Mon, 27 December 2021
Ready to turn the page and create a bright new reality for yourself? Whether you're ready for a new era in your career, your relationships, or a new sense of ownership in your personal narrative... today's episode is for you. My guest today is a Jedi-caliber therapist and career counselor, on a mission to teach you how to write a new story for yourself. Ready to start your next chapter? Join us! There's so much in store for you, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com
Direct download: LHS_NewChapter_audio_First_Edit.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 6:24pm MST |
Mon, 20 December 2021
Sometimes, it all seems like a losing battle: Everywhere you look, there's a new challenge or adversity that seems too big for any one of us to fix. You're already amazing. Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Be_a_Force_of_Good_in_the_World_22.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 6:25pm MST |
Mon, 13 December 2021
On the path to recovering from an affair, many couples hit a roadblock in the bedroom. On this episode, we’re talking about sex after infidelity and the surprisingly complicated feelings that may arise as you work to re-establish intimacy.
Today I’m speaking with an expert sex therapist and infidelity recovery coach about how to rebuild trust, the line between healthy transparency and “TMI,” and how to heal both emotional and sexual intimacy after infidelity.
If you or someone you love is struggling with this, I hope you join us today!
Xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Sex_After_Infidelity.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 4:18pm MST |
Mon, 6 December 2021
We’ve all heard that phrase, “Do what you love, and you’ll never work a day in your life.” It may sound like a fantasy, but it really is possible to build a career that’s so in line with your true self that it doesn’t feel like work at all. But how exactly do you do that? On this episode of the podcast, I'm chatting with an expert career coach about finding your passion, and cultivating the mindset that leads to work you truly love. Join us! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Do_What_You_Love.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 3:16pm MST |
Mon, 29 November 2021
It’s common to fantasize about reconnecting with an Ex: either rekindling the romance, or as friends. But should you? Couples get back together. Past partners can be wonderful friends. But sometimes longing to reconnect with an Ex just keeps you stuck in an unhealthy attachment. Is getting back with an Ex a good idea? Is being friends with an Ex healthy for you? When to lean in, and when to let go — listen to this episode for clarity and direction. For you! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Getting_Back_With_An_Ex_-_112921_4.33_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 4:48pm MST |
Mon, 22 November 2021
Having issues with each other's family of origin is one of the most common things that couples fight about, particularly around the holidays. It’s challenging to set healthy boundaries while also maintaining relationships with each other's "first family” — particularly if your in-laws are controlling or intrusive. (Or just very different from your family). On this episode of the podcast I’m sharing tips for how to deal with in-laws to help you navigate sticky situations with diplomacy and grace, so you can enjoy your time together. Happy Thanksgiving! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Dealing_With_The_In_Laws_21.mp3
Category:How to, Relationships, Self Improvement, Mental Health -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 15 November 2021
Do you wish you knew what’s really going on in your partner’s head, or how your coworkers actually feel about you? (Even if they aren’t consciously aware of it themselves?) Learning how to read people gives you a real advantage at work, in love, and beyond. You can learn how to understand other’s true feelings and motivations — even if they’re different from what's being said. My guest, Dr. Dan Hill, is an expert on the art of reading people and is here today to explain how. Join us! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: LHS_ReadPeople_First_Edit.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 4:09pm MST |
Mon, 8 November 2021
Have you ever wondered why you lose it sometimes, and say things you regret later? Or why you get to a certain point where you just cannot talk anymore, and shut down? These are both examples of emotional flooding: Lashing out and withdrawing are two sides of the same coin. Both can be disastrous for your relationship. On today’s episode we’re talking about the reality of emotional flooding, and how to manage it effectively when you’re “coming in hot.” Join me! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: LHS_EmotionalFlooding_First_Edit.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 3:54pm MST |
Mon, 1 November 2021
Feeling invalidated is at the core of communication issues. When couples fight, they're usually fighting to be heard. Feeling shut down, or bulldozed by your partner is not just frustrating — if it happens routinely it can damage your relationship. Today, learn why emotional invalidation happens and what you can do to stop it. By the end of the episode, you’ll have some actionable takeaways to help you feel heard, valued, and understood. With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com
Direct download: Feeling_Invalidated_Relationship_Podcast.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 3:47pm MST |
Mon, 25 October 2021
What you believe about yourself holds so much power. You have the power to create a really wonderful life for yourself. Or, you can be tricked into believing the devil inside: Your self-limiting beliefs. Self-limiting beliefs are so dangerous because they often masquerade as "truth." But buying into them only creates pain, and damages your self-esteem, your career, and your relationships. On this episode of the podcast, I'm teaching you how to identify your limiting beliefs and overcome them, so you can get back in control. Happy Halloween!
Direct download: Self_Limiting_Beliefs.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 4:43pm MST |
Mon, 18 October 2021
Your mind-body connection is powerful. Sometimes the most direct path to improving your emotional wellbeing isn't through therapy — it’s through lifestyle changes. Other times your physical health suffers because of the way you’re thinking or feeling. The way you think, feel emotionally, and your physical wellness are all interconnected. Tune in today to gain insight into your mind-body connection, and get actionable strategies to support every aspect of your wellness. Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Mind_Body_Connection_Edit.mp3
Category:Self Improvement, Mental Health, How To, Nutrition, Alternative Health -- posted at: 11:08am MST |
Mon, 11 October 2021
It's great to work on your relationship, but sometimes people can get so over-focused on relationship problems they stop appreciating their partner’s positive qualities... to the detriment of the dynamic. In contrast, feeling love and appreciation for your partner — as they are — is the royal road to growth and happiness for both of you. When do you advocate for change? When do you lean into “appreciative acceptance?” That’s what we’re discussing on today’s episode! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: How_to_Appreciate_Your_Partner.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 4:20pm MST |
Mon, 4 October 2021
How to love your body? Although your body is a miraculous engine of life that supports everything you do, it’s easy to get judgy about the way your body looks. Or whether or not it’s as “good” or worthy of love as someone else’s body.These unhelpful ideas crush your self-esteem, and can lead to truly unhealthy diet and exercise habits.Let’s all stop. Today, learn how to stop feeling bad about your body, and start moving towards self-compassion, appreciation for your body, and health at any size. Join me! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Love_Your_Body-_Health_at_Any_Size.mp3
Category:How-to, Self-Improvement, Fitness, Mental Health, Social Sciences, Relationships, -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 27 September 2021
Dealing with stress at work? Whether you’re working from home or back in the office, burnout and career ambivalence are rampant right now. Help is here: On today's episode I’m visiting with an expert career coach who can help you advocate for yourself, set healthy boundaries on the job, manage work related stress and anxiety, make empowered career decisions, and, if you’re an employer, learn how to keep your people happy and healthy. All for you!
Direct download: How_to_Deal_With_Stress_at_Work_4.mp3
Category:How To, Mental Health, Career Change, Career Advice, Job Change, Career Change -- posted at: 3:36pm MST |
Mon, 20 September 2021
One of the worst parts of going through a breakup or divorce is feeling consumed by thoughts about your Ex. Even if you know, intellectually, that the relationship wasn't good for you, it's still so hard to stop thinking about your Ex! On today's show, we'll be exploring why that is, and the steps you can take to free your mind, release your attachment, and get over your Ex — once and for all. For you! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com
Direct download: How_to_Get_Over_Your_Ex.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 13 September 2021
What is your love language? What’s your partner’s? If you don’t know, you may be accidentally hurting each other’s feelings, creating disconnection, and stoking resentment without even realizing it.
Love,
Direct download: Love_Language_Quiz.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Tue, 7 September 2021
If you’re going through a particularly dark time, today’s episode is for you. While nobody chooses tragedy as a vehicle for growth, meaning making through adversity can lead not just to hope and healing — but to incredibly positive personal transformation. Just ask my guest Jennifer Sands, a 9/11 widow. If you or someone you love could use a little “light in the darkness” right now, I hope you tune into this very special episode to hear her message (and be the messenger!) With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Meaning_Making_Podcast.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 12:51pm MST |
Mon, 30 August 2021
Are you getting pressured, guilted, or blamed into taking responsibility for other people's problems? Understanding where your sphere of personal responsibility stops, and where someone else’s starts is vital to setting healthy boundaries with clarity and confidence. Your partner in growth, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: What_is_Your_Problem.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 4:15pm MST |
Mon, 23 August 2021
Today: Learn how to strengthen your relationship at the deepest level using the principles of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy. This evidence-based approach helps you repair your attachment bond, and actually transforms the way you both feel about each other. It's powerful stuff, and on today's episode you'll learn how to use EFT principles to stop negativity, and increase emotional connection in your relationship. All for you!
Direct download: Emotionally_Focused_Couples_Therapy_Podcast.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 5:16pm MST |
Mon, 16 August 2021
Do you ever struggle with self-doubt, compare yourself to others, and wish you were more confident? These feelings block growth — and damage self-confidence too. Today’s podcast is going to help you stop that, and learn a more effective way to build confidence in yourself — through building a healthy, emotionally safe and supportive relationship with… you. Self confidence through self compassion: Tune in and learn how!
Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: How_to_Be_More_Confident.mp3
Category:How-To, Self Help, Mental Health, Relationships, Life Coaching, Changing Habits -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 9 August 2021
How Premarital Counseling WorksWhether you’ve been married for 30 years or are just starting out, premarital counseling strategies can help you strengthen your relationship. Why? Because it’s positive: Premarital counseling works by helping couples have productive conversations proactively: before things become issues that need to be “fixed.” It’s brilliant! You can learn how to use the principles taught in premarital counseling to strengthen your relationship — starting today. Tune in to learn how. -Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: How_Premarital_Counseling_Works.mp3
Category:Marriage, Weddings, Self Help, Relationship Advice -- posted at: 2:30pm MST |
Mon, 2 August 2021
If you’re feeling overdue for a personal overhaul, I’m here to help. On today’s episode of the podcast I’m doing a deep dive into the psychology of personal reinvention to give you some actionable strategies for releasing your old stuff and attaining your aspirations. We'll be discussing the secret forces that make personal reinvention easier, and the ones that will sabotage you and snap you back if you're not careful. Most of all, I'll be sharing how to use your strengths to stay motivated, and move forward — forever.Your partner in growth,
Direct download: LHS_ReinventingYourself_Second_Edit.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Careers, Relationships -- posted at: 4:43pm MST |
Mon, 26 July 2021
Feeling "meh" lately? If so, join me today to learn:
I hope this discussion helps you reconnect with your joy. You deserve it. All the best,
Direct download: Joyful_Life_-_61019_4.41_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 19 July 2021
Who you work with really matters when it comes to outcomes in therapy. How do you tell a good therapist from a bad one? What are the subtle signs that your therapist might be nice, but ineffective or even unqualified? What are the red flags that your therapist is behaving unethically? Spilling *all* the beans on this episode, so you can make informed and empowered choices. Warmly,
Direct download: Signs_You_Have_a_Bad_Therapist_-_31119_2.23_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Relationships, Self Improvement, Mental Health -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 12 July 2021
Trust: It's the glue of secure attachment that holds a relationship together. If it's broken, everything changes. How to you repair trust once it's been damaged? That's the question we're tackling today on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. You'll learn why "Sorry" isn't good enough, and you'll also learn the worst mistake you can make if you're trying to repair the trust in your marriage. I'll also teach you the five action-steps you must take to mend trust for real, and how to use them to restore the security to your marriage. I sincerely hope these ideas help you heal the trust in your relationship. xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby GrowingSelf.com
Direct download: How_To_Repair_Trust_In_Your_Relationship.mp3
Category:Relationships, How To, Self Improvement -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 5 July 2021
Has Your Breakup or Divorce Shattered Your Self Esteem?I have spent years helping broken hearted people with divorce and break-up recovery counseling and coaching, and poured through oceans of research to write my book, "Exaholics: Breaking your addiction to an Ex Love." I've spent years helping my private clients heal their self esteem in the aftermath of a bad breakup, and now we're addressing it today on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. On today's show I'm going to help you understand how your self esteem was damaged, and how to develop new compassion and empathy for yourself. We're also going to discuss the five steps to healing your self esteem after a break up, so that you can start putting yourself back together again. I hope that this helps support you on your journey of growth and healing. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Repairing_Your_Self_Esteem_After_a_Breakup_-_91817_1.51_PM.mp3
Category:Divorce, Breakups, Self Help, Self Esteem -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 28 June 2021
Release Anger + Reclaim YourselfThere are many different types of anger that often impact our life coaching, therapy, and couples counseling clients here at Growing Self. All are different in some way, and similar in others. All are important, and deserve attention. On this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I'm going to be sharing my best advice for how to let go of anger. We'll be discussing:
I hope this podcast helps you on your path of growth and healing. Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: How_to_Let_Go_of_Anger_-_61819_1.39_PM.mp3
Category:Self-Improvement, How To, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 21 June 2021
OVERCOMING INSECURITY | Even people in long-term relationships can struggle with feelings of insecurity. While very common, being insecure in a relationship can create problems — for both of you. Can you relate? Join me and my colleague Georgi, a marriage counselor and family therapist who specializes in attachment theory and emotionally focused couples therapy. We're going deep into the topic of insecurity in relationships, and how to overcome it. Listen and learn more about:
We hope that this discussion helps you both overcome insecurity, and create the strong, happy relationship you deserve. With love and respect, Ps: Questions? Comments? Follow up questions regarding this topic? Join the conversation on the blog: https://www.growingself.com/stop-feeling-insecure
Direct download: Insecurity__-_73019_4.53_PM.mp3
Category:Self Help, Relationships, Advice -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 14 June 2021
Life is too short to waste toiling away in a career you hate. On this episode of The Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I'm speaking with my colleague Dr. Kristi, an amazing online career coach on the Growing Self team who has lots of great ideas to help you get clarity about whether your current career situation can be improved, or whether it's time to call it quits and start plotting your career path pivot. What to do when you hate your job? We have answers — join us! Dr. Lisa GrowingSelf.com
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Mon, 7 June 2021
Are you unknowingly making one of the 12 biggest relationship mistakes? Avoiding "relationship killing behaviors" is just as important as doing the good stuff on purpose! So today... I'm mixing it up. I decided to put together a very straightforward, extremely honest list of what NOT to do if you want to have a great relationship. All for you! P.S. If you're worried that some of these things are happening in your relationship, take my free "How Healthy is Your Relationship" quiz to start a productive conversation about positive changes you can both make. — LMB
Direct download: 12_Effective_Ways_to_Destroy_a_Perfectly_Good_Relationship_-_91619_5.43_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 31 May 2021
Are you still beating yourself up for things you regret, or mistakes you made long ago? Good, caring people are always the hardest on themselves — but it takes a toll. On today's episode we're talking about how to forgive yourself through mindful self compassion, so that you can turn "regrets" into new opportunities for growth.
I hope these ideas help support you on your journey of growth and healing. Your fellow traveler,
Direct download: Mindful_Self_Compassion-_How_to_Forgive_Yourself.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 24 May 2021
After you've lived something really painful, there will always be a need for healing in the aftermath. Therapy can really help you put yourself back together again. But it's also true that most people don't just go back to baseline. Many people actually find that, when their healing process is complete, the difficult time they weathered ultimately transformed them in really positive ways. Learn about "post traumatic growth" on this episode of the podcast. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Posttraumatic_Growth_-_61917_5.08_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 17 May 2021
Preparing for FatherhoodPreparing for Fatherhood can feel a little daunting and it's not something that we talk about enough. The transition into parenthood can be beautiful but it's also very challenging. Today, I'm joined by Jessica and Seth, marriage and family therapists here at Growing Self. We are going to be discussing the postpartum experience from both the mother's and father's sides of the experience. Join us as we discuss preparing for fatherhood! xo,
Direct download: Preparing_For_Fatherhood_-_3_22_21_12.29_PM.mp3
Category:Self Help, Relationships, Parenting -- posted at: 2:30pm MST |
Mon, 10 May 2021
Are you in an Unhealthy Relationship?All couples go through a rocky period in their relationship. They may grow distant from each other and encounter problems that seem to be impossible to overcome. It is agonizing to decide whether or not to save a relationship because we never know the possibilities. How will we know when our relationship is worth saving? I'm joined by Marriage and Family Therapist, Brittany S.. Today we are discussing healthy vs. unhealthy relationships. What to look for and how to heal. Join us!
Direct download: Unhealthy_Relationships_-_3_17_21_7.36_AM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 2:30pm MST |
Mon, 3 May 2021
What to do when your partner shuts down.Are you trying to have a relationship with a partner who avoids, defends or worse... won't talk at all? Few things are as frustrating, or as hurtful. It's hard NOT to get upset and angry when you're feeling rejected, unloved, or uncared for. The problem is that many people who clam up as a defensive strategy when things get tense don't understand how destructive their behaviors can be to your relationship. But there is help, and there is hope. Because these types of communication problems are so common, I thought it might be helpful to you if I put together a "Communication Problems" podcast-mini series. "Communication Issues" are the single most common presenting issue that brings couples to marriage counseling. The first thing to know about communication problems: Absolutely ALL couples struggle to communicate with each other from time to time. Just because it's happening in your relationship does not spell doom. Truthfully, by making a few positive changes in the way you interact with each other, you can avoid many communication problems -- and start enjoying each other again. In episode 1, "Communication Problems and How To Fix Them" we discussed the most important and empowering things you can remain mindful of if you want to improve the communication in your relationship: Systems theory, and your own empowerment to affect positive change. In episode 2, "Dealing With an Angry Partner" we addressed the oh-so-common "pursue / withdraw" dynamic that so many couples can fall in to. This idea is at the core of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy -- one of the most well researched and scientifically supported approaches to couples counseling. (And what we practice here at Growing Self!) Specifically in episode 2, we looked at this communication pattern from the perspective of the "withdrawer" (i.e. the person in the relationship who might be perceiving their "pursuing partner" as angry or even hostile. In that episode I gave you some tips to help get back into the ring with your partner, some insight into why they may be so angry, and things that you can do to help soothe their anger and bring the peace back into your home. In the third and final episode of our "Communication Problems" series, "Dealing With a Withdrawn Partner" we'll be looking at this from the perspective of the partner who pursues -- the one who is attempting to engage with a partner who seems emotionally distant, avoidant, and unresponsive. If you've been feeling frustrated or angry because your partner refuses to talk to you, this one is for you. In this episode, I'm talking about what may be leading your partner to seem emotionally withdrawn, as well as things that you can do to help your partner come closer to you emotionally, and start opening up again. We're discussing:
I sincerely hope that this series helps you understand what may be happening at the root of your communication problems, as well as some real-world tips for things that can help you improve your relationship.
Direct download: Communication_Problems_and_How_To_Fix_Them_Part_3-_When_Your_Partner_Wont_Talk_to_You_-_41717_4.15_PM.mp3
Category:relationships, self help -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 26 April 2021
Are you always walking on eggshells?In part two of our "Communication Problems, and How to Fix Them" mini-podcast series, we're going be talking about how to tame the tiger glaring at you from across the living room, and bring the peace back into your home. If you haven't already, please listen to the first podcast in this series (posted last week) to learn about some of the basic concepts that we'll be building on today. Then, we'll talk about:
I sincerely hope that this communication advice helps the two of you, and makes it easier for you to talk to each other. With love and respect,
Direct download: Communication_Problems-_Dealing_With_an_Angry_Partner.mp3
Category:Relationships, Communication, Self Help -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 19 April 2021
"We have communication issues" is probably the number-one complaint of most couples coming in for marriage counseling or couples therapy. Because this is so common, and so frustrating, I am re-releasing my three-part "communication problems" podcast series over the next couple of weeks. Start here: Listen to this episode to learn about the root cause of communication issues, and the ideas that will help you overhaul your approach. Next week we'll be talking about what to do if your partner's communication style is angry, hostile, or emotionally reactive. And then in the following episode we'll be talking about how to communicate with a partner who shuts down. I sincerely hope that these ideas help you both find your way back together again. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Communication_Problems__How_To_Fix_Them_-_32717_10.19_AM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 12 April 2021
We have all been through so much this past year, and are hopefully on the cusp of rebuilding. My guest today is author Eileen Hamra, who has a powerful message reminding us that within every loss are the seeds of renewal and rebirth. She's here to share her story, and her wise advice for how to heal through grief, how to rebuild your life after setbacks, and most importantly, how to love after loss.
Direct download: Love_After_Loss_-_3_18_21_4.00_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 2:30pm MST |
Mon, 5 April 2021
Do you feel stuck in a job you don't love? Or like you're moving down a path to nowhere? In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I am interviewing career counseling expert, Megan R. and together we will be discussing how to align your career with your passion. Tune in to learn more about "career pathing," the types of questions that can create clarity, the mindsets of successful people, and some free "career success strategies" from an expert career coach. Here's to your success!
GrowingSelf.com
Direct download: Career_Path_Passion_-_3_18_21_3.34_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 2:30pm MST |
Mon, 29 March 2021
Happy, healthy relationships are built on healthy boundaries. If you struggle to establish boundaries in relationships, understand your boundaries, or even define your boundaries to others, this episode is for you! Join Us!
Direct download: Healthy_Boundaries_in_Relationships_-_3_18_21_12.39_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 2:30pm MST |
Mon, 22 March 2021
Here at Growing Self our therapy and life coaching clients are generally successful, high-achieving people on a path of personal growth. Because of this, I have a soft spot for the superstars, and I know that being a go-getting, productive, conscientious, high-achieving, intelligent, successful person has many, many benefits. You get things done, you're on top of it, and you are probably extremely successful in many areas of life. And... it's probably hard for you to relax. How to Relax When You're an Over-AchieverToday's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast is just for you, my high-achieving compadre. We'll be discussing:
I hope this discussion helps you achieve the rest and relaxation that you deserve, and that it helps you (paradoxically) become even more productive, creative, forward-thinking and successful as a result! From me to you, PS: Follow up questions? Click to GrowingSelf.com to ask in the comments section of this post!
Direct download: How_to_Relax_When_Youre_a_Type-A_Stress_Case_-_71419_12.41_PM.mp3
Category:Self Help, Stress Management -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 15 March 2021
Are crushes innocent, or on-ramps to an affair? Can you be "friends" with someone you have a crush on, without risking your relationship? What should you do when you're married, but have a crush on someone else? Oh, the questions! It happens: people in happy, healthy, committed relationships can still develop crushes on others. However, smart, self-aware people in committed relationships need to not follow those feelings, but rather handle them maturely and with wisdom. What To Do (And Not Do) When You Are Married And Have a CrushToday on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast I'm talking all about how to handle yourself and your relationship when you have a crush on someone else. We'll be discussing:
All this and more on today's episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. xoxo, GrowingSelf.com Ps: If you're worried that your partner may have a crush on someone else, here are some other resources for you: Signs of an Emotional Affair,and How to Get Your Needs Met in a Relationship. You can also play this episode in the car with your partner and see what they'd like to share... LMB
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Category:How To, Self Help, Relationships, Mental Health, Marriage -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 8 March 2021
If you're feeling a little rusty talking to people, it's time for a refresher course on how to communicate with confidence and charisma. Today's guest knows all about how to be interesting and fun to talk to, especially under pressure. Kristen Carney is a stand-up comedian, comedy writer, and coach who's specialty is helping people be comfortable with others, create a positive impression, and be more confident in conversations. In this episode, you’ll learn how to create "charismatic conversations" that breathe life into relationships. Join us! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Confidence_and_charisma_-_121620_7.22_AM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 4:30pm MST |
Mon, 1 March 2021
It can be hard to trust yourself, particularly around intuition. Many of us, especially women, minimize our feelings, explain away our concerns, and doubt ourselves... to our detriment. Trusting yourself is vital to making your way confidently through the world. It's also true that not all thoughts and feelings are trustworthy. It's confusing! Being able to tell the difference between anxiety and intuition will help you trust yourself, so that you can move forward fearlessly. Learn how, join me!
Direct download: Trust_Yourself_-_11121_1.36_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 4:29pm MST |
Mon, 22 February 2021
Satisfying, stable relationships. A meaningful, prosperous career. Feeling good about yourself and your life. What do they all have in common? Emotional intelligence. Emotional intelligence is crucial for your love, happiness and success. In today's episode, find out how your emotional intelligence skills stack up, and learn actionable strategies to improve emotional intelligence — starting today. With love,
Direct download: How_to_Improve_Emotional_Intelligence__-_1621_1.25_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 3:22pm MST |
Mon, 15 February 2021
Are you in love with someone who is deeply in love with... themselves? It's exhausting to have a relationship with a selfish person. The good news is that there are different types of narcissists, and sometimes healing and growth is possible. (Maybe, for them, but definitely for YOU.) I'm tackling all your questions about narcissists on this episode including how to tell if someone is a narcissist (and what type), how to avoid subconsciously perpetuating a narcissistic relationship dynamic, when hope is possible vs. when to cut your losses, and more. Join me! P.S. This is a VAST subject. If you have lingering questions, leave them for me in the comments section of this post.
Direct download: Married_To_a_Narcissist_-_11621_8.20_AM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 4:29pm MST |
Mon, 8 February 2021
Love is love, and the bonds of attachment transcend identity. At the same time, gay and lesbian relationships face unique challenges and stressors — from without, and from within. On this episode of the podcast, my colleague, LGBTQ+ relationship-affirming marriage and family therapist Kensington Osmond shares compassionate strategies that promote growth and healing for gay and lesbian individuals and couples. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: LGBTQ_Relationship_Advice_-_121620_10.33_AM.mp3
Category:relationships, how to, mental health -- posted at: 3:46pm MST |
Mon, 1 February 2021
Are your subconscious "thinking traps" getting in the way of your finding the right person? On today's episode of the podcast, NPR's dating expert Damona Hoffman is here to help you get out of your own way and find the love you're looking for. Join us!
Direct download: Finding_The_Right_Person.mp3
Category:How to, Relationships, Self Improvement, Mental Health -- posted at: 3:12pm MST |
Mon, 25 January 2021
It's effortless for kind, competent, hard-working people to say "yes" to all the demands for their time and attention. But just because you can do something doesn't mean you should. If you're not setting healthy boundaries around your time and energy, the result can be mental and emotional depletion, burnout, and disconnection from what truly matters. Learn how — join us!
Direct download: How_to_Say_No_To_Others..._And_Yes_To_Yourself.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 2:42pm MST |
Mon, 18 January 2021
Divorce is nobody's first choice. But sometimes relationships cannot be saved, and divorcing feels like the right thing to do. While divorce is always hard, having an amicable divorce is the best possible outcome — particularly if you're going to be coparenting or sharing a business for years to come. My guest on today's episode is divorce attorney Stephanie Randall. She shares her honest advice about what getting divorced is *really* like, the biggest mistakes divorcing couples make, insight into the divorce recovery process, and drops real-world strategies for how to create an amicable divorce. If you're considering divorce (or in the thick of one) today's episode is a must listen. Be prepared to take notes! (Or get a the show-notes with Stephanie's top takeaways here: https://www.growingself.com/amicable-divorce)
Direct download: Amicable_Divorce_Collaborative_Divorce_-_101420_11.22_AM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 11 January 2021
The past year has been a uniquely stressful time for couples, but it has also been offering a slew of "micro-moments" that can make or break a relationship. Learn how to use challenges to actually strengthen your relationship. Join me!
Direct download: Grow_Together_or_Grow_Apart_-_1521_3.30_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 4 January 2021
How about this idea for a #NewYearsGoal? Learn how to practice radical self acceptance, and love yourself, for who and what you already are. Learn how to lean in, in this episode. And happy new year! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Radical_Self_Acceptance_-_121620_4.17_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 28 December 2020
On the cusp of a new year it can be easy to over-focus on constant-and-never-ending self-improvement, new goals, the next step, and all the things you have yet to achieve. But the truth is that you have already grown so much, learned so much, and done so much. Sometimes it can be more empowering to slow down and respect the enormous amount of work you already have done rather than pushing yourself. Amazing things happen when you learn to appreciate the strength, accomplishments, courage, growth, and wisdom you already possess. I'm walking you through how to tap into all that you are, on this episode. You're already incredible! xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby PS: I've created an activity for you to journal through the questions I'm asking on today's show if you'd like. Access it here: https://www.growingself.com/learn-and-grow
Direct download: Learn_and_Grow_-_121620_12.35_PM.mp3
Category:Mental Health, Self Improvement, Career, Relationships, How To -- posted at: 5:21pm MST |
Mon, 21 December 2020
In this season of gift giving, it can be easy to forget what our loved ones really want and need from us: Our unconditional love, trust, kindness, appreciation, attention, time, understanding, empathy, respect, emotional safety, and cherishing. That's what we all want! However, we cannot provide those things for anyone without first prioritizing our own wellness and personal growth. With love,
Direct download: The_Greatest_Gift_is_Your_Personal_Growth_-_121420_4.04_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Parenting, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 2:38pm MST |
Mon, 14 December 2020
If you're currently single you've probably experienced first hand the new online dating reality: Dating in the pandemic age is more complex than ever. However, there are fantastic opportunities to create healthy new relationships — if you know the pitfalls to avoid. On this episode of the podcast, get expert online dating coach advice from dating coach Markie K. She shares her top "dating advice do's and don'ts" to help you navigate the new modern dating landscape with clarity and confidence. Join us! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby PS: Get even MORE of Markie's great dating advice on the blog at GrowingSelf.com.
Direct download: Pandemic_Dating_Dos_and_Donts_-_101420_1.59_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 7 December 2020
Men crave emotional connection too. But our culture can lead boys and men towards toxic masculinity that impedes emotional intelligence, and damages emotional health (not to mention relationships!)
Direct download: What_Men_Secretly_Want_-_101420_12.20_PM.mp3
Category:Mental Health, Self Improvement, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 30 November 2020
I've had many "my relationship is on the brink, what do I do?" questions from listeners lately. When one person is half out the door, standard-issue relationship advice and conventional marriage counseling approaches can make things worse. Join me! More relationship questions? Leave them for me (and help yourself to more free resources) on the blog at GrowingSelf.com.
Direct download: Discernment_Counseling_-_111620_6.39_AM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 23 November 2020
Were you the perfect child? The clown? The scapegoat? If you weren't who your family needed you to be, did other people fall apart? Join me!
Direct download: Dysfunctional_Family_Roles_-_102120_7.35_AM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 23 November 2020
If you have anxiety about coronavirus, you’re not alone. Many people have been experiencing Covid anxiety, and understandably so. The virus is spreading, things are being canceled, schools and businesses are closing, and these are uncertain times. There's lots in the news about how to protect your physical health, but not so much info about how to protect your mental health from coronavirus-related anxiety. Help is here: On this episode I’m sharing practical strategies for how to manage Corona anxiety using helpful cognitive-behavioral strategies so that you can stay in a good place mentally and emotionally during this challenging time. Wishing you love, happiness, success and health, PS: In addition to the anxiety management strategies I shared on this episode I mentioned a couple of resources that you might use in addition to online therapy for anxiety. These include:
Direct download: Covid19-Anxiety_-_31320_7.35_AM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health -- posted at: 6:45am MST |
Mon, 23 November 2020
Dr. Lisa here, doing a swan dive into your podcast feed a little early today to let you know that if you've been experiencing a resurgence of "covid anxiety" lately, you're not alone. I'm re-releasing my "How to Cope With Covid Anxiety" podcast episode for you right now, and will be back in touch later today with a new episode. Wishing you all the best,
Direct download: Covid_Anxiety_Podcast_-_112320_8.38_AM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health -- posted at: 6:00am MST |
Mon, 9 November 2020
Long distance relationships have unique challenges, but love from a distance can work beautifully. In today's episode I'm answering your long distance relationship questions around:
P.S. If you have questions about your relationship share them in the comments of the "Long Distance Relationship Questions" post so I can answer them. While you're on GrowingSelf.com, be sure check out the other articles and podcasts we have on this topic. It's all for you!
Direct download: Love_At_A_Distance-_Long_Distance_Relationships_-_10720_12.46_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 2 November 2020
Difficult conversations are tough to have, and easy to avoid (or botch). But authentic communication is vital for healthy relationships — especially when it's about something that is really important to you. It's at times like these that productive, compassionate "critical conversations" are so crucial.
Direct download: How_to_Have_Difficult_Conversations_-_102120_4.41_AM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 26 October 2020
Time to embrace your shadow side: The part of yourself that is authentic, real, and needs to have a voice. It's so easy to disown parts of yourself, but until you reclaim them, you'll never be fully congruent or empowered. Shadow work helps you make contact with your whole self, and can lead to transformational growth. Learn how, on the latest episode of the podcast. Happy Halloween! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby PS: If you'd like to do some of the activities I shared in this episode, you can download your free "shadow work exercises" right here. GrowingSelf.com
Direct download: Shadow_Work_-_10620_3.34_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health -- posted at: 5:33pm MST |
Sun, 18 October 2020
We can all agree that the world needs more kindness right now. But the practice of meaningful, deep kindness is more challenging than you'd think. It requires empathy, intention, mindfulness and commitment. Yet the rewards of cultivating a kindness practice are enormous. Kindness mends stressed relationships, boosts self esteem, protects against depression and anxiety, and strengthens supportive friendships. Practicing kindness helps you as much as it helps others. In this episode, my guest Houston Kraft, author of "Deep Kindness," shares how to have courage and be kind, and cultivate a transformational kindness practice that will lift everyone up, including you. Tune in, and unleash the power of kindness in your life! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Be_Kind_-_10620_4.17_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Relationships, Self Improvement, Mental Health -- posted at: 9:32am MST |
Mon, 5 October 2020
If you've been stuck in a relationship with someone who is not treating you well, and who is causing you hurt, anxiety, pain and frustration, now is a wonderful time to consider leaving your toxic relationship behind... and creating a new chapter full of healing, health and happiness for yourself. On this episode I'll be discussing: - Characteristics of toxic relationships - Why toxic relationships are so addictive - Whether toxic relationships can be healed - The impact of toxic relationships - And how to end a toxic relationship, for once and for all. If you've been stuck on the terrible roller coaster of a toxic relationship, this episode is for YOU. All the best,
Direct download: How_to_Leave_a_Toxic_Relationship_With_Dignity_-_121718_3.19_PM.mp3
Category:Self Help, Relationships, Breakups -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 28 September 2020
Has it felt challenging for you to get the respect you deserve on the job? Today's episode is all about helping you gain influence and power in your professional role. My guest, executive coach and leadership coach Mory Fontinez, shares her insights for how to cultivate empowerment in the workplace — both as a striver on your way up, and as an empowering leader dedicated to cultivating talent. Join us! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Empowerment_at_Work_-_81120_3.29_PM.mp3
Category:Self Help, Career Development, Personal Growth -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 21 September 2020
Being honest with yourself is a fundamental part of authentic personal growth... but it can be hard to do. We all have blindspots, stories we tell ourselves, and things we’re not conscious of that are holding us back. Today's podcast with therapist and life coach Josephine Marin can help you get clarity about your authentic truth so that you can move forward fearlessly. xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Being_Honest_With_Yourself_-_81220_3.09_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Careers, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 14 September 2020
Do you struggle to feel like you are good enough? It's not just you: Many people — no matter how successful or accomplished — still feel like they're not *quite* measuring up. Today's episode does a deep dive into HOW to feel that you're good enough. Plus, psychologist and executive coach Dr. Lisa Orbe Austin shares how push back against self-doubt and overcome imposter syndrome. Follow along! Text ESTEEM to 55444 to get the Self Esteem Quiz discussed in this episode. xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Feeling_Good_Enough_-_81220_2.26_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Careers, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 7 September 2020
If you are feeling increasingly overwhelmed by life and trying to figure out how you’re going to juggle a zillion different things and stay on top of it all.... this episode is for you. In this episode, Denver psychologist Dr. Danielle Kahlo spills the beans on why conventional "how to get organized" tips never work for long, and how to instead focus on cultivating the type of "organized mindset" that makes everything else fall into place: Priorities, time, tasks, and stuff too. Being organized makes you less stressed and anxious, it improves your relationships, and it makes you feel better about yourself and your life. Being organized is important, and it begins from within! Listen, and learn how. xo,
Direct download: Being_Organized_-_81220_10.53_AM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Careers, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 24 August 2020
If you've been feeling trapped lately, and like you don't know which way to turn — this episode is for you. We're doing a deep dive into how to get mentally and emotionally unstuck with life and career coach Elise Ross. Listen for actionable advice and new ideas that will help you break free and start moving forward again. xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: How_to_Get_Unstuck_-_81220_10.14_AM.mp3
Category:Self Improvement, Careers, Mental Health, How To -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 17 August 2020
Are you holding on to resentment about hurtful things that have happened in the past? Is your partner? In today's episode, we’re talking about how to let go of resentment in your relationship, so that you can both move forward, put the past behind you, and start enjoying each other again. xo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Letting_Go_of_Resentment_-_81120_3.48_PM.mp3
Category:Self-Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 2:00pm MST |
Mon, 10 August 2020
If you've been feeling mentally and emotionally exhausted, and that the daily grind is relentless... you are not alone. The realities "corona-life" are wearing down even the sturdiest and most productive among us. Help is here: Today's show is all about helping you recover from burnout, reclaim control, cultivate resilience, reprioritize time and energy, and craft a sustainable "burnout prevention" plan for yourself, your career and your family. Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Preventing_Burnout_-_8520_12.52_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Parenting, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 4:22pm MST |
Sun, 2 August 2020
A listener asked, “I want to grow and move forward, but HOW?” Today, I'm giving you the inside scoop — from my perspective as a therapist and life coach — into what the process of personal growth actually involves so that YOU can move forward. We're discussing:
I hope this discussion provided you with both hope and direction as you find your own path forward. Questions or comments about this episode? Share them! "Moving Forward" @ GrowingSelf.com xo,
Direct download: Moving_Forward_-_73020_12.02_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health -- posted at: 8:44am MST |
Mon, 27 July 2020
How healthy is your self esteem? If don't feel good about YOU, it's hard stay in a good place and feel confident, hopeful, and effective. Bonus! Text the word "ESTEEM" to 55444 to get the "How Healthy is Your Self Esteem" quiz, to see where you land on the spectrum of self esteem. To growth! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Signs_of_Low_Self_Esteem_-_72720_3.01_PM.mp3
Category:Mental Health, Self Improvement, Career, Relationships, How To -- posted at: 5:08pm MST |
Mon, 20 July 2020
How do you know when it's time to break up? Knowing when to end a relationship can be confusing, especially when there are good parts — and maybe even hope for the future. Some people are clear that they're done with the relationship, but worry that the realities of single life could be harder than trudging on in the marriage. If you're in this bind, today's episode is for you. We're tackling questions like:
All that and more, plus insights, thought provoking questions, and action steps to help you move forward one way or another, on this episode of the podcast. xoxo, Comments or Questions? Share them in this post @GrowingSelf.com
Direct download: When_to_Call_it_Quits_in_a_Relationship_-_72020_1.45_PM.mp3
Category:Relationships, Mental Health, Self Improvement -- posted at: 2:13pm MST |
Mon, 13 July 2020
How do you relate to others? Are you unknowingly getting involved with people who are only going to hurt you? How do romantic partners experience you — good, bad, and ugly? How can you release self-limiting patterns in relationships so that you can create a healthy, secure, long-term connection? Understanding your attachment style can provide you with answers to all these questions. Listen and learn about attachment styles, what they mean for you, and don't forget to text "ATTACH" to 55444 to get the Attachment Style Assessment to uncover your own patterns in relationships. All for you, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Understand_Your_Attachment_Style_-_71320_4.50_PM.mp3
Category:relationships, how to, mental health -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 6 July 2020
Are you in a relationship with someone who has issues they're not getting help for? It is painful to watch someone you love struggle, and it's also frustrating when you're not getting your needs met in a relationship. How do you help someone who won't help themselves? How long do you wait? When does being "supportive" slide into being "codependent?" When do you call it quits and move on? All that and more, on this episode. Wishing you all the best,
Direct download: Does_Your_Partner_Have_a_Problem_-_31317_12.02_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 29 June 2020
Are you seeking to increase your social circle with true-blue friends who have your back? (And weed out the selfish people who take more than they give?) On today's episode of the Love, Happiness & Success podcast, Val Walker is here to share expert advice for how to cultivate relationships with friends you can count on. In this emotionally intimate interview, Val talks about the moment she realized she had "400 Friends & No One To Call" (the title of her latest book), and how it launched her intentional, successful creation of a supportive community of meaningful friendships. Val has so much fantastic advice to share with you for how to build up a community of support for yourself. I hope you listen! xoxo,
Direct download: Friends_You_Can_Count_On_-_61520_3.06_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 12:19pm MST |
Mon, 22 June 2020
Most busy professionals feel they don't have the luxury to "just hang out." Yet investing in healthy friendships is one of the single most impactful things you can do to improve your mental, emotional, and even physical health. To support YOU in your understanding of the importance of healthy friendships, and to deepen you understanding of what it really takes to build supportive relationships in your life, I’ve invited science journalist and author Lydia Denworth to speak with me about her new book, “Friendship: The Evolution, Biology, and Extraordinary Power of Life’s Fundamental Bond.” She shares what her painstaking research has uncovered about why friendships are so important to us, the risks of neglecting your friendships, the impact of friendships on children and adolescents, and — perhaps most importantly — concrete strategies for how to build and nurture your friendships during social distancing. Listen, and learn about the importance of healthy friendship and how to build strong friendship connections in your own life.
Direct download: The_Importance_of_Healthy_Friendship_-_62220_10.54_AM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 11:55am MST |
Mon, 15 June 2020
How to Deal With Cultural Differences in a RelationshipAs a marriage counselor and couples therapist l know that all relationships bring a variety of challenges and opportunities for growth. At the same time, some couples — particularly those in cross-cultural relationships — feel that they have further to go in bridging the gap. It’s very easy for couples to get entrenched in conflict rooted in a core belief of “right and wrong” when it comes to how to approach various aspects of their shared life. This can be especially true around hot-button issues such as:
To tackle these questions, and provide some direction for how to begin building bridges to the center, I’ve asked some multicultural relationship experts to join me for this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. Growing Self relationship coaches Dr. Georgiana Spradling, MFT, Tania Chikhani, M.A, and Teresa Thomas, M.A. often work with cross-cultural couples and interracial couples, and have great relationship advice for how to create peace and harmony in your gloriously diverse family. All the best,
Direct download: Love_Without_Borders-_Navigating_Cross_Cultural_Relationships_-_61020_2.40_PM.mp3
Category:Relationships, Self Improvement, Mental Health -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 8 June 2020
We are living in historic times. In the midst of a global pandemic, our country is also fighting another battle: One that seeks to shine a light on injustice and systemic racism, end abuse and discrimination of Black Americans and other people of color, and begin the hard work of healing. This reality brings up questions that need to be answered:
Growing Self therapists Teresa Thomas, M.S., and Zachary Gaiter, M.S., LPCC tackle these questions and more, on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. Join us!
Direct download: Fight_Racism_Part_1-_Hope_Healing_and_Empowerment__-_6820_4.05_PM.mp3
Category:Mental Health, Relationships, Social Justice, Self Improvement, Relationships -- posted at: 4:19pm MST |
Mon, 1 June 2020
If you're still thinking about your Ex, and wishing you could heal, let go, and move on, today's Episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast is for you. We're discussing:
Your partner in growth,
Direct download: Cant_Stop_Thinking_About_Ex_-_93019_1.43_PM.mp3
Category:Self-Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 25 May 2020
We all hear “You have to love yourself first.” But what if you don't know how to love yourself? This episode is all about authentic self love: What it really means, why having compassion and care for yourself matters so much, and how to love yourself even if (and especially if) you don't always feel like it. You are worthy of love and respect, and today's podcast will help you build your relationship... with yourself. With love and gratitude for the gift that is YOU, xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby P.S. — For even more support in creating a healthy, loving relationship with yourself, check out my “cultivating self-confidence” collection. You'll find articles and advice about confidence and self-esteem, plus podcast playlists I put together for you.
Direct download: How_to_Love_Yourself_rerecord_-_Final_Cut_-_Second_Draft.mp3
Category:Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 18 May 2020
Feeling Trapped? When you're in a situation you're unhappy in but feel that the exits are blocked and that you have no good options, it's easy to feel trapped. Perhaps you're in an unhappy relationship, but can't leave. Or you feel forced to stay in a job you hate. Or your circumstances are limiting your empowerment and growth. When change feels futile, or impossible, it's easy to feel helpless, disempowered, and trapped. Does this sound familiar at all? If so, you're not alone. We all hit a wall sometimes. The good news is that there is a way out. Through using your creativity and giving yourself permission to entertain new thoughts, you'll either find new solutions... or inner peace. Listen, and learn about how to get unstuck when you're feeling trapped on this episode of the podcast. Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: How_to_Get_Unstuck_.mp3
Category:Mental Health, Self Improvement, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 11 May 2020
Is your partner threatening divorce? Are you? If so this is certainly a relationship crisis... but not necessarily the end. In fact, when couples are on the brink of divorce, it can be a turning point for a marriage. On this episode, I'm sharing some from-the-heart advice learned from my years as a marriage counselor about things you can do to stop this runaway train, and have new conversations with your partner to start the process of healing. I am also aware that there are situations where you cannot stop a divorce if your partner has made up their mind. I also have some advice for how to handle this, and offer some concrete strategies for having the healthiest and most collaborative parting as possible. I hope that all the advice helps you find your way through this confusing, and scary time, and that the path forward is one of growth for you -- no matter how things unfold. With love and respect, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Prevent_a_Divorce_and_Save_Your_Marriage_-_11817_3.31_PM.mp3
Category:Relationships, Mental Health, Self Improvement -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 20 April 2020
Intentional Living: Without and WithinOn this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast (as well as other episodes to come), I'm providing you with new ideas and growth activities that will help you move yourself forward on a deep level, while the world around us stops. To begin, I'm speaking with my dear Olivia, the mastermind behind Decluttered Intentions, about simple things you can do to:
I hope that these ideas and activities help YOU use this special, quiet time to move forward on your journey of growth. All the best, Ps: One of the resources I mentioned in this episode is my "What's Holding You Back" assessment, that gives you insight into your personal strengths and growth opportunities in a variety of domains. Text "GROW" to 55444 if you'd like to take it. xoxo, LMB
Direct download: INTENTIONAL_LIVING_AT_HOME_-_4720_3.51_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 13 April 2020
FINDING BALANCE: We want to have everything. We want and need to have rules and structure to protect us and guide our lives. Yet we also crave freedom and independence. We long to have empathy and compassion in our relationships,but we also want to be challenged so that we can grow. Finding Balance In All ThingsTight vs. Loose. Protective vs. Forgiving. Planning vs. Being Present. Everything we do exists on a continuum, a spectrum of finding balance between extremes so that we can create a healthy path on every level. Dr. Michele Gelfand is the author of "Rule Makers, Rule Breakers: How Tight and Loose Cultures Wire Our World," she's been on the stage of TedEx, she's been featured on The Hidden Brain podcast, and now she's here with me to share her wisdom with YOU. I hope her fascinating insights help you find a healthy balance in your life. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Finding_blalance_3_-_4820_9.06_AM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 6 April 2020
Let's face it: Couples and money is a hot-button issue for many relationships. Sooner or later, all successful long-term couples need to work together to figure out how to communicate productively about money so that they can get on the same page and create a shared financial future. This is not always easy under the best of circumstances. Now, many couples are facing financial uncertainty or even a financial crisis (thanks coronavirus). It's more important than ever to be working as a united team around finances so that your relationship stays strong and healthy... even if your bank account takes a hit. To help you have constructive, drama free conversations about money with your partner, I've invited my colleague Meagan Terry to give us the scoop on exactly what to do (and what NOT to do) in order to have loving, respectful, and effective conversations about finances that create unity and connection. Meagan is a highly experienced marriage counselor who has helped countless couples stop financial conflict and get on the same page around money. Now she's here for YOU. Listen, and get her actionable tips you can start using today! With love, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Money_and_Love-_Couple_Finances_-_4620_4.32_PM.mp3
Category:Self Improvement, Relationships, Mental Health -- posted at: 4:54pm MST |
Mon, 30 March 2020
ADVICE FROM A CAREER COACH | In addition to everything else in your life being upended by the coronavirus pandemic, you probably have a slew of new "coronavirus career anxieties" in addition to the usual coronavirus anxiety that's buzzing inside everyone right now. Many people are very worried about their career future right now. Many jobs have been lost to coronavirus, and with the threat of recession, there may be more layoffs to come. (Read: Coping With a Layoff) For those among us lucky enough to have stable employment, we now figure out how to maintain our professionalism via online video meetings, work from home while balancing childcare, homeschooling and more. In times like these it's absolutely normal to be worried about work, and help is here. Advice From a Career CoachToday I've tapped a couple of my career coaching colleagues to discuss important questions like:
Join us for some timely coronavirus career advice on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Career_Coronavirus_Job_Loss_-_32920_11.59_AM.mp3
Category:Self Help, Career Development, Personal Growth -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 16 March 2020
Coronavirus anxiety? Struggling with the new reality of "Corona Life?" You're not alone. I recently polled some of my tribe on Instagram to see how they were doing mentally and emotionally during the Coronavirus crisis we are all experiencing together. In efforts to help you manage Coronavirus anxiety and cultivate emotional resilience, I am devoting this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast to addressing your questions about coping with "Coronavirus Life" in order to provide new ideas and direction. Specifically:
I'm answering these listener questions and sharing some special, free resources for my listeners (You!!) on this episode. I hope this discussion and the resources I'm sharing helps you find new coping skills, and practices that help build a firm foundation of emotional resilience inside yourself right now. Wishing you all the best,
Direct download: Coronavirus_Life-_How_to_Cope_-_31620_4.25_PM.mp3
Category:Self-Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 5:21pm MST |
Mon, 9 March 2020
Knowing how to handle inevitable issues that creep into every relationship makes all the difference in whether your relationship becomes stronger over time... or strained. The truth is that all couples need to learn "how" to do relationships, and there are a few core skills that are essential. My guests today are expert premarital counselors who are sharing their best advice for the things every couple must do to keep their relationship strong and healthy for the long haul. Whether you're in a newly committed relationship or have been married for years, I hope you listen to this episode! xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Premarital_Counseling_Interview_-_3520_1.11_PM.mp3
Category:relationships, how to, mental health -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 2 March 2020
Do you feel like it's hard to manage the stress of it all? If you're like so many of our high-achieving type-A life coaching and therapy clients here at Growing Self, you probably have days when you're feeling spread thin. How do you create a sustainable way of being that allows you to not just do the things that you need to do but manage your life in such a way that you don't constantly feel like a frantic stress-ball? My guest on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, Marilyn Paul, PhD, is here to show us how. Listen to get insights and tips, and compassionate, empowering ideas that you can use ASAP to cultivate calm and order in your life, so that you can feel genuinely stress free from the inside out. Your partner in growth,
Direct download: Stay_Stress_Free_GB_-_3220_4.05_PM.mp3
Category:How to, Self Improvement, Mental Health -- posted at: 4:37pm MST |
Fri, 28 February 2020
Super quick announcement to let you know that, due to some unforeseen technical issues, the "How Healthy is Your Relationship" Quiz I've mentioned on a number of podcasts is now available by texting RELQUIZ to 33777. The old number (345345) is no longer operational as of 2/28/20. You can also access the quiz on the GrowingSelf.com website. I hope this change did not create any confusion or inconvenience for you. Okay, that's all -- I'll be back in touch with a new *actual* podcast for you on Monday! xoxo, LMB |
Mon, 24 February 2020
LEAVING a TOXIC RELATIONSHIP? Or thinking about it? If so, my heart goes out to you: You've already been through the wringer. As a therapist who specializes in toxic relationship addiction, and having researched and written a breakup recovery book, I know from years of experience that when you're addicted to a toxic relationship, it messes with your mind. Toxic relationships trash your self esteem. They damage your ability to trust. But even worse, after tolerating months or even years in a toxic relationship it can make you feel like you can't even trust your own judgement anymore. In order to provide you with the empowering support and perspective that can support YOUR growth and recovery, I've invited writer Shannon Ashley to join me on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. Shannon is not the type of "official" relationship expert that I often have on the show — she's so much more. She's a fellow traveler who has walked through the fire, and come out the other side. She has been able to give a voice to the experience that you're going through, and she has a unique perspective on what it really takes to heal from a toxic relationship. I'm so pleased that she's here to share her hard won wisdom with YOU today. Wishing you all the best,
Direct download: Leaving_Toxic_Relationship_-_2620_2.40_PM.mp3
Category:Relationships, Self Improvement, Mental Health -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 17 February 2020
There's a unique type of existential anxiety brewing in younger professionals lately who consider their career future and wonder, "Are robots coming for my job?" To help you move forward fearlessly into a bright professional future, I've invited future-focused career coach Nicolle Merrill to speak with us. She's here today to share her best future career advice with you, including:
All that and more, as we discuss YOUR career future on the latest episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. xoxo, Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Career_Future_Final.mp3
Category:Mental Health, Self Improvement, Career, Relationships -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 10 February 2020
If you want to create a fantastic relationship, there's one irreplaceable ingredient that you must have: Emotional safety. If you have emotional safety everything from communication to intimacy feels so much easier. But without it, everything feels like a battle. Today, on the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast, I'm going to share the secrets behind how to create emotional safety in your relationship. We'll be discussing:
Happy Valentine's Day! Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby PS: If you want to take the free "How Healthy is Your Relationship" assessment I mention in this episode, text RELQUIZ to 345345 to get the link.
Direct download: Emotional_Safety_Final_-_2620_10.29_AM.mp3
Category:Self Improvement, Relationships, Mental Health -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 3 February 2020
If you started the new year with ambitious goals and aspirations that are already on life-support, or have been abandoned altogether: CONGRATULATIONS. Only now do you have the real-world information you need to reassess your situation, gain more clarity, and tweak your approach. To help you figure out how to achieve your most ambitious goals for real, I've invited master life coach Laurie Gerber of The Handel Group to share her tips for how to use setbacks to understand yourself more deeply, and shine a spotlight on the mental, emotional and practical strategies that will help you achieve your most ambitious goals. Listen and learn:
I hope that this conversation helps YOU dig deeper, get into alignment, and get clarity about where to refocus your energy. PS: We discussed a number of resources in this episode. One of them is our free Ten Year Plan exercise. If you haven't done this yet, here's the link to get the pdf or access to the online version.
Direct download: Audio_How_to_Achieve_Your_Most_Ambitious_Goals_-_2320_2.47_PM.mp3
Category:Self Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships, Career -- posted at: 3:37pm MST |
Mon, 27 January 2020
The path to wellness can be a long and challenging one if you're dealing with a chronic health condition... particularly one that does not have an obvious cause or simple solution. Dealing with these kinds of health issues requires an enormous amount of strength, courage, and persistence — all of which can be hard to come by when you're at a low point, physically. If you or someone you love is going through this, help is here. My colleague at Growing Self, Amy-Noelle Shih, M.A., LPC is a holistic, empowering therapist and life coach who specializes in supporting people on their journey back to health, and is sharing her empowering advice with you on this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success Podcast. All for you... Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: Path_To_Wellness_Final_-_1720_1.15_PM.mp3
Category:Self Improvement, Health, Mental Health -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 20 January 2020
How would you describe your relationship... with money? Secure? Anxious? Toxic? Neglected? Or... Easy? We all carry subconscious thoughts, feelings and values around money that impact our way of relating to it. Financial therapy helps you uncover these powerful inner forces, so that you can create a healthy money mindset so that you can feel empowered and in control of your finances. Financial therapy for couples helps you stop the "money fights" and get on the same page with your partner around money. Today's guest, financial therapist Jennifer Dunkle, is here to explain how YOU can develop a healthy money mindset — both individually, and as a couple — so that you can achieve your financial goals.
Direct download: Money_Mindset_Final_-_1820_6.35_AM.mp3
Category:Self Improvement, Relationships, Mental Health -- posted at: 10:00am MST |
Mon, 13 January 2020
Human beings are built to bond — but we can also develop powerful bonds to unhelpful behaviors, toxic people, and even substances of abuse. Understanding the power of connection can help you break unhealthy attachments, and cultivate empowering, energizing new ones. Here's how... Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby
Direct download: The_Power_of_Connection_Final_-_1720_2.54_PM.mp3
Category:Self-Improvement, Mental Health, Relationships -- posted at: 10:00am MST |