Ever feel stuck, like you're trying SO hard to change, but somehow end up back in the same place? You're not alone, and guess what—it's not your fault. In this episode, we'll unlock the secrets to reprogramming your subconscious mind to finally get the life you want. 🙌

Whether you're aiming to nail your New Year's resolutions or just break free from old patterns, this episode will give you the tools to make it happen. ✨

Timestamps to Transform Your Mindset:

00:00 – Why “Wanting It” Isn’t Enough

03:05 – Mind Wars: Conscious vs. Subconscious Goals

05:07 – Aligning Goals with Subconscious Needs

10:08 – How to Identify Limiting Beliefs

24:03 – Brain Rewiring 101 

41:14 – Building Self-Trust: Small Steps, Big Shifts

45:51 – Your Roadmap to Lasting Change

Ready to take the first step? Check out my free What’s Holding You Back? quiz for personalized insights into your subconscious blocks! This will help you start your new year off with clarity and confidence so you can achieve what matters most to you.

Wishing you all the best in this new chapter!

Xoxo 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Growingself.com

P.S. Don’t forget to share this episode with a friend who’s so ready to make a change—you might just change their life, and get an accountability partner in the process. Let’s do this together! 💪

Friend, this topic is SO important I'm putting it back in front of you again. Here's the deal: Even people in strong, satisfying relationships can develop feelings of attraction for another person. It's part of the human experience. These feelings can be transient and meaningless... OR they could destroy your life, if you follow them. 

Are crushes innocent, or on-ramps to an affair? Can you be "friends" with someone you have a crush on, without risking your relationship? What should you do when you're married, but have a crush on someone else? Oh, the questions!

It happens: people in happy, healthy, committed relationships can still develop crushes on others. However, smart, self-aware people in committed relationships that they care about need to handle these maturely and with wisdom. That's what you'll learn how to do on today's show. We'll discuss: 

• The mechanics of a crush; how and why crushes develop
• The difference between a crush and a platonic friendship
• Why happy, committed married people can have crushes on others
• How crushes can turn into something more serious
• How to use self awareness, integrity, and honesty to protect your marriage
• How to use your crush experience in order to add energy and intimacy into your relationship
• Warning signs that your crush is developing into something else
• Why extramarital affairs are always a bad idea, and rarely end well
• How to stop having a crush on someone else
• How to avoid embarrassment and professional ruin if you have a crush on a coworker
• How to protect your relationship and stay true to your values even when you're having feelings for another.

All this and more on today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast.

xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

Ps: As we discussed in this episode, part of your action plan needs to be leaning towards your partner in an authentic and emotionally intimate way, and that calls for excellent communication skills. To support you in this, please help yourself to my free two part communication skills training, "Communication That Connects." I made this for you!  ... LMB

How often do you say "yes" when you really want to say "no"? If you've ever felt that way, you're not alone! Today, we're diving into what happens when you stand up to someone in all areas of life—work, relationships, even healthcare. 

My guest is the incredible Dr. Sunita Sah, an award-winning professor at Cornell and author of Defy: The Power of No in a World That Demands Yes. Dr. Sah's research focuses on why so many of us feel pressured to go along with things we don't believe in and how we can cultivate the courage to say "no" when it matters most.

In this episode, you'll learn how social norms and "insinuation anxiety" hold us back from standing up for our true selves. You’ll walk away with the confidence to take small, powerful steps toward defiance in a way that feels authentic and empowering.

Timestamps

00:22 - Meet Dr. Sunita Sah: Her Story of Transformation

00:47 - The Psychology of Compliance and Defiance

01:31 - Defying Social Pressures: Real-Life Stories

02:07 - Why Compliance in the Workplace Hurts Us All

07:37 - A Fresh Take on Defiance: It’s Not What You Think

10:11 - The Social Roots of Compliance

17:51 - Facing the Inner Blocks to Standing Up for Yourself

25:32 - Practical Steps to Strengthen Your Defiance Muscle

33:23 - Living Authentically: The Real Benefits of Saying No

45:02 - Wrapping Up: Your Takeaways and Resources

Having low self esteem can make it hard to stand up for yourself. Is this true for you? Find out by taking my free Self Esteem Quiz! You’ll find out where your self esteem thrives and discover new areas for growth. Take it here. 

And, join me for a live Q&A this Thursday at 12 pm MT on YouTube, where we'll be talking all about self-advocacy. Want to submit a question anonymously? Use this link

PS: Think of someone who could use a boost in self-advocacy? Share this episode with them, and let’s help each other live authentically! ❤️

Is pornography addiction taking a toll on your life or relationship? You’re not alone, and real help is here! 🙌 

In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I sit down with the incredible Sathiya Sam, founder of the Deep Clean program, to discuss what recovery from porn addiction actually looks like. 

Together, we dive into tough (but crucial) questions: How do you spot the signs of addiction? What does true healing look like for both individuals and couples? And, most importantly, how can you support a partner without losing yourself along the way?

🎥 Ready to learn practical strategies for growth, connection, and positive change? Listen now and find actionable steps to help you or your loved one break free from pornography addiction, once and for all. 

Timestamps:

00:00 – The Hidden Impact of Porn Addiction

01:03 – Meet Sathiya: From Personal Struggle to Lifelong Mission

06:21 – Spotting the Warning Signs

10:46 – The Toll on Relationships and Intimacy

13:48 – Physical and Emotional Consequences

18:35 – Healing Betrayal Trauma Together

21:13 – Steps Toward Lasting Recovery

22:53 – Three Core Steps to Heal

23:41 – Building Self-Awareness

26:40 – How Trauma Shapes Addiction

30:56 – Supporting Your Partner’s Recovery (Without Losing Yourself)

36:41 – Long-Term Transformation

If you or a loved one are ready to break free from porn addiction, I have something to share with you. Recovery starts with connection—and connection starts with communication. My free video training series, Communication That Connects, is here to help you open up, ask for support, and rebuild trust with those who matter most. You don’t have to do this alone. 

Your partner in growth, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

P.S. Don’t miss this week’s live stream on Thursday at 12 pm MT here on YouTube, where we'll dive deeper into porn addiction recovery. Submit your anonymous questions in advance – I’d love to help you find your way forward. 💬

Are you walking on eggshells, questioning your sanity, and starting to wonder if your partner’s behavior is actually...narcissism?

In this episode, we’re diving deep into the challenging and often painful question of whether you might be married to a narcissist. Narcissism isn’t a one-size-fits-all diagnosis; it has shades, nuances, and layers, which can make it tough to recognize and even harder to deal with.

Chapters:

00:45 - The Signs You’re Married to a Narcissist

10:47 - The Two Types of Narcissists: Wounded vs. Malignant. 

19:12 - Inside the Narcissistic Relationship Cycle

27:00 - Can a Relationship with a Narcissist Work? 

44:42 - Strategies to Navigate Conflicts. 

If you're in a relationship with someone who might be a narcissist, I know how exhausting and frustrating communication can be. That's why I created my free 2-part video training, Communication That Connects. You’ll learn practical tools to de-escalate arguments, protect your emotional well-being, and build healthier patterns of connection, even with difficult personalities. I hope you check it out. ❤️

And don’t forget to join me for this week’s livestream on Thursday at 12 pm MT / 2pm ET on YouTube, where we’ll chat all about being married to a narcissist. You can ask an anonymous question in advance at https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.

If you know someone else who could benefit from this episode, send it over to them! Let’s keep looking out for each other. 

Xo,
Dr. Lisa

GrowingSelf.com

Are You Exhausted Trying to Help Someone Who Won’t Change? Here’s What Actually Works!

Have you ever bent over backward trying to help someone you love, only to feel like you’re getting nowhere? You’re not alone—and I’ve got good news: people can change. But here’s the kicker: they’ll only do it when it comes from within.

In this episode, I’m breaking down the psychology of change, the stages people go through, and the surprising reason why trying to force change never works (spoiler alert: it usually backfires). You’ll also learn powerful, actionable strategies to:

✅ Set healthy boundaries (without guilt).
✅ Protect your emotional well-being (because you matter too!).
✅ Provide the kind of support that actually encourages growth.

If you’re ready to stop feeling stuck and frustrated, and instead discover the most effective way to empower someone on their journey—this is for you. 🎧

Timestamps You’ll Love:
00:00 – Why It Feels Impossible to Change Someone Else
01:15 – Can People Really Change? (Yes, But Here’s the Secret)
03:45 – The Real Power of Intrinsic Motivation
06:20 – The Stages of Change: Where Your Loved One Might Be
12:40 – Setting Boundaries That Encourage Growth
18:55 – Avoiding the Trap of Enabling
23:15 – Free Tools to Help You and Your Loved One

BONUS GOODIES!
👉 Want to help a loved one uncover what’s really holding them back? Share my free What’s Holding You Back? Quiz with them—it’s designed to uncover hidden obstacles, subconscious blocks, and personal strengths to help them move forward with confidence.

👉 Don’t miss this week’s YouTube Livestream: How to Help Someone Who Doesn’t Want to Help Themselves (Thursday, 12 pm MT). You can even submit an anonymous question ahead of time here: www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.

This conversation could change everything. See you there! 🎥

Are political differences with people you love threatening to tear your relationships apart? You’re definitely not alone! Today, we’re diving deep into the delicate dance of keeping relationships healthy across political divides. 

In this episode, I’m sharing the strategies to help you navigate tricky conversations with grace, keep your cool, and protect your own happiness along the way. By the end, you’ll know exactly how to preserve the connections you care about most, even when politics threaten to tear you apart. Stick around to the end—I’ve got some free resources to help you practice these skills and share them with your loved ones. Let’s jump in!

Timestamps:

00:00 - Are Political Differences Threatening Your Relationships?  

04:22 - Assess the Importance of Each Relationship  

07:32 - Radical Acceptance (It's Tough, But Worth It!)  

11:12 - Emotional Regulation - How to Stay Cool  

16:49 - Focus on the Positives (Yes, Really!)  

23:09 - Set & Maintain Healthy Boundaries  

32:18 - Advanced Skills: Radical Curiosity and Empathy  

39:06 - Free Resources + Final Thoughts

If you loved this episode, don’t miss the next video in this series! Let’s keep building those relationship skills.

P.S. Need a little more support? Check out my free Communication That Connects 2-Part Video Series. Also, join me Thursday at 12 pm MT for a live session right here on YouTube on this very topic, how to navigate political differences in relationships. You can even submit an anonymous question right here.

Are you feeling stuck in a cycle of conflict and misunderstanding with your partner? You're not alone—and you're not powerless to fix it! In today’s episode, I’m breaking down how to fix a broken relationship by exploring the underlying patterns that keep couples locked in negative cycles.

Plus, I’ll share my own story (yes, I’ve been there too) and reveal the key strategies and mindset shifts that can help bring you and your partner back together. If you’ve been trying to make things better but feel like you’re swimming against the tide, tune in for some essential insights and actionable steps to get your relationship back on track

In this video, we’ll cover:

0:32 – The Toxic Spiral of Negative Communication  

3:15 – Uncovering the Hidden Patterns  

6:48 – How Negative Cycles Shape Perception  

10:25 – Breaking Free and Finding Real Solutions  

15:45 – When to Seek Help  

Want more guidance on fixing your relationship? Check out my free resource, How Healthy Is Your Relationship Quiz. Using this quiz, you’ll be able to decipher strengths and growth points in your relationship. 

If you want to ask me a question about your relationship, join me this Thursday at 12 pm MT on YouTube for my Livestream about how to fix a broken relationship. Submit your question anonymously here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. See you there!

"This wasn't supposed to happen!"

Have you ever felt life throw you a curveball so big it knocked you flat? It’s that gut-punch moment when plans unravel, your candidate didn't win, dreams dissolve, and you’re left wondering, “Now what?” In this episode, I’ll take you through the tools and mindset shifts needed to transform disappointment into personal growth. We’ll talk about the power of radical acceptance, why it’s okay to feel all the feels, and how to find the hidden opportunities in setbacks.

Timestamps:  

00:00 Intro: Life’s Unexpected Curveballs  

01:22 Embracing Disappointment: Feel All the Emotions  

05:46 Finding the Lesson in Loss  

15:23 Radical Acceptance and Moving Forward  

18:36 Steer Clear of Destructive Reactions  

21:16 What Does This Make Possible?

24:15 Conclusion and Free Resources  

PS: Get free access to my Emotional Wellness Collection, a personally curated podcast and blog collection designed to help you grow and stay well emotionally. 

Also, don’t miss our live Q&A this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube, where we’ll dive even deeper into this topic. Submit an anonymous question in advance here:

https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

See you there!

How strong is your intuition? Do you trust your inner wisdom? More importantly… can you tell the difference between intuitive thoughts and anxiety? Today you’re going to learn how to trust your gut! 

In this episode, I’m thrilled to sit down with Brittney Carmichael, intuitive healer and founder of Shine School, as we dig into how to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety, the subtle cues of inner wisdom, and ways to strengthen this instinct into a true superpower.

Whether you’re an intuitive veteran or someone just starting to listen to that quiet inner voice, this conversation will give you the practical tools you need to better understand, trust, and strengthen your intuitive thought.

Timestamps:

00:00 - Intro: Intuition or Anxiety?

02:23 - Intuition vs. Fear: Brittany’s Insights

05:14 - Building Intuitive Strength 

10:39 - Brittany’s Journey to Inner Wisdom

20:24 - Understanding Your Inner Voice

29:54 - Self-Love as a Foundation for Intuition

33:02 - Power of Positive Self-Talk

49:17 - How to Trust Your Inner Wisdom

*P.S.* Want to dig even deeper? Take the free "What's Holding You Back?" quiz and get clarity on what might be standing in your way. Plus, join me for this week’s Livestream Q&A on Intuitive Thought, Thursday at 12 pm MT,on Instragram, Facebook, or Youtube. Submit an anonymous question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.

Ever feel like the love, support, or security you needed growing up was just… missing? And now, you’re feeling the effects in your relationships, your self-esteem, or even your ability to create the life you *really* want? If this hits home, don’t worry—you’re not stuck! 

This week I’m joined by THE legendary Dr. Dan Siegel, and we’re diving deep into the powerful process of reparenting yourself. Together, we’re going to show you how to rewire your brain for emotional healing, break free from past patterns, and build healthy, fulfilling relationships.

✨ In this episode, you’ll learn:

- How childhood experiences shape your adult life (but don’t define it!)

- The healing power of contingent communication in relationships

- Practical strategies like the *Wheel of Awareness* for personal growth

- The importance of presence over perfection in parenting—and in life!

Chapters:

00:00 Introduction to Emotional Healing

02:41 The Importance of Childhood Development

06:29 Understanding Contingent Communication

13:55 The Impact of Early Experiences on Adult Life

14:31 Healing from the Past

20:12 Developing Healthier Relationship Patterns

21:19 Understanding Temperament and Personality

23:35 The Enneagram and Attachment Insecurity (Really!)

27:09 Practical Techniques for Personal Growth

30:25 The Role of Agency, Bonding, and Certainty

35:33 Achieving Wholeness and Integration

38:26 Resources and Final Thoughts

🌟 Want more? Grab this free resource I created for you: a curated collection of all my best articles and podcasts on attachment, emotional healing, and healthy relationships at https://www.growingself.com/connections/.

And… drumroll please! Join me for this week’s live Q&A on Thursday at 12 pm MT on Youtube, Instagram, and/or Facebook where I’ll be talking about emotional healing and reparenting yourself!

Got a question? Ask me anonymously in advance using this link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

Let’s grow together! 🌱

Love,  

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Ever feel like your friendship is taking more out of you than it gives? If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in a relationship that feels draining, toxic, or just plain bad, you’re in the right place. In this episode of Love, Happiness & Success, I’m sitting down with Dr. Marisa Franco, a brilliant psychologist and bestselling author of Platonic, to talk about one of the toughest aspects of relationships—knowing when a friendship is no longer serving you.

Together, we’ll dive into the signs of toxic friends, how attachment styles play a role in our friendships, and whether or not these kinds of relationships can be saved. You’ll learn practical strategies to spot the red flags, approach difficult conversations with kindness and clarity, and—if it comes to it—find the courage to end friendships that have run their course.

Here’s what we cover:

• [00:00] The Friendship Trap: Why difficult friendships are harder to leave than romantic ones.
• [03:57] Attachment Styles in Friendships: How your past impacts your present friendships.
• [11:40] Making Positive Changes: How to recognize toxic patterns and start healing.
• [17:34] Conflict or Goodbye? How to assess if this friendship can be saved.
• [28:21] Deciding to End a Friendship: When enough is enough, and how to let go with grace.

If you’ve ever wondered whether a friendship is worth fighting for or it’s time to walk away, this episode is for you.

Ready to dig deeper? Take my free self-esteem quiz to see how your self-worth might be impacting your relationships: How Healthy is Your Self-Esteem?

Also, I’d love for you to join me for this week’s YouTube Livestream on Thursday at 12 pm MT, where we’ll talk even more about navigating toxic friendships. Submit an anonymous question in advance right here: Dear Lisa. I’ll see you there!

— Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Does your therapist talk too much about themselves during YOUR sessions?

This is a common issue, and it can really get in the way of your work. They’re on your dime, and your time with them should be all about you—not an outlet for them. Frankly, knowing too much about your therapist can even be a barrier to positive outcomes.

The reality is, we therapists are human, and we have our own personal and professional growth trajectories. That’s why I’ve created a new side project: Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists.

In one of my latest episodes, I had a big sister-style heart-to-heart with therapists about how to contain their own "stuff"—because if we don’t, it can splash onto our clients. And I wanted to share this episode with you so you could share it with them.

Here ya go: https://www.growingself.com/self-disclosure-in-therapy-how-much-is-too-much/

Use it as a way to start a courageous conversation with your therapist about what you need, what you want, and what’s working—or not working—in your relationship. Plus, you’ll be providing them with a resource that supports their growth. Win, win, win!

If you’re a therapist reading this, I have so much for you! Connect with me at growingself.com/therapists to access this episode and many more on how to flourish and thrive in this career we all love.

xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Breakups are brutal. I know you're wondering, “How long will it take before I finally feel like myself again?” Trust me, you’re not alone. In this episode, we’re diving deep into the million-dollar question: How long does it really take to get over a breakup? And, even more importantly, what do you need to DO in order to move forward and not get stuck in the past?

 I'm joined by Kendra Allen, the amazing host of Breakup Bestie, and together we unpack the factors that impact your healing timeline. Spoiler alert: it’s different for everyone! But we’ve got insights, personal stories, and actionable advice to help you make sense of your own process and feel more empowered as you heal.

We’re covering everything from how long it takes to feel "okay" again, to why some relationships hurt more than others, and how to know if you’re truly moving on. Plus, Kendra shares her journey of transformation after addiction and abusive relationships, offering you hope that growth is possible—even when it feels like the pain of heartbreak will never end.

Join us to learn about:

00:00 – The Hardest Question After a Breakup: How Long Will This Take?
05:40 – Kendra’s Story: From Addiction to Empowerment
12:19 – Why Some Breakups Take Longer to Heal Than Others
19:32 – The Emotional Rollercoaster: What Healing Really Looks Like
29:00 – Handling Triggers: Holidays, Anniversaries & More
37:15 – How to Know if You’re Truly Healing or Just Surviving
45:20 – Next Steps: Tools and Advice for Moving On

If you’re hurting after heartbreak, this one’s for you. Thanks for tuning in, and/or for sharing this episode with a friend or loved one who is feeling stuck in heartbreak, and needs some direction for how to move forward.

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

PS: Want to see how far along you are in your breakup recovery? Take my free quiz, How Over Your Ex Are You? 👉 Take the Quiz

Join me for a live Q&A this Thursday at 12 PM MT on YouTube, where we’ll tackle the topic of Getting Over Your Ex. Submit your questions anonymously in advance ( Ask Here)

Or just jump into the conversation on Instagram, Facebook, or YouTube. See you there! 

Friend, partner, or job said "thanks but no thanks"? Well, the joke's on them: If you know how to mine the gold in this opportunity it could wind up being the best thing that’s ever happened to YOU.

And... Rejection sucks. Whether it’s from a friend, a romantic partner, or a job you really wanted, it can leave you feeling bruised and wondering, “Is it just me?” Guess what? It’s not just you, and it’s not the end of the world (promise!). 🌟 In fact, rejection can be the key to unlocking your most resilient, powerful self. Yeah, I said it!

Join me as I break down the very real emotions behind rejection and share how you can use it as a springboard for serious personal growth. We’ll cover how rejection shows up in your personal, professional, and social life—and how to cope, heal, and come out stronger on the other side. Ready to transform those “no’s” into growth? Let’s do this! 🙌

What We’ll Cover:

00:00 - Rejection Feels Awful, But... Why rejection hits so hard and why it’s universal.

02:42 - Resilience & Growth: Your New Best Friends - Turning setbacks into setups for your future self. 

12:47 - Friendship Rejection: Why Does This Hurt So Much? Handling the emotional sting of being ghosted or left out by friends. 

20:28 - Heartbreak Hotel: Dealing with Romantic Rejection Why getting dumped can hurt on a primal level and how to come out of it stronger. 

43:42 - Career Flops: Professional Rejection and What to Do Next Didn’t get the job? Fired? Here’s how to bounce back like a boss. 💼

51:45 - Your Rejection Recovery Plan: Next Steps Actionable strategies to heal and grow from any kind of rejection.

🔥 Bonus: Want to chat about your own experiences with rejection? Jump into this week’s live stream where we’ll be swapping stories, getting advice, and supporting each other! 🗓️ Submit your questions in advance right here. Want to start doing the work we're discussing today? Book a free consultation for coaching at GrowingSelf.com.

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

#RejectionRecovery #EmotionalResilience #LoveHappinessSuccess #PersonalGrowth

Let’s get real for a minute—have you ever found yourself thinking, "I have no sex drive," and feeling completely stuck about what to do next? You’re not alone. So many people are struggling with this exact issue, and today, I’m diving deep into why that happens, how it affects your relationship, and most importantly—what you can do about it.

In this episode, I’m joined by Allison Gilbert, co-author with the iconic Dr. Ruth Westheimer on her last book "The Joy of Connections." We’ll explore how a lack of intimacy in your relationship can leave you feeling lost, but we’re also unpacking Dr. Ruth’s brilliant “menu for connection.” It’s full of ways to reignite your bond—not just in the bedroom, but through shared activities, better communication, and ultimately, deeper self-reflection.

We’ll tackle some tough love truths (like the role self-love plays in intimacy), and I’ll share actionable strategies to help you reconnect with your partner, starting today.

Episode Breakdown:

[00:00] – Where’s the Spark?
Why so many people feel disconnected from their partners—and how it happens more often than you think.

[00:47] – Dr. Ruth’s Secret Sauce
The first thing to check when your sex drive is gone—your relationship dynamics!

[02:09] – It’s Not Them, It’s You?
The surprising role self-love plays in keeping intimacy alive.

[03:47] – The “Menu for Connection”
Five elements Dr. Ruth swears by to build a richer, more meaningful connection with your partner.

[05:47] – Fun Outside the Bedroom
How activities like pickleball (yes, pickleball!) could reignite the flames of passion.

[08:06] – What’s Really Going On?
Digging deeper: how emotional barriers like resentment might be blocking your connection.

[12:41] – Therapy or Time to Move On?
When it’s time to seek help—or even consider a bigger decision.

[15:41] – You Deserve Better
Dr. Ruth’s empowering message: You deserve happiness, fun, and great sex—don’t settle for less.

[17:16] – Let’s Wrap This Up!
Final thoughts and inspiration to help you take that first step toward a better, more intimate relationship.

Tune in, share your thoughts, and let’s create a life full of love, connection, and fun together!

Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

P.S. ⭐ Ready for more? ⭐
Download my free guide, "Communication that Connects," to start having meaningful conversations that build closeness in your relationship. And don’t forget to join me for this week’s live stream on Thursday at 12 PM MT—we’ll dive even deeper into intimacy and connection. Submit your anonymous questions ahead of time right here!

P. P.S: Who else in your life needs to hear this message today? Forward this episode to them and feel good about being a positive “change agent” in the lives of others. You and I are on the same mission my friend! Xo, L

Where did everyone go?? At some point, many/most adults look up one day to realize that all their old friends have either moved to Austin or are completely buried in #babylife or never-ending home improvement projects… and they have nobody to spontaneously get a beer with on a Tuesday night. Can you relate?

It's not just you. Did you know that, on average, most people lose more friends every year than they gain? Over time, your life can become increasingly lonely unless you’re actively working to build and maintain friendships. But here’s the thing: making new friends as an adult is harder than it sounds. 😅

In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, we dive deep into the complexities of adult friendships with journalist Kelly Stout, who spent a month trying to make just one new friend… and learned some important things that she’s sharing with YOU.  From the unexpected emotional hurdles to the surprising lessons about vulnerability and connection, we explore what it really takes to form meaningful relationships in adulthood. 💛

If you’ve ever struggled with loneliness, wondered why your social circle shrinks as the years go by, or just feel stuck when it comes to making new friends, this episode is for you. 🙌

Chapters
00:00 Can Happiness Really Be Found Through Friendships?
00:19 Why Your Friendships Are More Important Than You Think
00:58 Meet Kelly Stout: Her One-Month Quest to Make a New Friend
02:30 What Happens When You Set a Deadline to Make a Friend?
04:58 The Hidden Challenges of Building Friendships as an Adult
12:55 What Actually Defines a True Friendship?
15:40 Friendship Experiments: What Works and What Doesn’t
18:32 Why Opening Up to Others Feels So Scary—And Necessary
22:33 The Biggest Lessons We Learned About Friendship
25:01 When Friendships Feel Fleeting: Why It Happens
25:45 Vulnerability Hangover: Ever Felt It? Here’s Why It Happens
25:56 Turning Points: When You Realize You’re Doing Friendship All Wrong
26:33 Can You Fast-Track Emotional Intimacy? Let’s Find Out
27:18 Why We Gravitate Toward People Just Like Us—And What to Do About It
27:45 Discovering the Power of Friendships with People Who Are Different
28:19 The Comfort and Complexity of Long-Term Friendships
29:53 Bumble for Friends: Can You Really Make Friends on an App?
32:01 How Internalized Shame is Holding You Back from Friendship
34:03 The Reality of Keeping Friendships Alive as an Adult
43:57 Why We Crave Community—and How to Build One
47:01 Modern Loneliness: Why Life is Designed to Keep Us Isolated
53:44 Final Reflections: How to Create Real Friendships That Last

💡 Learn how to overcome the struggles of making friends as an adult and build a community that brings joy and connection back into your life.

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

PS: I think you and I should be friends! Come hang out with me on a Thursday live stream! Mark your calendar right now, it's at 12pm MT / 2pm ET on my Instagram, Youtube, and Facebook. This week we're talking about friendships. If you have a question or conundrum related to this, here's the link to ask in advance: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa. Be sure to subscribe/follow so you get updates and recaps!

P.P.S. As promised in this podcast, here's the link to grab your totally free and VAST collection of all my best articles and podcasts on the subject of healthy relationships. I made it for YOU. 

Could you be accidentally and unintentionally DESTROYING your relationship? Pro tip from a marriage counselor: Many, many people are... and literally have no idea. 

I think I know why. Everyone with an Instagram account is posting things about what they think you should do to have a great relationship—communication tips, romantic date ideas, etc.—but let’s be real... sometimes, it's more important to know what NOT to do! And nobody talks about that!! 

That’s why today, we’re flipping the script on the usual relationship advice you hear. 💥

In this episode, we’re breaking down the 12 Most Effective Ways to Destroy Your Relationship (so you can avoid them like the plague).

Trust me, as a marriage counselor, I’ve seen it all. Whether it’s neglecting your partner or constantly blaming your “issues” when you behave badly, even the strongest couples can unknowingly make these mistakes. But don’t worry, I’m not here to throw shade—I'm here to help you laugh, learn, and most importantly, grow! 🌱

By the end of this, you’ll not only recognize these pitfalls, but also walk away with actionable tips to make sure you’re NOT sabotaging your love life. 🙌

Here's what you'll learn: ⏱️

00:00 Intro: The 12 Biggest Relationship Mistakes

02:36 Mistake #12: Making the Relationship ALL About You

04:36 Mistake #11: Blaming Everything on Your Issues

08:26 Mistake #10: Neglecting Your Partner (The Silent Killer)

11:20 Mistake #9: Too Much Togetherness (Yikes!)

And all the way down... to the number one biggest relationship killer! 

💬 Let’s talk: Have you fallen into any of these traps? What’s one mistake you’re guilty of? Drop a comment on Instagram @drlisamariebobby —I’d love to hear from you!

AND if you want to get my perspective on some not-so-fantastic things that might be happening in your relationship (and how to make it stop) join me on Thursday for a live stream on this topic! Use this link to ask your Q and get reminders to join on Thursday at 12 pm MT / 2pm ET. https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

If you're feeling like, "uh oh" after hearing this... you're not alone! I’ve helped thousands of couples turn things around, and you can too. 🌟

Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

💡 PS: If you're ready to start working on some positive new communication tools after hearing about the not great ones, check out my FREE training, “Communication That Connects” — it’s packed with tools to help you strengthen your connection and communicate like a pro!

🎧 Forget Everything You Knew About Anxiety – This Changes Everything! 🎧

Ever feel like anxiety has a grip on your life? Here’s the game-changing truth: You can heal anxietyy, not just manage the symptoms. 💥 In this transformative episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, I sit down with the brilliant Dr. Nicole Cain, a holistic anxiety expert and author of the upcoming book Panic Proof, to discuss a revolutionary approach to healing anxiety from the inside out. 🌱

👉 Imagine freeing yourself from anxiety by nurturing your body, mind, and soul. Together, we dive into practical strategies that blend psychology and holistic medicine to uncover the root causes of anxiety and address them at the deepest level. We even explore how anxiety shows up in relationships and, yes, even in the bedroom!

💡 What You'll Learn Today: 

00:00 The Truth About Healing Anxiety, Naturally 

00:18 Dr. Nicole's Story

12:28 Understanding Anxiety and Its Roots 

19:22 Esme’s Story: A Powerful Case Study 

33:54 Anxiety in Relationships & Sexuality 

42:43 Dr. Nicole's Three-Minute Hack for Instant Anxiety Relief 

50:39 How the Salience Network Impacts Anxiety 

54:30 VERY Generous Offer from Dr. Nicole!

✨ And... I'm so thrilled to share that Dr. Nicole will be my guest host on this week's live stream, and available to answer YOUR questions. Join us Thursday 9/5 at 12 PM MT on my YouTube, Instagram, or Facebook. Want a reminder or to ask a Q in advance? Get that set up right here: www.growingself.com/dear-lisa.  🙌

If you missed the chance to hop on with us LIVE you can catch the recap video right here starting 9/6: https://www.growingself.com/natural-anxiety-relief

🎥 Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and share this episode with anyone you know who’s struggling with anxiety—this could be the breakthrough they’ve been waiting for!

Your partner in growth, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

Wondering why your therapist acts a little... strange? What are all those long, awkward silences about? Why won't they follow you on social media? You made DIRECT EYE CONTACT with them at the grocery store but they didn't acknowledge your presence. Why?? In this episode, we’re diving into the surprising truth behind therapist boundaries and why they matter for your personal growth.

 In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m pulling back the curtain on some of the “weird” things therapists do (like, why won’t they just give you a hug already?!), and why those boundaries are actually super important for your healing journey.

We’ll also break down the difference between therapy and coaching, why therapists never give direct advice, and how these boundaries create a safe, effective space for you to thrive. Plus, I’m sharing insights that will help you build a strong, healthy relationship with your therapist. If you're in therapy, you’ll walk away with some major a-ha moments!

Timestamps:

00:00 - Let’s Get Real: Why Do Therapists Have Such Weird Boundaries?
02:25 - The Surprising Power of Therapist Boundaries
06:43 - Why Your Therapist Won’t Steer the Conversation (Hint: It’s for YOU)
09:10 - Therapist vs. Coach: Which One Do You Really Need?
12:35 - The Ethics Behind the Scenes: How Good Therapists Keep You Safe
24:25 - Why Your Therapist Stays Neutral (Even When It Feels Weird)
31:55 - Session Time Limits & Contact Rules—What’s Up with That?
35:51 - The Secret to a Healthy Therapist-Client Relationship
45:44 - Wrap Up: Final Thoughts and Takeaways

Wanna Learn More?

• Signs You Have a Bad Therapist

• How to Find a Good Therapist

Don’t forget to like, subscribe, and hit the bell so you never miss an episode on all things therapy, coaching, and personal growth! Let’s keep this conversation going! 💖

Ready to shake off low self esteem for good, and grow into the confident, competent person you want to be? Good news: Confidence isn't born, it's BUILT, meaning you have more control over how you feel about yourself than you might think.

On today’s podcast you’ll learn the essence of authentic self-worth, and how to grow into the kind of person that exudes confidence (in a good way). As a licensed psychologist, marriage and family therapist, and board-certified coach, I’m sharing why confidence isn’t just a feeling you magically have—it’s something you build through consistent, value-driven actions. 

Together, we’ll explore practical ways to develop self-respect, trust your judgment, and foster a deep-rooted belief in your worth. Whether you're looking to overcome self-doubt or grow into the confident person you aspire to be, this episode offers steps you can start taking today.

Here’s what you’ll learn:

00:00 Introduction to Authentic Confidence

01:43 Understanding Authentic Confidence

04:23 Building Confidence Through Actions

06:12 Overcoming Misconceptions About Confidence

07:53 Identifying and Aligning with Your Values

13:26 Personal Story: The Journey to Self-Respect

17:10 Developing a Growth Mindset

34:50 Practical Tips for Exuding Confidence

44:42 Conclusion and Free Resources

Want more guidance? Join me LIVE on Thursday for a Q&A, where I’ll answer your questions about building confidence and self-esteem. Submit your questions in advance through https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa for personalized advice!

Don’t forget to take our free "How Healthy Is Your Self-Esteem?" quiz at https://www.growingself.com/self-esteem-test/ to see where you stand and discover next steps for boosting your self-worth.

See you there! 👏💪 #Confidence #SelfEsteem #ExudeConfidence #PersonalGrowth #LiveQandA #GrowingSelf

Anger can destroy a relationship, but it can also be the doorway to deeper connections and the emotional intimacy you want and deserve. 

In this episode of 'Love, Happiness, and Success,' we’re not just talking about managing anger in relationships—we’re transforming it into a tool for deepening emotional intimacy and strengthening your connection. Join me, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby, as we explore the roots of anger, its impact, and practical strategies to use it constructively. Learn how to manage anger, communicate effectively, build emotional intelligence, and turn conflict into meaningful connection. Plus, I’ve got some incredible free resources for you!

00:00 Introduction 

01:58 Roots of Anger 

08:36 Communication Strategies 

18:23 Problem Solving & Emotional Intelligence 

28:34 Free Resources & Final Thoughts

Ready to transform your relationship? Tune in now! 💬❤️

#LoveHappinessSuccess #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipGoals #TransformYourLove

Xoxo,
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

PS: Grab that FREE two part “Communication That Connects”  training right here! 

P.P.S. I’m going LIVE this Thursday to answer your relationship questions. Want to submit your question in advance and/or get a recap of this video? Here’s the link: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa Otherwise, set a reminder and I’ll see you soon!

Feeling trapped in a high-paying job you hate? 😔💸 Welcome to the golden handcuffs dilemma, where financial success comes at the expense of your happiness and mental well-being. 

In today's episode, we dive deep into the emotional and practical challenges of breaking free from a lucrative but unfulfilling career. You'll learn how to reclaim your freedom, reignite your passion, and find true fulfillment without sacrificing financial security. 🚀✨ 

Specifically, we’re discussing: 

00:00 Breaking the Chains: Intro to Escaping Golden Handcuffs

00:20 The Golden Cage: Understanding Why High Pay Can Trap You

05:08 Real Stories, Real Struggles: Listener Questions and Insights

08:02 The Silent Suffering: Emotional and Psychological Costs

14:26 Conquering Fears: How to Tackle Anxiety and Doubt

32:06 Roadmap to Freedom: Practical Steps for a Career Transition

46:36 Your Next Chapter: Actionable Takeaways and Final Thoughts 

It's time to escape the golden cage and design a life that truly makes you happy! Don't miss this transformative journey—hit play now! 🎥🔓 #GoldenHandcuffs #CareerChange #FindYourPassion #WorkLifeBalance

Xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

P.S. Want MORE expert career advice to help you move forward with clarity and confidence? I have so much for you! Sign up to get access to my ENTIRE “Career Clarity” content collection, full of articles and a curated podcast playlist featuring the best advice from the world-class career counselors of Growing Self. Totally free, all for you! Get it here...

7 WEIRD Things That Will Improve Your Relationship

Are you wondering, "How can I improve my relationship?" 🤔 You're in the right place! In this episode of "Love, Happiness, and Success," I’m sharing the most surprising and counterintuitive tips to dramatically enhance your relationship. From giving each other more space to embracing healthy anxiety, these strategies are strange - but they are based on research… and they are game-changers! 🌟

What we’re discussing:

 00:00 Introduction: Improving Your Relationship 

02:00 Counterintuitive Tip #1: Give Each Other Space 

04:07 Counterintuitive Tip #2: Embrace Healthy Anxiety 

05:53 Counterintuitive Tip #3: Embrace the Daily Grind 

07:45 Counterintuitive Tip #4: Focus on Yourself 

11:58 Counterintuitive Tip #5: Prioritize Sexuality 

14:30 Additional Tips: Shared Mission and Empathy 

17:20 Be an Activist for Your Relationship 

21:18 Conclusion and Free Resources

🔗 But wait, there’s more! Join my community and start transforming your relationship today!

👉 FREE Communication Skills Training: Master the art of healthy communication and avoid common pitfalls with my 100% free two-part communication skills training, which Includes a 30-page workbook packed with exercises to help you and your partner connect on a deeper level. Sign up for FREE right now at https://www.growingself.com/communication.

👉 Book a Free Consultation: Ready for personalized help? Schedule a free consultation with one of our expert relationship coaches. We’re here to support you every step of the way. Visit growingself.com to book your first meeting, to discuss your hopes and goals for your relationship and how we can help.

📅 Live Stream: Have questions or need advice? Just want to say hi? I’m here! Join me for a live stream this Thursday (and every Thursday) at 12 p.m. Mountain, 2 p.m. Eastern. Submit your questions in advance at https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa and get personalized tips to improve your relationship.

Let's create love, happiness, and success together! 💖✨

#HowToImproveYourRelationship #RelationshipAdvice #LoveHappinessSuccess #DrLisaMarieBobby #GrowingSelf #CouplesCounseling #RelationshipTips #HealthyRelationships #FreeCommunicationTraining #RelationshipCoaching

After you tune in and learn about these WEIRD strategie to improve your relationship, be sure to let me know in the comments which strategy you'll try first! (Or which one you’ll NEVER do - it’s all good! I’d also love to hear how this goes for you. Stay in tuch with me!  Don't forget to like, share, and subscribe! 💬💞

Xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

Was your marriage a MISTAKE? Today we’re diving into a question I hear a lot: "Did I marry the wrong person?" If your relationship feels hard and you're starting to wonder if you made the right choice, you’re in the right place.

We’ll tackle four essential areas to help you gain clarity: compatibility, communication, alignment, and growth opportunities. By the end of this episode, you’ll have some fresh ideas, free resources, and a clear plan to create positive change, whether with your partner or on your own.

Specifically, we’re discussing:

0:00 Introduction: Are You Married to the Wrong Person?

00:39 Understanding Relationship Challenges

06:46 The Importance of Compatibility

14:02 Communication: The Key to Connection

17:46 Emotional Connection and Alignment

22:27 Steps to Clarity and Growth

29:03 Discernment Counseling: Finding the Right Path

33:21 Free Resources and Final Thoughts

Thanks for tuning in!  Until next week, take care — and keep growing.

Xo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

P.S.To take advantage of that free two-part communication skills training I mentioned in this episode, head over to growingself.com/communication.

P.P.S. And don’t forget, if you’re listening to this the week it’s released, join me this Thursday at 12 PM Mountain, 2 PM Eastern on Instagram and YouTube for a live stream where I’ll be answering your questions about whether you married the wrong person. Submit your questions in advance at growingself.com/dear-lisa.

🔥 STOP PLAYING SMALL! 🔥 Discover the secrets to growing more confident and comfortable with putting yourself out there. 🌟

Are you constantly minimizing yourself, feeling guilty for setting boundaries, or believing that good things are meant for others but not for you? If so, it's time to break free from these limiting beliefs and start living unapologetically! In this powerful episode, we dive deep into why we play small and how to overcome it, empowering you to step into your greatness.

Today I'm sharing actionable strategies and inspiring insights to help you become your own hero. Whether it's in your relationships, career, or personal growth, it's crucial to stop playing small and start believing in your worth. Today's episode will help you do that! 💪✨

Xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

PS: Is this an issue for you? Want to talk about it?? Join me on this week’s livestream to share your story and get advice for how to STOP feeling guilty about being your awesome self. Jump in at 12 pm MT on 7/18, or submit your question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

#StopPlayingSmall #SelfEmpowerment #Confidence #SelfLove #PersonalGrowth #GrowingSelf

Timestamps / Chapters

02:15 – Signs You’re Playing Small

10:45 – Overcoming Limiting Beliefs

20:30 – Strategies for Self-Empowerment

30:00 – Free Resources and Next Steps

One of my listeners wrote in saying, "Dear Lisa,  https://www.growingself.com/feeling-unheard-in-relationship right now. I try to talk about how I feel, but I'm just not getting through. It seems like my partner is either not hearing me or not understanding me, and I feel so lonely. How do I change this situation?"

Honestly: This is one of the most common issues I hear about as a marriage counselor. In today’s podcast, I’m diving into why you might feel unheard in your relationship and sharing practical strategies to change that dynamic.

If this resonates with you, stick around because here’s what you’ll learn today:

• The common reasons behind feeling unheard.

• The impact of emotionally invalidating communication.

• How to engage in communication that fosters emotional intimacy.

• Practical tips and strategies to improve listening and being heard.

For even more insights, read the full article here.

💬 Also, Join the Conversation! Let's talk about YOU! 💬 I’m hosting a live Q&A session every Thursday at 12 PM Mountain (2 PM Eastern) where I'll answer your questions about feeling heard in your relationship. Join me live on YouTube, Facebook, or Instagram. You can submit your questions in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa

📘 Free Resource Alert! 📘 As I discussed in this episode, to help you even more, I’ve created a free two-part training series called “Communication that Connects.” This series includes:

• Two 45-minute training sessions

• A 30-page workbook filled with exercises and activities

Sign up for FREE at growingself.com/communication I made this for you!

Thank you so much for tuning in today. If you found this episode helpful, don’t forget to like, share, and subscribe. I look forward to helping you create more love, happiness, and success in your life!

xo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Is your relationship emotionally enmeshed? If it is... you probably don't realize it! So how can you know? And what can you do about it? Tune into this one to find out!

On this episode, we're talking about what emotional enmeshment is, and how you can untangle your heart strings and create a better relationship in the process. 

When couples are struggling with communication or conflict, emotional enmeshment is often the root issue. Once you address the enmeshment, your entire relationship can feel lighter and more enjoyable. But first you have to recognize enmeshment for what it is, and this episode will show you the way!

Tune in to learn: 

• What an emotionally enmeshed relationship looks like (the answer may surprise you!)
• The difference between emotional enmeshment and emotional intimacy
• Why emotional enmeshment is a big problem in relationships
• How to fix an enmeshed relationship and build a healthier connection.

And more! 

If you're wondering about enmeshment in your relationship, you can take my free "How Healthy Is Your Relationship Quiz" and learn more: https://www.growingself.com/relationship-quiz/ 

I hope you'll join me!

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. There is NO Thursday live stream on this topic this week. But I'll be back LIVE on Thursday 7/11 to address your questions about next week's podcast topic: What to do if you're feeling unheard in your relationship. Have questions already? Let me know and we'll discuss IRL on 7/11! 

Have you ever listened to an episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast and thought, "I wish I could talk to Dr. Lisa about this"? Now you can!

When: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time)
Where: Live on YouTube, Instagram, and Facebook

Each week, after dropping a new podcast episode on Monday, I'll host a live stream on Thursday to discuss that week's topic, answer your questions, and give you personalized advice.

How to Participate:

• Live: Tune in on any of my social channels: YouTube, Instagram, Facebook.
• Submit Questions in Advance: Visit growingself.com/dear-lisa to ask questions ahead of time and get a reminder before the live stream starts.
• Recap: If you can't make it live, sign up through the link to receive a recap video via email.

I love making the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast for you, but live streaming adds a special touch by allowing me to interact with you directly. I can't wait to chat about your life and your unique situation.

Mark Your Calendar: Every Thursday at 12:00 PM Mountain Time (2:00 PM Eastern Time). See you there!

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Have you been thinking about getting back together with your ex? It's completely natural to wonder if getting back together with an ex is a mistake, or if it might be the beginning of a beautiful new chapter in your relationship.

In this episode, I'm here to offer you the clarity you need. We'll walk through FOUR ESSENTIAL QUESTIONS that you must ask yourself and your ex before getting back together.

These questions are designed to help you understand whether giving your relationship another chance is the right move. Doing this introspective work will either set you up for a successful reunion or save you from investing time and energy into a relationship that may not have a future.

So, make yourself a cup of tea, grab your journal, and let's dive deep into these pivotal questions together. By the end of this episode, you'll feel empowered and equipped with the insights needed to make the best decision for your heart and your future. Let's get started! 🌟

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

P.S. Let's talk! Every week on Thursdays at 12pm MT / 2pm ET I'm hosting a live stream on Monday's podcast topic to answer YOUR questions. If you're wrestling with this "should we get back together or not" dilemma, I hope you join me!! Submit your question in advance here: https://www.growingself.com/dear-lisa, and then tune in on the socials: Instagram, YouTube or Facebook. See you Thursday!

P.P.S. In the meantime, take advantage of the free resources I mentioned on today's show including tons of insightful articles and a curated podcast playlist all about how to get "relationship clarity." They're all for you! https://www.growingself.com/stay-or-go

If your heart is hurting and your confidence is MIA after a breakup or divorce, I see you. That stripped-down, shell-of-yourself feeling? It’s real. But here’s the truth that can change everything: You can take your power back after a breakup—and in this episode, I’m going to show you how.

On today’s episode of the Love, Happiness, and Success podcast, we’re diving deep into what it really means to reclaim your sense of power after a breakup. Whether you were left, or you were the one who walked away, breakups can leave you feeling helpless, obsessively stuck on your ex, and questioning your self-worth. This episode is your permission slip to start choosing something better for yourself.

Timestamps:
01:48 – Why Breakups Feel So Disempowering
03:44 – How to Reclaim Your Power (Starting Today)
13:30 – Self-Love as a Rebellion
18:11 – Rewriting Your Story for Good
22:00 – Transforming Pain Into Growth
29:24 – How to Move Forward

Reclaiming your power after heartbreak isn’t about pretending you’re fine. It’s about facing your pain honestly—and using it as fuel to grow.

That’s why I created the Heal From Heartbreak Program. It’s an evidence-based, structured path through the most important emotional work most people will ever do. And it’s designed to help you come out stronger, clearer, and more free than you’ve ever been.

Inside, I’ll walk you through all of the nine stages of the heartbreak recovery process—from withdrawal, grief, and emotional chaos, to learning, growth, and eventually... loving again (the right way this time). 

Whether you're looking for clarity, closure, or just want to stop checking their Instagram every five minutes, this program is your step-by-step path to freedom.

If you’re ready to stop the pain and start thriving—this is your next step. And you can start today.

Join the Heal From Heartbreak Program.

Xoxo
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
www.growingself.com

P.S. Ready to find out where you really are in the healing process? Take my free quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You? You’ll get insights into what stage of healing you’re in and what to do next. 

And if someone you care about is stuck in heartbreak too? Forward them this episode. Help them take their power back, too. 💛

Will you be single forever? If you've been dating for a while and struggling to find your person, then I'll bet this thought has crossed your mind at some point. Maybe it's something you think about a lot. 

And the prospect of being single forever can be scary! We all crave deep connection and true, enduring love. The possiblity of never finding the relationship we desire is daunting, especially if your dating experiences have been grinding you down. But facing the fear of being alone may just be the key to not only loving your life as a single person, but also dating successfully. 

On this episode, we're talking about the fear of being single, how it holds you back, and how you can stop feeling afraid and choose to love your life — no matter what. 

Tune in to learn: 

• 03:11 Understanding the Fear
• 05:28 Working on Healthy Relationships
• 06:28 Impact of Fear on Relationships
• 09:17 Impact on Mental and Emotional Wellbeing
• 10:43 Behaviors Driven by Fear
• 13:31 Overcoming the Fear
• 14:01 Making Peace with Being Single
• 15:02 Shifting Mindset
• 16:00 Growth Mindset and Personal Development
• 17:24 Identifying Obstacles and Making Changes
• 22:36 Challenging Core Beliefs
• 25:01 Developing Meaningful Connections
• 27:46 Finding Fulfillment in Other Areas of Life
• 29:34 Building a Fulfilling Life
• 31:22 How Authenticity Makes You Attractive

How do you have a healthy sexual relationship with your partner after the trauma of infidelity? It's possible, and in fact, going through the process of healing your relationship together can bring you closer in unexpected ways. 

But the road to recovery is not an easy one, especially when it comes to sex. Many couples struggle to heal, reconnect, and feel safe again after feeling violated by an affair. But there is a path to repair — for your relationship and your sex life — and that's what we're talking about on today's episode. 

Tune in to learn about: 

• 04:32 The Mental and Emotional Well-being of the Injured Party
• 06:00 Moving Through a Structured Healing Process
• 07:51 Stages of Sex After Infidelity
• 12:34 Managing Trauma Triggers During Sexual Encounters
• 19:16 The Desire for Detailed Sexual Information
• 29:45 Positive Growth and Conversations About Sexuality
• 34:37 Educating Yourself and Making Informed Decisions

Are you tired of all the drama that surrounds money conversations in your relationship?

This is an issue that so many couples deal with. Money is a highly emotional topic, and it can be very triggering, especially when we don't feel respected or understood. 

It takes a high degree of empathy and intention to communicate about a hot-button topic like money and create a financial plan with your partner that both of you can feel good about. But that is a key to long-term success and satisfaction in your relationship. 

On today's episode, I'm going to tell you how to talk about money without fighting, so you and your partner can get on the same page and grow together in both money and love.

Tune in to learn about: 

• 01:30 The Root Cause of Money Fights in Relationships
• 03:26 Money as a Symbol of Deeper Problems
• 04:47 The Emotional Significance of Money
• 07:39 Respecting Differences Around Money
• 08:05 The Limitations of Standard Advice
• 12:50 The Rider and the Elephant Metaphor
• 16:33 The Structured Process of Financial Counseling
• 18:39 Unpacking the History and Family Culture Around Money
• 19:37 Understanding the Value Systems Attached to Money
• 24:22 Creating a Shared Vision for Managing Finances
• 26:44 Talking About Finances Productively

And more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful. 

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — If you'd like support from an expert couples counselor specializing in financial counseling for couples, schedule a free consultation. 

Introverts are the unsung heroes of the workplace. They're thoughtful, analytical, and they excel at working independently. Still, if you have an introverted personality type, getting ahead at work can be a challenge. This podcast episode is going to tell you how to leverage your introvert superpowers (because I promise, you have them) and WIN in the workplace as an introvert. 

Although introverts can be assets to a team, they struggle with visibility. They may hesitate to speak up in meetings and spend lunch hours munching a salad in their car rather than socializing with coworkers. Unfortunately, upper management might mistake your introverted personality for disengagement or even disagreeableness. But there are steps you can take to make your voice heard, highlight your accomplishments, and connect with your colleagues, all while staying true to YOU. 

Tune in to learn about:

• 05:42 Career Paths for Introverts
• 09:21 Tapping into Your Introvert Superpower
• 12:09 Signs of a Mismatched Career
• 16:23 The Impact of Negative Feedback 
• 21:40 Finding Balance as an Introvert
• 24:19 Why Introverts Kick a$$ in the Workplace
• 26:30 The Value of Introverted Leaders
• 30:05 How to Step Out of Your Comfort Zone
• 31:29 Self-Acceptance vs. Functioning in the World
• 38:23 Normalizing the Introvert Experience

And more! I hope you'll join me and my Growing Self colleague Susan for this conversation! She's an experienced career counselor and she has so many excellent career tips for introverts that you won't want to miss! 

All of that and more on today's show!

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — If you want support building a thriving career, schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

Do you want to feel happier, have more success, and live your full potential? The key is your mindset. Specifically, whether you've cultivated an abundance mindset, or whether you're living with a scarcity mindset. On this week's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, we're talking about what the abundance mindset is, and how you can put it to work for you in every domain of life. 

When you have an abundance mindset, you see possibilities everywhere you look. You're aware of your incredible power to make good things happen in your life, and you can maintain motivation to work toward your goals because you know you're ultimately bound to succeed. 

But many of us get stuck in a scarcity mindest, or believing that your opportunities to create the life you want are limited. This mindset makes obstacles feel insurmountable, and keeps you from being and having everything you're capable of. 

You deserve better! Tune in to this episode to learn how to shake off your sense of scarcity (which you may not even be aware of) and start embracing an abundant life. 

You'll learn:

• 00:00 What Is an Abundance Mindset?
• 05:08 Why Mindset Matters
• 09:44 The Abundance Mindset vs Scarcity Mindset
• 13:06 Abundance Mindset in the Workplace
• 20:01 Abundance Mindset and Money
• 23:14 Abundance Mindset in Relationships
• 29:07 Internal Benefits of Abundance Mindset
• 32:00 Developing an Abundance Mindset
• 37:21 Challenging Your Perspective

And so much more! I hope you'll join me, and that you'll find this episode helpful. 

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — Want support in radically shifting your mindset and getting more out of life? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

We all inherit some baggage from our families of origin — and often, we don't even realize we're carrying it! On today's episode, I'm talking about how you can explore the intergenerational cycles that may be holding you back, and then make some intentional choices about what you want to keep, and what you want to leave behind. 

Breaking generational cycles is a self-affirming process. It frees you from ways of thinking and behaving that may have felt like "just the way things are," and allows you to become who you truly are at your core. And if you're parent, breaking generational cycles can be even more important, because it spares your kids from inheriting the junk that's weighing you down. 

Tune in to learn all about how this works, including: 

• 06:35 What Are Intergenerational Patterns?
• 09:49 Recognizing Your Patterns and Making Changes
• 21:22 Getting Help with Deeply Engrained Patterns
• 25:30 Emotional Intelligence and Generational Cycles
• 32:06 The Value of Structured Emotional Intelligence Work

When you have an anxious attachment style, it's hard to feel secure in your most important relationships. But learning how to self-soothe anxious attachment and create a stronger relationship with yourself can be the path to emotional freedom. 

On today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, we're discussing how you can stop relying on the people around you to regulate your anxiety, and learn to manage anxious feelings internally. This not only helps you have better relationships, it makes you stronger, happier, and more resilient. 

My guest is attachment expert Thais Gibson, a counselor, YouTuber, and founder of the Personal Development School. Thais shared some eye-opening insights in this episode that you won't want to miss! 

You'll learn: 

• 00:00 Introduction to Attachment Theory
• 08:19 Thais' Background and Interest in Attachment Theory
• 16:21 Understanding Attachment Styles
• 28:15 The Danger of Pathologizing Attachment Styles
• 33:51 The Impact of Attachment Styles on Relationships
• 39:11 Strategies for Healing Attachment Wounds
• 41:15 Reprogramming Core Wounds
• 45:40 The Power of Auto-Suggestion

And so much more. I hope you'll tune in!

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — Ready to transform your attachment patterns? Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

If you've lived through a divorce, or you're going through one now, you know that ending a marriage comes with a lot of regrets.

You might regret not trying harder to save your marriage when you had the chance, or, if the divorce was your choice, you might have difficult moments when you regret your decision. You might even regret marrying your Ex in the first place!

Whatever flavor of divorce regret you're experiencing, this episode is for you. I'm talking about how you can not only cope with regret after divorce, but how you can use it to start a positive new chapter in your life. 

You'll learn: 

• 03:04 The Purpose of Regret in Healing after a Breakup or Divorce
• 10:10 Regret's and Its Relationship to Grief
• 11:07 Shifting Your Perspective on Mistakes and Regret
• 12:21 Learning from Regret to Build Healthier Relationships
• 13:47 Differentiating Healthy Regret from Shame
• 16:43 Exploring Regret through Journaling and Therapy
• 22:19 Creating a Constructive Narrative that Helps You Grow
• 24:04 Using Regret as a Catalyst for Change

Do you have a habit of giving too much in relationships? Maybe you say "yes" when you really want to say no, or you offer much more emotional and material support than you receive in return. 

All of this sounds noble, but overgiving is a habit that will eventually wear you down (and, that will keep you from having truly satisfying relationships based on mutuality). So how can you stop being an "over-giver" and start creating healthy give and take in your relationships? That's what we're talking about on today's episode. 

I've worked with many clients over the years who were card-carrying overgivers. They were all smart, strong, competent people who excel at getting stuff done. The flip side of these strengths can be a habit of over-functioning in relationships, which leads the people around them to underfunction. The result is a situation where they HAVE to do it all, because otherwise, everything will fall apart. 

At least that's how it feels. In reality, when you stop over-giving, you open up space for the people around you to step up. Some of them may disappoint you, but often, you will be pleasantly surprised at how the people around you rise to the occassion. You can stop feeling guilty, resentful, overwhelmed, and unappreciated, and start having the nourishing relationships you deserve. 

This episode will show you the way! You'll learn:  

• Why overgiving is damaging to your relationships and your wellbeing
• What overgiving looks like
• Why you overgive in relationships
• How to stop being an overgiver 
• Tips for setting healthy boundaries 
• Creating balance through the power of vulnerability and authenticity. 

All of that and more for you on today's show. I hope you'll join me! 

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — If you want to break this habit once and for all, we should talk. Schedule a free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

Has the sexual intimacy in your relationship dwindled to almost nothing? Or, do you long to feel desired by your partner, but instead feel like you're being rejected? If so, this episode is for you. You'll learn why sexless marriages (or sexless relationships of any kind) happen, and how to reignite the spark with your partner and cultivate the physical and emotional intimacy you crave. 

When couples stop having sex, it can be a sign that their relationships are suffering in other ways as well. They may be feeling lonely and emotionally disconnected from each other. Often, there's resentment or an old emotional wound that hasn't been healed. Sexuality can be the canary in the coal mine that lets you know your relationship is in trouble.  

It takes courage to explore the root causes of a "dead bedroom." But doing so is the path to rekindling the passion you want and deserve. 

On today's episode, I'm answering a question from a listener who's feeling adrift in his sexless marriage, and offering some universal advice that will help every couple communicate better about sex, understand each other more deeply, and keep the spark alive for the long haul. 

Tune in to learn: 

Lisa here with exciting news! I've launched a new podcast, Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists, designed specifically for therapists seeking support and community. If you're a therapist, I hope you join me! (And if you know a therapist, I hope you pass this on to them!)

Every week on this podcast I'll be speaking with thought leaders in our field, and drawing from years of experience as a clinical supervisor and leader Growing Self — a mission driven, growth oriented private practice that supports and cares for 50+ therapists. We'll be fearlessly tackling the unique challenges we face, while focusing on personal and professional growth, our own mental and emotional wellbeing, and staying true to our highest purpose.

Join me in exploring how we, as therapists, can learn, grow, and evolve, in order to be the most trustworthy and effective supporters of our clients. We'll be discussing best practices and pro tips, plus ways to care for ourselves while continuing to help others.

Discover more and listen to episodes at GrowingSelf.com/therapists, Apple Podcast, Spotify,  or YouTube. Connect with me on LinkedIn, Facebook, and Instagram  for additional support tailored just for you, my therapist friends.

My hope is that this podcast becomes our space to rejuvenate and enhance our ability to care for others. Tune in to Love, Happiness, and Success for Therapists and let's make a difference together.

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

Ps: You can learn more about the show here, and this is the link to pass on to anyone you think could benefit from tuning into Love, Happiness, and Success For Therapists! GrowingSelf.com/therapists

Chemistry in relationships: it’s that spark, that zing that draws you to someone and makes you crave their touch. When it’s missing, we worry that something’s wrong. (And sometimes, it is). But did you know that intense chemistry can also sometimes be a relationship red flag? And that healthy, strong relationships may not always have as much sizzle?

AND it’s also possible to cultivate the chemistry you crave. Ready for more? On today’s episode, you’ll learn: 

• What chemistry really is (and what it isn’t)

• How to avoid the relationship problems chemistry can create

• How to cultivate chemistry in your relationships

• And more!

Understanding chemistry and learning how to work with it can transform your relationships, and that’s why I’m so excited to share this with you. Join me, and get a fresh perspective that will open your eyes, and change the way you feel about your relationships (for the better!)

Xoxo,

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — Ready to transform your relationships? Get in touch: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

So, you've got a bad boss. If you're lucky, this will be your last... but unfortunately, toxic leadership is not unheard of. Knowing the signs of a toxic boss can help you protect yourself, manage yoru expectations, and move on to a better situation when the time is right. 

A toxic boss can stimy your ability to do your best work, which will not only hold back the company, it can damage your career. They can foster work environments where people feel drained, resentful, or constantly at odds with their coworkers. And when it comes to your emotional wellbeing, working for a crappy boss can really take its toll. 

But help is here! Today on the Love, Happiness, and Success Podcast, we're talking about how to navigate a toxic boss and even use this difficult experience to propel your career forward. 

You'll learn: 

• The signs of a toxic boss.
• How toxic leadership impacts you, your relationships with coworkers, and your ability to be successful in your career.  
• How to deal with a bad boss. 
• Growth opportunities that only come from working for a toxic manager. 

All of that and more on today's show. I hope you'll join me!

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — I have a collection of articles and podcasts designed to help you thrive in your career. Check it out — I made it for you!

When you're hurt or angry with your partner, it's like the love in your heart is dimmed. You can't be open with your feelings when you're nursing emotional wounds. And it's hard to receive love until you're able to forgive your partner.

But, emotional pain is always a component of long-term relationships. Part of giving your heart to someone is opening yourself up to the possibility of being hurt. This can happen in big ways — like infidelity, rejection, or abandonment.

But it can also happen in small ways, like moments that left you feeling uncared for, unappreciated, or unloved. We all experience moments like these, and if we don't know how to process them, forgive, and move forward, they can damage the love we have for our partners. 

So how can you forgive your partner? That's what we're talking about on today's episode of the podcast. You'll learn about how forgiveness works, what's holding you back from finding forgiveness, and how to not only "let it go," but how to use the repair process to build a deeper, more meaningful connection. 

I hope you'll join me!

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — If you are struggling to forgive your partner, that's a sign that you could really benefit from working with a good couples counselor. Schedule a free consultation with an expert on my team at Growing Self: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

Do you wish you were "good with people?" Many of us do! But we're not often taught the one skill that will not only help you connect with others, but also make you happier and more successful in every single area of your life: emotional intelligence, the key to love, happiness, and success. 

Raising your emotional intelligence has all kinds of benefits, including increased: 

• Contentment
• Motivation
• Adaptibility
• Resilience
• Empathy for others
• Self-Awareness

And, it will make every relationship in your life stronger. Truly, emotional intelligence is the secret sauce that makes you "good with people" — and so much more. 

So, how can you increase your emotional intelligence? That's what we're talking about on today's episode!

You'll learn all about emotional intelligence: what it is, how it helps you create the life you want, and the practical strategies that help you raise your emotional intelligence, no matter where you're starting from. 

I hope you'll join me. 

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — I have therapists on my team who specialize in emotional intelligence coaching specifically. Start with a free consultation today: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

Do you have a tough internal critic? When you are always talking to yourself in a negative, unkind way, it impacts how you feel about yourself, how you show up in your relationships with others, and how much resilience you have to achieve your goals. 

Learning how to recognize your inner critic and talk back to it moves you forward. That's what we're talking about on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. You'll learn: 

• What the inner critic sounds like
• Where the inner critic comes from 
• How self-criticism impacts your confidence and self-esteem
• How to silence your inner critic
• How to develop an "inner champion" who encourages and supports you. 
• And more!

I hope this episode helps you silence your inner critic and amplify your inner champion. Because you deserve a loving, supportive relationship with YOU!

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — Ready to conquer negative self-talk once and for all? Let's talk: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/ 

Are your insecurities holding you back? 

We all have things that we feel insecure about, but many people feel trapped by shame and self doubt, or like they're never quite good enough. And this can create major problems. Unchecked insecurity can keep you from taking risks, achieving your potential, getting close to others, and enjoying your life. 

A little insecurity can be healthy, leading to humility and an openness to the perspectives of others. True security doesn’t come from being perfect, it comes from accepting your imperfections and loving yourself regardless. 

So how can you stop being insecure, and start building self-esteem and confidence? That's what we're talking about on today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast. 

I hope you'll join me!

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — The best way to address insecurity is by working with a good therapist or coach. Schedule your free consultation at Growing Self today.

Do you feel like you're always walking on eggshells around your partner? When you feel like you have to be extremely careful about what you say, otherwise your partner will blow up, get defensive, or feel hurt, something has to change. So what's your path forward? That's what we're talking about on today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast. 

You'll learn: 

• What causes us to walk on eggshells in a relationship
• Why this dynamic is bad for you, your partner, and your connection
• How to communicate in a way that minimizes defensiveness
• When it's time to get help for your relationship. 

I hope this episode helps you reflect on why you're feeling like you have to walk on eggshells around your partner, and some strategies for building a relationship where you can be open and authentic — because that is what you deserve. 

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — This is a pattern that's best tackled with help from a relationship expert. Schedule your free consulation with a Growing Self couples counselor. 

Ah, your 20s... a decade full of so much promise, potential, and radical growth. And yet, as a therapist and a life coach, I know that your 20s can also be uniquely difficult, especially when you expect that they're "supposed to be" the best years of your life! 

Young adults have always been challenged to explore their identities, learn about the complexities of romantic relationships, and start establishing themselves professionally. But in 2024, they're also grappling with student debt, outrageous housing costs, the mental health minefield of social media, and the weirdness of online dating. It's a lot! 

To help you unpack it all, I sat down with Jemma Sbeg, host of the fantastic podcast, "The Psychology of Your 20s." Jemma is offering up her perspective and tips for making the most of this weird and wonderful time of life. I hope you'll tune in, and that you'll find our conversation enlightening and helpful. 

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — If you want a personal growth expert to walk alongside you, whether you're in your 20s or not, schedule a free consultation. 

As a couples counselor, I can tell you that one of the most pernicious and common relationship patterns that couples get stuck in is the pursuer-withdrawer dynamic. This happens when one partner handles conflict by approaching it head-on, and the other has a tendency to pull away, shut down, or withdraw. 

The more the pursuer pursues, the more the withdrawer withdraws, and the pattern can become very intense and even a little scary. The pursuer may start getting emotionally elevated, raising their voice, or even physically following their partner from room to room. The withdrawer, meanwhile, feels totally overwhelmed and unable to engage the more their partner pursues them. Nothing gets resolved, and typically, neither partner is fully aware of their own role in perpetuating the dynamic.

Luckily, this is one of those problems that is totally solvable with the help of a good marriage counselor. When you understand why this relationship pattern happens, what your role is in the dynamic, and what you can do instead, everything can shift.

On today's episode of the podcast, we're exploring how to break the pursuer-distancer pattern and create a healthier relationship where you can both feel heard, understood, and most of all, emotionally safe. 

I hope you'll join me! 

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

P.S. — Listening to a podcast is a great starting point, but it's not enough to break a deeply entrenched pursuer-distancer pattern. If you would like to put a stop to this dynamic for good, schedule a free consultation with an expert couples counselor on my team. 

Ever feel like your heart got drop-kicked out of nowhere? Like the rug was yanked from under you and now you’re spiraling, trying to make sense of what just happened? I see you. And if you've ever been blindsided by a breakup — truly blindsided — this episode is for you.

In today’s episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I’m pulling back the curtain on why blindsided breakups happen, why they hurt so much, and — most importantly — how to heal the heartbreak. I’ll walk you through the hard truths, the hidden opportunities, and the steps to rebuild your self-trust, so you can stop obsessing about your ex and start reconnecting with you.

Timestamps:
00:00 – Blindside By A Breakup… Ouch.
05:06 – What REALLY Happens in a Blindside Breakup
09:31 – The Honest Truth About Why They Left
23:08 – From Pain to Power: What You Can Learn
24:47 – What Healing Actually Looks Like (and What Doesn’t)
46:09 – How to Heal From Heartbreak

Here’s the truth: Healing doesn’t just happen with time. It happens with intention. If you’re ready to stop spinning in circles, make sense of what happened, and actually feel stronger on the other side of this, I’d love to walk with you through the process.

Join me in the Heal From Heartbreak Program — I guide you step-by-step through all nine stages of healing after a breakup in my online academy and give you the structure, tools, and support to stop obsessing about your ex, rebuild your self-worth, and reclaim your future. You don’t have to do this alone.

You’re not powerless. You’re just getting started. And you can begin right now.

Learn more & enroll in the Heal From Heartbreak Program.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If you’re still struggling through the pain of a blindsiding breakup, I invite you to check out my breakup quiz: How Over Your Ex Are You? to find out where you really are in your healing process. It’s fast, insightful, and might just give you the clarity you didn’t know you needed.

And if someone you love is stuck in the breakup spiral? Be the friend who helps — share this podcast episode with them. I could be exactly what they need to hear today.

🌟 Feeling overwhelmed by the chaos of life? You're not alone. Today, we're delving into the art of simplifying your life... by getting clear about your mission and purpose

Here's the truth: Simplifying isn't just about decluttering your space. It's about aligning your daily life with your core values, leading to a more fulfilling and less frazzled existence. How? That's what you'll learn in this episode!

🔹 Special Guest: Today, I'm thrilled to have Bonnie Wan, author of “The Life Brief: A Playbook for No Regrets Living,” sharing her insights with you, on how to create a life of clarity and purpose. 

🔸 Key Discussions:

• Clarifying Your Values: You'll discover how to identify and focus on what truly matters to you.
• Time Management Strategies: You'll learn how to make strategic choices with your time, aligning your daily activities with your core values.
• Organizing Your Space: You'll understand the impact of your physical environment on your mental well-being and how to organize it for clarity and focus.
• Evaluating Relationships: You'll gain insights into how to nurture relationships that contribute to your happiness and well-being.

🌈 Takeaway: This episode offers practical advice and deep reflections on how to streamline your life, not just in terms of tasks and belongings, but in a way that resonates with your deepest values.

💡 Explore More: Don't miss my “Moving Forward Fearlessly” collection of articles and podcasts for more advice on living with intention.

Happy New Year!

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

#SimplifyYourLife #PersonalGrowth #Podcast #LifeCoaching #DesignYourLife #DrLisaMarieBobby #LoveHappinessSuccess

Are you navigating the single scene or maybe feeling a bit disheartened by relationships that just don't seem to click? You're not alone. Often, the biggest hurdle in our quest for love is the sneaky, self-limiting beliefs that quietly hold us back. These relationship myths are like invisible scripts dictating our love lives, and we've all got them.

In today's episode, we're going to uncover these hidden culprits! You'll learn how to spot them and, more importantly, how to stop them from meddling in your journey to love. To make this conversation even more exciting (and meaningful) we'll have the amazing Damona Hoffman with us. She's a true expert in the world of dating and relationships, and she's here to share her insights on why it's time to ditch those fairy-tale expectations and focus on what really matters for creating a lasting, satisfying relationship.

If one of your main life goals is to build a healthy relationship, this will be a game-changer for your love life. So tune in, get cozy, and let's dive deep into transforming your approach to love. You deserve a relationship as incredible as you are, and we're here to help you create it. Let's do this! 🌟💕

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

GrowingSelf.com

PS: On the show we discussed a bunch of resources. Here's a link to a whole collection of free dating advice including a curated podcast playlist that I made for you. With love! xo

When relationships are in distress, things change. Conflict is more hurtful and less productive. Couples stop seeing each other's points of view, and stop trusting each other's good intentions. But as an experience couples counselor, I know that the biggest obstacle to healing these relationships is something else — the negative narratives that distressed couples start to believe about each other, without realizing that they're both reacting to the dynamic itself, rather than something essential about their partner. 

Understanding what a distressed relationship looks and feels like is important. It can help you get help for your relationship when you need it, and it can help you see past these negative narratives, understand where they're coming from, and bridge the divide. 

This podcast episode will show you the way! You'll learn why relationships enter the distress cycle, what it looks like, and what you can do if you and your partner are struggling. 

xoxo, 

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby 

Ready to meet with a relationship expert? Schedule your free consultation: https://www.growingself.com/schedule-free-consultation/