Is untreated ADHD causing trouble in your relationship?

“My partner doesn’t listen to me. He agrees to do something, and then he ‘forgets.’ I feel like he just doesn’t care. He didn’t even bother to get me a card for our anniversary…” 

Sound familiar? Many couples arrive in counseling with a list of issues like these, and no awareness of one likely culprit: ADHD. The condition not only creates setbacks at work and in school, it can cause all kinds of misunderstandings in relationships, particularly when ADHD is undiagnosed and unmanaged.

That’s why I created this episode of the podcast for you. I wanted to talk about the under-discussed impact of ADHD in relationships, so you can get the support you need if it’s becoming an issue for you and your partner. 

My Guest is Dori, a couples counselor, sex therapist, and ADHD coach on our team here at Growing Self. Funny enough, this topic hits close to home for both Dori and myself…like, extremely close. Tune in for more on that!

I hope our conversation gives you a new perspective on ADHD, and how you can manage it while keeping your relationship healthy and strong.

With love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

Managing Up for Career Success

Have you ever worked in a truly terrible environment? Think back to that job now. What made it so bad? 

If you’re like most people, the difference between a great job and a horrible job doesn’t have all that much to do with the work itself. Instead, it usually comes down to your relationships with your coworkers — and especially your relationship with your boss. 

Having a positive, healthy relationship with your boss, based on genuine trust and respect, makes your working life so much easier, and ultimately helps you both reach your career goals. 

So how can you build that kind of relationship? And how can you repair your relationship with your boss if it’s not off to a great start? 

On today's episode, we are talking about “managing up,” a professional development strategy that will help you build better working relationships, find more satisfaction on the job and remove the trickiest obstacles between you and your ultimate career goals. 

In this episode, we discuss…

[00:58] What Is Managing Up?

[14:19] What Managing Up Is Not

[24:15] Why Managing Up Matters

[34:53] How to Manage Up at Work 

My guest is Dr. Lisa S., PhD, LPC, CCC. She is a career coach and counselor at Growing Self, as well as the past president of both the National Career Development Association and the Colorado Career Development Association. Today, she shares her insight and wisdom with you. 

I hope you’ll join the “Doctors Lisa” for this lively and useful conversation about building an empowered, satisfying career by learning how to manage up.

Xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.GrowingSelf.com

Recognizing that the life you’ve created is not the one you actually want is an uncomfortable experience. But, believe it or not — it’s good. Why? It allows you to reflect, and recalibrate.

Whether you're in your 20s or your 30s having a “quarter-life crisis” is your chance to reconnect with who you are now, reimagine your future, and pivot in the direction of the life you want.

On this episode of the podcast, we’re talking about how you can use a quarter-life crisis as a launchpad for a new chapter of growth and success.

Here's to you!

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

Ready to turn the page and create a bright new reality for yourself? Whether you're ready for a new era in your career, your relationships, or a new sense of ownership in your personal narrative... today's episode is for you.

My guest today is a Jedi-caliber therapist and career counselor, on a mission to teach you how to write a new story for yourself. Ready to start your next chapter? Join us! 

There's so much in store for you, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

We’ve all heard that phrase, “Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life.” It may sound like a fantasy, but it really is possible to build a career that’s so in line with your true self that it doesn’t feel like work at all.

But how exactly do you do that?

On this episode of the podcast, I'm chatting with an expert career coach about finding your passion, and cultivating the mindset that leads to work you truly love.

Join us! 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

Do you wish you knew what’s really going on in your partner’s head, or how your coworkers actually feel about you? (Even if they aren’t consciously aware of it themselves?) Learning how to read people gives you a real advantage at work, in love, and beyond. 

You can learn how to understand other’s true feelings and motivations — even if they’re different from what's being said. My guest, Dr. Dan Hill, is an expert on the art of reading people and is here today to explain how.

Join us!

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

What you believe about yourself holds so much power. You have the power to create a really wonderful life for yourself. Or, you can be tricked into believing the devil inside: Your self-limiting beliefs.

Self-limiting beliefs are so dangerous because they often masquerade as "truth." But buying into them only creates pain, and damages your self-esteem, your career, and your relationships.

On this episode of the podcast, I'm teaching you how to identify your limiting beliefs and overcome them, so you can get back in control. 

Happy Halloween! 
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

If you’re going through a particularly dark time, today’s episode is for you. While nobody chooses tragedy as a vehicle for growth, meaning making through adversity can lead not just to hope and healing — but to incredibly positive personal transformation. Just ask my guest Jennifer Sands, a 9/11 widow.

If you or someone you love could use a little “light in the darkness” right now, I hope you tune into this very special episode to hear her message (and be the messenger!)

With love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

Are you getting pressured, guilted, or blamed into taking responsibility for other people's problems? Understanding where your sphere of personal responsibility stops, and where someone else’s starts is vital to setting healthy boundaries with clarity and confidence.  

So, what is your problem? And what is someone else’s problem? Let's figure it out together, on today’s episode.

Your partner in growth, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

Feeling "meh" lately? If so, join me today to learn:

• What the current "science of happiness" has to say about what moves the happiness needle… and what does not.
• The biggest hidden culprit getting in between you and a joyful life
• Simple strategies to get reconnected with the real you (who IS still in there!)
• Why you can't buy happiness, but where to invest your resources to cultivate more joy
• Life hacks to make more space in your life for fun and play

I hope this discussion helps you reconnect with your joy. You deserve it.

All the best,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.GrowingSelf.com

Are you still beating yourself up for things you regret, or mistakes you made long ago? Good, caring people are always the hardest on themselves — but it takes a toll. On today's episode we're talking about how to forgive yourself through mindful self compassion, so that you can turn "regrets" into new opportunities for growth.

I hope these ideas help support you on your journey of growth and healing.

Your fellow traveler,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

We have all been through so much this past year, and are hopefully on the cusp of rebuilding. My guest today is author Eileen Hamra, who has a powerful message reminding us that within every loss are the seeds of renewal and rebirth. 

She's here to share her story, and her wise advice for how to heal through grief, how to rebuild your life after setbacks, and most importantly, how to love after loss. 

Join Us, 
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

Do you feel stuck in a job you don't love? Or like you're moving down a path to nowhere? In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I am interviewing career counseling expert, Megan R. and together we will be discussing how to align your career with your passion. 

Tune in to learn more about "career pathing," the types of questions that can create clarity, the mindsets of successful people, and some free "career success strategies" from an expert career coach.

Here's to your success!

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

P.S. If you have more career questions hop on over to the post for "Career Path Passion" @ GrowingSelf.com and leave a follow up question for Megan and I in the comments section. We're listening! — LMB 

If you're feeling a little rusty talking to people, it's time for a refresher course on how to communicate with confidence and charisma. 

Today's guest knows all about how to be interesting and fun to talk to, especially under pressure. Kristen Carney is a stand-up comedian, comedy writer, and coach who's specialty is helping people be comfortable with others, create a positive impression, and be more confident in conversations.

In this episode, you’ll learn how to create "charismatic conversations" that breathe life into relationships. Join us! 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

It can be hard to trust yourself, particularly around intuition. Many of us, especially women, minimize our feelings, explain away our concerns, and doubt ourselves... to our detriment.

Trusting yourself is vital to making your way confidently through the world. It's also true that not all thoughts and feelings are trustworthy. It's confusing!

Being able to tell the difference between anxiety and intuition will help you trust yourself, so that you can move forward fearlessly.

Learn how, join me!

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

Satisfying, stable relationships. A meaningful, prosperous career. Feeling good about yourself and your life. What do they all have in common? Emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence is the hidden "x-factor" that makes everything work. Without it, you can spin in frustration and failure... and never know why.

Emotional intelligence is crucial for your love, happiness and success. In today's episode, find out how your emotional intelligence skills stack up, and learn actionable strategies to improve emotional intelligence — starting today.

With love, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

It's effortless for kind, competent, hard-working people to say "yes" to all the demands for their time and attention. But just because you can do something doesn't mean you should.

If you're not setting healthy boundaries around your time and energy, the result can be mental and emotional depletion, burnout, and disconnection from what truly matters.

On this episode of the podcast I'm talking with Becky Morrison about how to get clear about your priorities and set healthy boundaries. Learning how to (selectively!) say "yes" only to what's most important makes amazing things happen.

Learn how — join us!

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

How about this idea for a #NewYearsGoal? Learn how to practice radical self acceptance, and love yourself, for who and what you already are.

Learning how to be okay with not being okay, have compassion for yourself and others, and grow in your authenticity may sound like the antithesis of personal development, but the opposite is true:  The practice of radical acceptance can (paradoxically) lead to transformational change on every level. 

Learn how to lean in, in this episode. 

And happy new year!

xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

Difficult conversations are tough to have, and easy to avoid (or botch). But authentic communication is vital for healthy relationships — especially when it's about something that is really important to you. It's at times like these that productive, compassionate "critical conversations" are so crucial. 

Today: Learn real-world strategies for how to have difficult conversations so that you can prevent differences from fracturing your most important relationships.

xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

It's a brand new DECADE! To celebrate, we're doing something special in this episode: I'm going to walk you, step by step, through a "growth experience" that will help you create your very own Ten Year Plan so that you have clarity about where you want to be (and how to get there!) over the next ten years.

To help you get the most out of this, I've created some free resources to assist you: Text 10YPlan to 33777 OR visit GrowingSelf.com/My-Ten-Year-Plan to get access to my (totally free) Online 10 Year Planning Tool and / or printable pdf. 

Then, together, we'll walk through this powerful activity together. By the end you'll have new self-awareness, clarity about what you want, but, most importantly, knowledge about specifically what you need to do (and not do!) to achieve your ideal reality 10 years from now.

Let's do this! And HAPPY NEW YEAR!

Your partner in growth,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com