Ever feel like therapy is supposed to help you move on after a breakup… but instead, you’re just rehashing your pain over and over again? The truth is that most therapists are not actually trained in breakup recovery—which means traditional therapy for breakups might be keeping you stuck instead of helping you move forward.

In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why therapy for breakups doesn’t always work, and what actually does. If you’re tired of feeling like you’re trapped in an endless loop of overthinking, heartbreak, and emotional pain—definitely give this a listen. I break down:

• The missing pieces in traditional therapy for breakups

• The 8 essential stages of breakup recovery (skip one and you stay stuck!)

• Why your brain reacts to breakups like a drug withdrawal (and how to cut the cords)

• The biggest myths about healing after a breakup that keep you spinning in circles

Timestamps:

00:00 - The Problem With Therapy For Breakups (Nobody Talks About This!)

00:51 - Why Therapists Aren’t Trained in Heartbreak Recovery

02:47 - My Journey: From Therapist to Breakup Specialist

15:49 - How Your Biological Attachment System Keeps You Stuck

24:10 - The Real Path to Moving On (hint: it’s NOT what you think!)

26:25 - The Eight Stages of Heartbreak Recovery (Which one are you stuck in?)

34:23 - For You: Heartbreak Recovery Resources

I know how hard this is. If you’ve been feeling stuck, like no matter what you do, you just can’t seem to move on—please know that it’s not your fault. Healing from heartbreak is a process, and if you don’t have the right map, it’s so easy to stay lost in the pain. 

That’s exactly why I created the Breakup Recovery Quiz—to help you get clarity on where you are in your healing journey and what might be holding you back from truly letting go. It’s completely free, and I made it just for you, so you can finally start moving forward. 

And if today’s conversation resonated with you, I really encourage you to check out my other podcast episodes and follow me on Instagram and Youtube. Every week, I share my years of expertise and interviews with experts so you can achieve the love, happiness, and success you deserve! 

Here’s to your healing and growth. 🌱 

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you know someone who could use a little bit of support today as they navigate their breakup, share this episode with them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear today. ❤️

That moment when you see your ex looking happier than ever with someone new—while you're still crying in the bathroom at work? Yeah… it’s brutal. You might be wondering to yourself, “Why did my ex move on so fast? Did they care about me AT ALL?” But before you spiral, let's talk about what’s really happening here and dig into how you can finally move on too.

In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I'm breaking down the psychology behind why some people seem to bounce back instantly (spoiler: it’s not always what it seems). You’ll also learn why your path—however slow and painful it may feel—is actually the healthiest, strongest, and most transformational.

By the end of this podcast, you’ll understand:

• Why your ex seems to be over it (and why that may not be the whole story)

• The biggest mistake people make when they rush into something new

• What avoidant attachment has to do with it (and why it’s not about you)

• How to turn your pain into fuel for real growth and healing

Grab a cup of tea and get cozy. This one is for YOU.  

Timestamps:
00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?!
01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind
02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go
06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In?
16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!)
21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure
29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD
34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You

I know how hard this is. Going through the breakup recovery process can be long and grueling, but you don’t have to figure this all out on your own. As a licensed therapist and psychologist specializing in relationships and heartbreak, I’ve seen people grow and thrive after a breakup time and time again. And you can do it too. 

I took all of the information I’ve learned over the years and created a free Heartbreak Recovery Quiz to help you on your journey to reclaim your heart and your life. By taking this quiz, you’ll be able to figure out exactly where you are in your healing journey—and what steps to take next. You’ll get a personalized roadmap to moving forward with clarity and confidence. I hope this helps. ❤️

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com 

P.S. If you know someone who needs a little extra support today, send this podcast episode over to them. It could be exactly what they needed to hear.

Ever feel like your ex is still haunting you? You’re living your best life, maybe even in a happy, healthy relationship—so WHY do they keep popping up in your head, completely uninvited? If you've ever caught yourself late-night stalking their Instagram (oops), wondering what if?, or feeling like you just can’t shake the past, don’t worry. There are steps you can take to move forward.

In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I dive deep into why you still think about your ex—even when you don’t want to. We’ll talk about the science of attachment, why your brain keeps looping back, and—most importantly—how to finally break free.

Timestamps:
00:00 - Why Does This Keep Happening?!
01:40 - The Weird Ways Your Ex Still Sneaks Into Your Mind
02:37 - The REAL Reason You Can’t Let Go
06:02 - The 8 Stages of Heartbreak Recovery—Which One Are You Stuck In?
16:05 - The Science of Heartbreak: Your Brain on Love (and Withdrawal!)
21:34 - Unfinished Business: What You Need for REAL Closure
29:35 - How to Finally Move On—For GOOD
34:39 - Next Steps & How I Can Help You

I know how hard it can be to feel stuck in the past when all you really want is to move forward and feel at peace. If today’s conversation resonated with you, I have some resources that can help.

First, if you’re wondering why this is happening to you and what you can do about it, I invite you to take my Heartbreak Recovery Quiz. It’s a free tool designed to help you understand where you are in the healing process and what specific steps you can take next to finally be free of the past. Healing is possible, and you will get through it. 

And if you’d like to keep this conversation going, I’d love to hear from you! Come join my live stream this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube or Instagram. We’ll be talking more about why you still think about your ex—and I’ll be answering your questions live. Whether you need advice, reassurance, or just a supportive space, come chat with me.

Sending you warmth and support, always.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone who could use this advice? Share this video with them—it might be exactly what they need to hear today. ❤️

What if the secret to transforming your relationships wasn’t about saying more, but saying it better? 

I know how hard it can be when communication in your relationship just isn’t working. Those moments when you’re trying so hard to connect, but it feels like you’re speaking two different languages—they’re exhausting and heartbreaking. I’ve seen so many people struggling with this, and I want you to know it doesn’t have to be this way!

This week on the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sat down with Charles Duhigg, New York Times bestselling author of Supercommunicators, to dive into how to be a better communicator. We talk about the importance of knowing what kind of conversations you’re having, how to ask better questions to unlock deeper connections, and steps to actually hearing and understanding each other. 

Whether you’re trying to connect with a partner, a friend, or even a coworker, this conversation is packed with eye-opening insights and actionable tips to help you truly get and be gotten.

Chapters:
00:00 - Why communication is the ultimate relationship glue
00:35 - Meet Charles Duhigg, your new favorite communication guru
07:38 - Game-changing tips to up your communication game
08:57 - The art of asking deep, meaningful questions
17:31 - What really works in tough conversations
28:30 - Identifying what people really need from you
31:58 - Building trust through listening and understanding

36:02 - Redefining the goal of conversations

37:49 - Resources for communication skill building

My favorite takeaway from this episode was that you don’t have to be born a “supercommunicator.” These are skills that you can learn and improve with practice.

So if you’re thinking “Heck yes! I’m ready for some growth!”, check out my free Communication That Connects 2-Part Training. It’s a step-by-step guide to help you understand what’s really going on beneath the disconnect, and how to rebuild the trust and emotional safety that can get lost along the way.

Together, we’ll explore tools and strategies to stop the cycle of conflict, restore your connection, and start creating a more positive chapter for your relationships.

Also, let’s connect on Instagram or YouTube! I go live every Thursday at 12pm MT on both platforms, diving deeper into topics just like this one and answering all of your personal questions. So check out this episode, and then come chat with me! I’m here to help. 🩵

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

P.S. Know someone who could use this guidance? Maybe a partner or a bestie struggling to communicate? Share this with them! Because better communication makes the world (and your group chats) a much better place.