Will you be single forever? If you've been dating for a while and struggling to find your person, then I'll bet this thought has crossed your mind at some point. Maybe it's something you think about a lot. 

And the prospect of being single forever can be scary! We all crave deep connection and true, enduring love. The possiblity of never finding the relationship we desire is daunting, especially if your dating experiences have been grinding you down. But facing the fear of being alone may just be the key to not only loving your life as a single person, but also dating successfully. 

On this episode, we're talking about the fear of being single, how it holds you back, and how you can stop feeling afraid and choose to love your life — no matter what. 

Tune in to learn: 

• 03:11 Understanding the Fear
• 05:28 Working on Healthy Relationships
• 06:28 Impact of Fear on Relationships
• 09:17 Impact on Mental and Emotional Wellbeing
• 10:43 Behaviors Driven by Fear
• 13:31 Overcoming the Fear
• 14:01 Making Peace with Being Single
• 15:02 Shifting Mindset
• 16:00 Growth Mindset and Personal Development
• 17:24 Identifying Obstacles and Making Changes
• 22:36 Challenging Core Beliefs
• 25:01 Developing Meaningful Connections
• 27:46 Finding Fulfillment in Other Areas of Life
• 29:34 Building a Fulfilling Life
• 31:22 How Authenticity Makes You Attractive

If you find yourself with partners who mistreat you again and again, it’s time to explore that pattern, so you can find a healthy relationship. On today’s episode of the podcast, we’re talking about why you keep dating jerks, and the steps you can take to break free from bad relationships and find real, healthy love.

You deserve it!

xo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

Single During the Holidays?

As a breakup expert and dating coach, I know all too well that many single people — particularly newly single people — often dread the holiday season, envisioning themselves enduring the upcoming string of holiday celebrations without a +1. But truly, there is no need to worry about feeling lonely during the holidays. If you're single, and want to be in a new relationship, the holiday season is actually a fantastic, highly advantageous time for you to connect with a new love.

Why is dating during the holidays such a great time to launch a beautiful new relationship? Three main reasons:

1. You have the opportunity to meet more people in person, because of all the holiday gatherings and events happening at this time of year.

2. Many, many other singles (fun, beautiful, desirable, successful singles just like you) are also feeling motivated to connect right now and are putting themselves out there too. But there's more: Match.com consistently finds that the Sunday after New Year's is the single most popular day for people to create new online dating profiles. They see a 30-40% increase in their membership on that one day alone. If you get your act together now, you'll have the pick of the litter come January.

3. Possibly most importantly, you have a legitimate reason to wear sequins, sparkles, and / or hilariously ugly holiday sweaters. (All of which are fantastic conversation starters, making it extremely easy for anyone to start up a conversation with you.)

You could totally walk up to this guy and talk to him about his bells and puff-balls. Or maybe just give him a hug.

In short: If you've been sitting on the sidelines, feeling discouraged about the dating game, now's the time to get off the bench and take another swing at finding love. And today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast is going to help you do just that.

Free Advice From a Dating Coach

There are just a few keys to successful dating: Clarity, Chemistry, Connection, and Evaluation. We're going to be talking about each of these today to get you prepared to be your best self as you head into this sparkling season, ripe with potential for new love.

I'll be putting on my "dating coach" hat to give you some advice on how to get clear about who you want to meet, and how to attract them. We'll also be discussing the all-important "chemistry factor" and what YOU need to be thinking about and doing to wow all the attractive new people you're about to meet, and leave them wanting more of you.

Additionally, we'll be talking about how to make the most of all your opportunities for connection. You'll have natural "IRL" opportunties this season, in the form of parties and holiday events, as well as the chance to freshen up your online dating profile. Because your photos will make-or-break your success with online dating, I've invited professional portrait photographer Kelly Weaver (who specializes in online dating profile photos) to give you her top tips for getting some fantastic new photos for your profile.

After that, we'll also be discussing the downsides of being so gorgeous and irresistible, which is how to competently handle all the attention you're getting — not to mention the sheer volume of messages and invitations you might be flooded with. No really, having a solid plan in place to manage all the back-and-forth without acquiring a bunch of pen-pals, and quickly figure out who's a good fit for you and who's not will help you focus your energy on the people who are a match for you.

Lot's to learn about dating during the holidays, on this edition of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. Listen now...

xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

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