Ever looked around and thought, “I hate my life… I don’t want to do this anymore”?

If that’s where you are right now—first of all, I’m giving you a big virtual hug.

Second of all, you’re not broken, you’re not failing, and you’re on the right track. This moment could be the best thing that’s happened to you in a long time. Why? Because that awful, burn-it-all-down energy can also be your launchpad to something way, way better.

In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I’ll walk you through my step-by-step process to help you stop spiraling, get clear, and create a life you’re genuinely excited to wake up to.

It’s time to harness the power of that personal meltdown and turn it into the catalyst for a total life upgrade.

Timestamps:
0:00 – The “I Hate My Life” Moment: Why It’s Actually a Gift
2:36 – Your Inner Flare Gun: Pain as Your Wake-Up Call
5:20 – Step 1: Get Honest About What’s Not Working
8:12 – Step 2: Define What You Do Want (With Real Specifics)
12:47 – Step 3: The Real Reason You’re Stuck—Obstacles and Skills Gaps
17:09 – Step 4: Ask the Power Question That Changes Everything
21:42 – Step 5: Build Your Action Plan (One Small Step at a Time)
25:33 – When It’s More Than Frustration: Signs of Depression & What To Do
30:55 – What Comes Next: From Stuck to Strategy

If you’re sitting there thinking, "Yes. This is exactly where I am and I’m ready to change," I want you to know: you don’t have to figure this out alone.

My Clarity and Confidence Coaching is designed for moments just like this. We’ll help you get unstuck, gain clarity on what you really want, identify obstacles (including sneaky internal ones), and create a plan that actually works.

The best part? You can book a free consultation call right now to save your seat in the next coaching cohort and see if this program is a good fit for your hopes and goals. You’ll get to work with one of our expert therapists trained in coaching psychology at a fraction of the normal cost. Because money should never be the thing that keeps you stuck.

Oh! And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram or subscribe on YouTube. I share interviews with experts, motivational tips, and evidence-based strategies to create love, happiness, and success in your life. I’d love to see you there.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone else who's silently thinking “I hate my life”? Be their light today. Share this video with them. You might just change everything. 💫

Are You Thinking of Getting Help?

Deciding to reach out for professional help is a big decision, and I know it's not one you take lightly. In fact, if you're like most people you've probably  been working for a long time to NOT get involved in Marriage Counseling, Therapy or Life Coaching, and instead been doing everything you can think of to help yourself: Reading books, trying different things, seeking advice from friends.

But there comes a point where you've done everything that you know how to do on your own and you just feel stuck. The things you're trying to do just aren't working (or, not for long anyway). Or maybe you've had people encouraging you to "talk to someone." Maybe you've been inspired by someone else's successful work in counseling or coaching, and are hopeful that you could get good results too. But where to even start finding the right person? The sheer volume of options you have can be overwhelming.

So now you're cruising around therapist's websites and self-help blogs, looking for direction. Welcome. I'm glad you've found this post. I'm glad you're doing your research. Because, in my opinion, one of the worst things that can happen is for someone like you to be so brave, muster up your resolve, and finally reach out for help... only to connect with the wrong person.

What's Worse Than Not Getting Help? Reaching Out To The Wrong Person.

It happens. Too often, actually. And the outcomes can be worse than not getting help at all. When people muster up their courage, and finally reach out, only to have an (at best) unhelpful or (at worst) bad experience, it has negative consequences. Not just because they didn't get the help they were looking for, but because it may lead them to believe that there is no help for them. Even more tragically, many couples seek counseling from a person who isn't qualified, and then when couples counseling isn't successful think that their relationship can't be repaired (and subsequently get divorced.) Yet another reason why finding the right kind of help is extremely important.

You Don't Go To a Cardiologist For a Broken Leg, Either.

I think one reason for this is that there is a big gap between the kind of help people really need, and the kind that they think they need. I have people from all over reach out to me asking questions, and advice. (Do you have a question for me to answer on my blog or podcast? I'd love to hear from you: email me). Recently I've had several people get in touch with me asking for help in how to manage pretty major issues -- major depressive disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, substance abuse problems. Many of these questions would end with something along the lines of, "Yeah, so I was thinking it might be time for me to see a life coach..." Life Coach! Really??

It's becoming increasingly clear to me that many people don't understand the difference between a life coach and a therapist, what kind of help is appropriate for certain issues, or how to get connected with the right person to solve a particular problem.

Knowledge Is Power

So on this edition of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I'm here to help you understand what your options for help are, when NOT to go to a life coach, when life coaching is a great choice, what kind of therapist can help you fix your relationship (and who can't), where to go for medication, and how to get connected with a good, caring (and qualified!) therapist in your area. I'm throwing in some emergency resources too, just for good measure.

All the best, 

Lisa Marie Bobby

Is It Time To Get Help? Do It Right. Listen Now.

More questions about counseling, coaching or marriage counseling? Visit www.growingself.com, and read more on the "questions about___" pages.

On today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I'll teach you a sequence of three simple steps that will help you fight Depression and lift your mood.

If you've been feeling down, stressed or worried lately this podcast will help you shift your perspective, and start feeling better fast. But even if you are in a good place today I hope you still listen. Learning these key skills – particularly when you're already feeling solid – will help you stay even keeled no matter what life throws at you.