’re having, how to ask better questions to unlock deeper connections, and steps to actually hearing and understanding each other. 

Whether you’re trying to connect with a partner, a friend, or even a coworker, this conversation is packed with eye-opening insights and actionable tips to help you truly get and be gotten.

Chapters:
00:00 - Why communication is the ultimate relationship glue
00:35 - Meet Charles Duhigg, your new favorite communication guru
07:38 - Game-changing tips to up your communication game
08:57 - The art of asking deep, meaningful questions
17:31 - What really works in tough conversations
28:30 - Identifying what people really need from you
31:58 - Building trust through listening and understanding

36:02 - Redefining the goal of conversations

37:49 - Resources for communication skill building

My favorite takeaway from this episode was that you don’t have to be born a “supercommunicator.” These are skills that you can learn and improve with practice.

So if you’re thinking “Heck yes! I’m ready for some growth!”, check out my free Communication That Connects 2-Part Training. It’s a step-by-step guide to help you understand what’s really going on beneath the disconnect, and how to rebuild the trust and emotional safety that can get lost along the way.

Together, we’ll explore tools and strategies to stop the cycle of conflict, restore your connection, and start creating a more positive chapter for your relationships.

Also, let’s connect on Instagram or YouTube! I go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms, diving deeper into topics just like this one and answering all of your personal questions. So check out this episode, and then come chat with me! I’m here to help. 🩵

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

P.S. Know someone who could use this guidance? Maybe a partner or a bestie struggling to communicate? Share this with them! Because better communication makes the world (and your group chats) a much better place.

How are you really sleeping these days? Be honest—are you waking up feeling refreshed, or is it more like dragging yourself out of bed and powering through the day on fumes? If that sounds familiar, you’re not alone. Sleep is a huge part of feeling like your best self, but it’s so easy to overlook.

In this podcast episode, I’m sitting down with my friend, Dr. Michelle Okun, a health psychologist and sleep scientist. We’re talking about how sleep impacts literally everything—your mood, your stress levels, your health, and even your energy. We’re diving into the science of why sleep matters and the simple things you can do to feel like your best self again. Don’t worry, your sleep helpline is here! 

So, grab a cup of tea, cozy up, and let’s talk about how to get the rest you need to feel amazing. You deserve this! 💖

Timestamps:

• 00:00 – Tired and Stressed? Let’s Fix That!
• 00:41 –  Meet Dr. Michelle Okun
• 02:12 – The Surprising Ways Sleep Impacts Your Life
• 06:48 – Stress, Cortisol, and Sleep
• 09:56 – How Stress Keeps You Awake (and How to Fix It)
• 19:42 – Common Causes of Sleep Issues
• 23:40 – When to Consider a Sleep Study
• 32:09 – Practical Sleep Tips That Actually Work
• 50:08 – Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia
• 53:50 – Resources to Improve Your Life

I hope this podcast was as helpful for you as it was for me. I learned so much from Dr. Okun! If you’re ready to take the next step or just curious about what might be holding you back—whether it’s sleep-related or just something in your overall wellness—check out my free What’s Holding You Back? Quiz. 

Gaining clarity and self-awareness around the places in my life where I needed some extra love and attention was a huge game changer for me. This quiz will give you the same insights so you can start taking steps to thrive in your life. 

If you have questions or want to chat with me more about this, I’d love for you to join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 PM MT on Instagram and YouTube! I’m diving even deeper into how to improve your sleep and answering your questions live. 

Oh, and don’t forget to subscribe and hit the bell! I’m here every week sharing insights and resources with you so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success that you deserve. Let’s figure this out together, friend!

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

PS: If you know someone who’s running on empty and could use this advice, send this podcast their way. Sleep is life-changing, and we all deserve to wake up feeling amazing! 😴✨

Recently diagnosed with adult ADHD (or thinking that you probably should be?) Well friend, welcome to the club, and I'm glad you're here to learn all about the upside of ADHD superpowers!

In this episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast, I sit down with my colleague and fellow therapist, Jesse S., to talk about the ups and downs of ADHD—especially when you’re diagnosed as an adult.

Together, we share our personal stories (and some laughs!) about what it’s like to navigate life with ADHD—before and after diagnosis. We dive deep into the challenges, relationship struggles, and unexpected upside of ADHD superpowers, while offering practical tools to help you thrive.

Timestamps:

• 00:00 Is This You? Recognizing ADHD as an Adult
• 00:42 Meet Jesse S.!
• 02:12 The “Aha!” Moment That Changed Everything
• 03:49 How to Get Diagnosed: Jesse’s Journey
• 05:07 Life Before and After Diagnosis
• 17:06 ADHD and Relationships
• 23:42 Struggles, Self-Esteem, and Stigma
• 26:39 Thriving in School and Work
• 28:29 Finding Your Zone
• 30:18 Structure for ADHD Success
• 39:46 Boosting Brainpower: Sleep, Nutrition, and Hydration
• 42:20 Resources and Words of Hope

Living with ADHD can feel like a whirlwind—your creativity and energy can light up a room, but staying organized or focused might sometimes feel like an uphill battle. And let’s be real: when ADHD gets in the way of meeting expectations (yours or others'), it can take a toll on your self-esteem. 

The good news? Self-esteem isn’t a fixed trait—it’s something you can strengthen with the right insights and support. Take my How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem? quiz to discover where you’re thriving and where you could use a little extra love and support. It’s quick, eye-opening, and might just be the first step toward embracing the amazing person you are, ADHD and all. 

And don’t forget to stay connected with me on social media! I’m always sharing tips, insights, and inspiration on Instagram and YouTube. I also host regular live streams on both platforms where we can dive deeper into topics like ADHD, relationships, and personal growth. See you there!

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Share this podcast with someone who needs a little ADHD inspo today! Let’s thrive together. 💖

Do you ever feel like “working” on your relationship just drains the joy out of it? You’re not alone— that “work on it” narrative is so common and in my experience as a marriage counselor…. some of the worst advice ever. 

Of course you want a better relationship, but there are much more effective ways of making that happen: Especially when you start prioritizing the parts that you enjoy.

In this podcast, I’ll show you why the idea that “relationships are hard work” might actually be sabotaging your connection and what to do instead. Learn how to bring more fun, positivity, and love into your relationship with simple, actionable steps. We’ll explore everything from changing your mindset to building better communication and adding joy to your everyday life.

Timestamps:
00:00 – The Worst Relationship Advice Ever
00:38 – Why Relationships Should Be Fun
01:34 – Shifting Your Mindset from Work to Joy
02:40 – Bringing Fun Back into Your Relationship
03:30 – How Personal Growth Improves Love
04:53 – Mastering Positive Communication
06:12 – Focus on What’s Good (And Watch it Grow!)
07:51 – Making Your Relationship Pleasurable Again
09:31 – Leading with Love
12:35 – Turning Mundane Tasks into Meaningful Moments

If you’ve been feeling like your relationship is more work than it should be, I’ve got something for you. My free 2-part video training, Communication That Connects, will help you shift out of that "hard work" mindset and give you tools to build a relationship that feels fun, loving, and easy again. Check it out here: https://www.growingself.com/communication. 💕

💬 Got questions? Join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube. Submit your questions anonymously ahead of time here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who could use this advice, share this video with them! Let’s create stronger, happier relationships together. 💕

Ever feel like you’re at war with yourself? This might change everything…

In this heartfelt and transformative episode, I had the honor of sitting down with Dr. Richard Schwartz, founder of Internal Family Systems (IFS), to explore how understanding and working with your “parts” can unlock profound healing and self-growth. 🌟

We all have parts of us—the inner critic, the procrastinator, the overachiever. These parts aren’t flaws; they’re doing their best to protect us, even if their methods aren’t helpful. Dr. Schwartz explains how we can connect with these parts, heal the pain behind them, and step into the calm, confident Self that’s been there all along.

Plus, we’ll dive into practical tools from his new workbook, discuss how trauma impacts your inner world, and even demonstrate how to start connecting with your parts. This conversation is packed with insights you don’t want to miss.

Timestamps:
00:00 Introduction: Why You Feel Stuck
01:15 Meet Dr. Richard Schwartz: Founder of IFS
03:40 What Are “Parts” and Why Do They Matter?
08:20 The Healing Power of Your Self
12:45 Live Demo: Working with Your Parts
20:00 Balancing Inner Conflicts
30:50 When and How to Seek Professional Help
38:15 Insights from IFS
40:56 Final Thoughts and Next Steps

Ready to take the first step? Check out my free What’s Holding You Back? quiz to help you gain personal insights and self-awareness around your inner world. This will shed a light on hidden obstacles within yourself so you can move forward into your best year yet with clairity and confidence. I hope you check it out. 

After you listen to this episode, join me LIVE this Thursday at 12 pm MT for an open Q&A on personal growth and Internal Family Systems. Submit your anonymous questions here, and I’ll answer them live on Thursday: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Don’t forget to share this podcast with someone who could use a little encouragement today. Let’s grow together! 💕